Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
Michelle Kenney, M. Ed
Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and...
Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time for connection? Between work, household tasks, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to let quality time with our kids slip to the bottom of our priorities. But what if I told you that focusing on connection first actually makes everything else run smoother?Today, I’m exploring a mindset shift that can transform parenting, prioritizing connection over productivity. We live in a world that glorifies busyness, but at what cost? I explore why deep, meaningful relationships with our kids should come first and how that shift leads to more cooperation, smoother days, and stronger bonds. Listen in for five ways to ensure connection is an integral part of your parenting. In This EpisodeWhy busyness isn’t the same as successThe power of prioritizing connection firstHow natural consequences teach better than punishmentsWhy homework shouldn’t take priority over relationshipsThe long-term benefits of focusing on connection========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent
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Case Study: What If Your Teen Doesn’t Want Connection?
What if your teen rejected every attempt at connection? You’ve ditched punishments and bribes, but now your child is pushing back harder than ever. Is it even working? Today, I sit down with Tova, a mother of four, who’s navigating the tricky transition from traditional parenting to connection-based parenting, especially with her resistant teens.Tova has seen beautiful changes in her younger twins since implementing connective parenting, but her older teen daughters aren’t responding the same way. We dive deep into why trust takes time, what “progress” really looks like, and how to stay the course when your teen meets your efforts with eye rolls and rejection. I share my personal experiences raising teens, offering strategies that shift the dynamic. If you've ever felt stuck wondering whether connection is really working, this episode is for you.In This EpisodeWhy teens resist connection at firstSigns that your approach is workingHow to stay patient through rejectionUsing humor to defuse power strugglesThe problem with punishments and bribesBuilding true cooperation in your home========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent
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Why Connective Parenting Feels Like It's Failing (and How to Make It Work)
Ever feel like connection-based parenting just isn’t working? You try play, empathy, and special time, but your child still melts down, refuses to listen, or lashes out. Does that mean connective parenting has failed? Today, I break down the biggest misconceptions about connective parenting, including why it’s often confused with permissiveness, why quick fixes don’t work, and why consistency matters more than perfection.If you've ever wondered why punishments seem to “work” faster or felt frustrated that your efforts aren’t yielding immediate results, this episode will help you reframe your expectations and find the patience to stick with it. Parenting is a long game, and while the process can be messy, the relationships we build through connection are worth it.In This EpisodeWhy quick fixes don’t create lasting changeThe difference between connection and permissivenessHow punishments create short-term compliance, not true cooperationWhy using all the tools consistently is keyThe long-term benefits of choosing connectionA real-life story of connection turning conflict into cooperation========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent
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Case Study: Lessons from Our First Certification Cohort
Are traditional parenting strategies leaving you frustrated? In this episode, I sit down with Erica, a relationship coach, adoptive mom, and one of the first graduates of the Peace and Parenting Certification Program. Erica shares how shifting from consequences to connection has transformed her family and her coaching practice.Throughout our conversation, we dive into the challenges of unlearning traditional discipline methods, the importance of play in fostering attachment, and how this approach is particularly impactful for adoptive families. Erica opens up about the struggles and breakthroughs in her parenting journey—how moving away from punishments led to stronger bonds, and how her husband’s relationship with their children has flourished through simple but powerful shifts in connection.If you’ve ever doubted whether prioritizing connection over control can truly work, this episode will inspire you. You’ll hear real-life experiences, tangible takeaways, and insights from our certification program that could change the way you parent.In This EpisodeHow connection reshaped Erica’s parentingThe role of play in building attachmentWhy punishments and rewards don’t workThe transformation in Erica’s family dynamicsInsights from the Peace and Parenting certificationHow parenting support reduces shame and isolation========🔗 Become a Certified Peace and Parenting Coach and empower parents to transform their homes with connection, empathy, and understanding.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent
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System Restraint Collapse: The Hidden Cause of Your Child’s After-School Meltdowns
Have you ever wondered why your child seems to hold it together all day but falls apart the moment they get home? Today, we explore the concept of system restraint collapse and how understanding this phenomenon can help us better support our children.I share my personal experience with my freshman daughter, Esme, and a recent surprising event during the holidays where I discovered that even older kids can experience system restraint collapse. Plus, I’ll offer some practical ways to help minimize system restraint collapse with your own children, ensuring you support them in the healthiest way possible. In This EpisodeWhat is system restraint collapse?Handling after-school meltdowns with calmStrategies to stay regulated ourselvesThe role of empathy in parentingAvoiding shame during emotional outburstsImportance of presence over discussion during tantrums========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent
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About Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits?Welcome to Peace and Parenting! Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are entirely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through solo episodes and interviews with experts and other struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.
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