Having The Chats with Peter and Sophia

We left two couches in Sligo… and somehow ended up recording this from two couches in Bali. Life is wild.
In this episode of Having the Chats with Peter and Sophia, we cover:Peter nearly breaking himself in Crocs “sport mode”Slipping on moss like it’s an Olympic eventBooking a dreamy jungle villa… that came with bonus wildlife (including a rat who clearly paid no rent)Why you absolutely bring your head with you wherever you travel
The reality of “finding yourself in Bali” (spoiler: you might also find your nervous system having a meltdown)
There’s laughs, lessons, a few unexpected deep moments, and the reminder that real love isn’t the sunset Instagram version — it’s riding out the storm when the jungle gets a bit too real.
We also chat about the beautiful people we’ve met, spontaneous connections, and why sometimes you just have to say the thing instead of overthinking it.
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Next stop… Thailand 👀

In this deeply honest and empowering episode of Having the Chats with Peter and Sophia, we are joined by Sarah and Sandra, the founders of TABB for Women - a global online community supporting women to transform their relationship with alcohol and build lives they truly love.
TABB stands for Take a Break from Booze and Thriving and Amplifying Beyond Booze - and that is exactly what this conversation is about.
We explore:
Why language matters in recovery
Why women need safe, women-only spaces
The difference between just stopping drinking and truly healing
Shame, identity, co-dependency and self-worth
Why recovery doesn’t have to fit into one box or one model
How community, connection and compassion change everything
Sarah and Sandra share their own lived experience, their journey into sobriety, and how TABB for Women was born from a desire to create a space where women can land safely, grow at their own pace, and thrive beyond alcohol.
This is a conversation about empowerment, choice, healing, accountability, and building a life that no longer needs escape.If you or someone you love is questioning their relationship with alcohol, this episode is for you.
You are not broken.You are not alone.And there is another way.
Find out more about TAB for Women at:
www.tabbforwomen.comInstagram: @tabb_for_women

In this deeply honest episode of Having The Chats with Peter and Sophia, Sophia speaks openly about the torment of feeling pushed away by the people she loved, and the emotional weight that comes with rejection, grief, and healing old wounds.
We also share the excitement and the sadness behind our move to Bali - navigating the emotional pull of leaving loved ones while stepping into a new chapter. We talk candidly about our experiences with plant medicine, the emotions it stirred, and what it taught us about connection, loss, and self-compassion.
Peter reflects on what Christmas can be like for people in recovery - the loneliness, the triggers, the quiet battles - and offers grounded, compassionate insight into how friends and family can truly support loved ones during this time.
This is a conversation about love, grief, growth, and staying connected - even when change hurts.

In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Peter and Sophia open up about healing in real time- not the polished version, but the messy, honest, beautifully human reality of recovering from trauma, addiction, dissociation, and destructive cycles.

Together they explore:

What spirituality really is (and isn’t)
Coming to terms with who you are as a survivor - across every age and version of yourself
What it’s like being in a relationship when both partners have lived through abuse, triggers, and emotional shutdowns - and how they communicate through it
Revisiting childhood memories, flashbacks, and the painful reconnection with the inner child
Ego, masks, and why the body protects itself even long into adulthood
Attachment wounds, early neglect, and learning how to soothe the self from the inside out
The ripple effect of generational trauma and the weight of one person's actions across decades
The resurfacing of old memories during healing practices and the body’s instinct to protect itself from vulnerability
Burnout, emotional collapse, and the frightening experience of losing connection with yourself completely
Why destructive behaviours, addiction, and escape make sense in the context of severe childhood trauma - and how survival mechanisms become lifelong patterns

This episode is heavy, real, and full of moments most people never talk about, but should.

It’s a conversation about love after trauma, about healing that isn’t linear, and about finding your way back to yourself piece by piece.

If you’ve lived through trauma, dissociation, relationship struggles, addiction, or inner-child wounds… this episode will sit deeply with you.

In this powerful and deeply emotional episode of Having the Chats with Peter & Sophia, we sit down with Professor Marie Keenan.
World-renowned restorative justice practitioner, psychotherapist, and researcher.
Together, we explore the life-changing impact of restorative justice in cases of sexual violence.
Sophia shares her own transformative journey of sitting face-to-face with her father in a restorative process that became a turning point in her healing.
Peter opens up about how that experience changed his own understanding of justice and humanity.
Professor Keenan offers profound insight into how restorative justice challenges conventional legal systems, centers the voice of the survivor, and facilitates deep accountability and healing, even in the most complex and painful circumstances.
This episode is not only a conversation, it’s an invitation to rethink justice, healing, and what it means to take our power back.
Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual violence, trauma, and personal stories of abuse. Please listen with care.
📚 Professor Keenan’s book Sexual Violence and Restorative Justice: Addressing the Justice Gap is available free online — https://www.researchgate.net/publication/380756032_Sexual_Violence_and_Restorative_Justice_Addressing_the_Justice_Gap
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