Mastering Midlife with Heidi

• 66. Are You Subtly Trying to Prove You’re Good Enough? 15 People-Pleasing Behaviors Keeping You Stuck in Guilt & Self Doubt

  Are you the one always trying? Always giving? Does your inner voice whisper, "No matter what - it's never enough!" So you try harder and give more. You may think you're just being helpful, easygoing, or kind—but underneath it all, you might be working overtime to prove you're good enough. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 15 people-pleasing behaviors that are secretly fueled by fear, guilt, and the deep need to be seen as “good.”Learn why these habits lead to burnout, resentment, and disconnectionSpot the subtle ways you’ve been abandoning yourself to avoid rejectionGet 3 simple steps to start letting go of guilt and honoring your needsLet’s talk about what these people-pleasing "nice" habits are really costing you in your peace, energy, and self worth... and how to start setting boundaries without guilt or self doubt. Take the free Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquizIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minMore resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-communitySend us a text

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• 65. People Pleasing Is a Trap and ‘Sorry’ Is the Bait; What to Say Instead of Apologizing

  What if saying “sorry” isn’t kindness — but self-doubt in disguise? And what if the key to less doubt and more respect is simply choosing a new way to speak? In this episode, I'm showing you why "sorry" isn't creating the connection you think it is—and why it's actually making things worse.Here's what you'll learn:Why apologizing when you've done nothing wrong destroys your confidenceHow saying "sorry" is a trap to avoid feeling guiltyWhy over-apologizing pushes people away instead of bringing them closer and,Exact phrases to use instead of "sorry"If you people please, saying "sorry" is like trying to comb your hair with a hammer. It's the wrong tool!Take the free Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquizIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minMore resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-communitySend us a text

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• 64. Why You Feel Invisible When You’re Always the Helper, Fixer, or Peacekeeper; This Disconnects You From Your Value

  Do you show up one way with others, but feel completely different inside, maybe even the polar opposite of what others see in you? In this episode, I’m revealing what causes us to be this way and how this disconnection leaves us feeling small and invisible.Listen to hear:how the pain of always being what others needed (the helper, the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the “good” girl) disconnects us from ourselves,why it feels safer to be what others want, andhow learning to put other people first causes us to seek external validation in midlifeWhat causes us to continually shape-shift to fit in with others? And what’s the one key thing that’s needed to stop? That’s what you’ll learn in this episode.The one common thing I’ve seen in everyone who prioritizes OTHER people over themselves is a struggle to protect their OWN needs. That’s exactly why I created the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz so you can see for yourself. It’s a set of statements that you rate yourself on and the quiz helps you uncover where your boundaries might be leaky without you even realizing it.  Download the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz here: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquizIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at [email protected] or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minMore resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-communitySend us a text

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• 63. Love Isn’t Earned & Neither Is Your Worth or Value: How People Pleasers Mistake Approval for Love

  Do  you say yes when you REALLY wanna say no — just to avoid disappointing someone? Or say no, but then immediately feel guilty?Yeah… the guilt? It’s not about that moment — it’s about a deeper belief you probably don't realize you’re carrying.In this episode, we’re unpacking why so many women end up chasing approval without realizing it… and how that need to be liked or seen as “good” keeps us stuck in people-pleasing patterns that feel like love, but aren’t.We’ll cover:Why disappointing others feels so unsafe — and what it’s really tied toHow approval became a stand-in for love (and how to spot where it's still happening)What it looks like to give yourself unconditional love — instead of earning it through self-sacrificeThis one’s for the woman who’s tired of twisting herself into knots to feel worthy — and is ready to write a new story.If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at [email protected] or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minMore resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-communitySend us a text

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• 62. Why People Pleasers Overshare; Regain Your Inner Peace & Power in 4 Steps

  Do you ever walk away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say all that?” You’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with you. Oversharing is a sneaky people-pleasing habit that feels like connection… but usually leaves us feeling exposed, regretful, or misunderstood. I'm breaking down why we do it — and how to quit this habit to take back your peace and power.In this episode you’ll learn:5 hidden reasons people pleasers overshare (and none of them mean you’re broken)How your urge to explain everything is actually about self-trustA personal story of a boundary that changed the course of my life4 powerful ways to start protecting your energy without losing your warmthThis one’s for the person who’s tired of handing out their heart like a business card — and is ready to feel safe keeping some things sacred.If you'd like to know more about what 1:1 coaching looks like, please email me at [email protected] or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minVisit my YouTube channel for more resources: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide - 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-communitySend us a text

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