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🎙️ What Are You Thirsty For?

What If Your Drinking Problem Is Also an Under-Feeling Problem?

Host: Lynette le Roux | Life & Recovery Coach
Podcast: Tribe Sober
Music: “Remember” by Sutherland 🎵 (Intro & Outro)

🦋 Episode Summary

What are you really thirsty for when you reach for a drink?

Relief? Connection? Celebration? Permission to rest? Or simply a few minutes of peace from your own thinking?

In this episode, Lynette challenges us to look beyond alcohol and explore something deeper: our relationship with our emotions.

We don’t only drink when we’re unhappy. Sometimes we drink when we’re celebrating, excited or feeling wonderful.

What if we’ve become so accustomed to changing our emotional state that we’ve forgotten how to simply experience it?

Drawing on real conversations from the Tribe Sober community and neuroscience, Lynette explores why the urge to drink is often less about alcohol and more about what we’ve learned to do with our feelings.

💡 Key Insights & Nuggets

🌴 The Beautiful Palm Tree That Became Dangerous

How an innocent moment beside a swimming pool became a potential catastrophe—and what this reveals about our unsupervised minds.

How many beautiful palm trees have you turned into dangerous trees today?

🧠 Your Brain Is Always Looking for Danger

Our minds can turn ordinary circumstances into perceived threats, creating physical sensations of anxiety, tension and urgency.

By the end of the day, we’re exhausted—not necessarily by what happened, but by everything we’ve imagined might happen.

🍷 The Brain Learns What to Want

Alcohol can become associated with relief from stress, but also with pleasure, excitement and celebration.

The brain learns through repetition, and wanting something doesn’t necessarily mean it will give us what we need.

❤️ We Are Overthinking and Under-Feeling

We’ve become skilled at analysing our emotions but less practised at experiencing them.

Recovery invites us to move beyond the story in our heads and become curious about the sensations in our bodies.

✨ An Urge Is Not an Instruction

Real stories from the Tribe Sober community remind us that we don’t have to eliminate discomfort before making a different choice.

We can feel nervous and still participate in life.

We can experience an urge without acting on it.

We can celebrate without alcohol.

✍️ Reflection Questions

The next time you notice the desire to drink, pause and ask yourself:

What am I actually thirsty for? Relief, rest, connection, celebration or something else?

What am I feeling in my body? Notice the sensations before getting caught up in the story.

What is my mind telling me about this feeling? Is there a genuine problem to solve, or another dangerous palm tree?

🌱 The Takeaway

An urge is not an instruction.
A feeling is not an emergency.

And you don’t have to escape your life to experience relief.

Perhaps the real work of recovery isn’t simply learning how to live without alcohol.

Perhaps it’s learning how to live with ourselves.

💌 Work With Lynette

If you’re ready to move beyond simply not drinking and begin understanding your emotional patterns, I’d love to support you.

Through one-to-one coaching and my Path to Purpose membership, I help people develop emotional awareness, build resilience and create meaningful, fulfilling lives beyond alcohol.

📧 Email: lynette@llrcoaching.com
🌐 Website: https://www.tribesober.com/

🎵 Music Credits

Intro & Outro: “Remember” by Sutherland

Thank you for listening to the Tribe Sober podcast. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear it.

Stay curious. Stay connected. And keep discovering what you’re really thirsty for. ❤️

The Loneliest Cell: When the Shortcut Becomes More Compelling Than Life
Tribe Sober Podcast with Lynette Magrid le Roux

🎵 Intro & Outro Music: “Remember” by Sutherland

Episode Summary
What happens when the shortcut becomes more compelling than life itself?

In this episode, Lynette explores ideas sparked by Dr Zach Bush’s conversation with Joe Rogan — beginning with his provocative description of cancer as “the loneliest cell in the human body.”

From there, we travel to the Ecuadorian Amazon and the story Bush tells of the Achuar people: a community that lived for thousands of years in deep relationship with the forest, with little concept of scarcity or poverty — until the arrival of the modern world and, surprisingly, a box of apple juice.

That story opens up a much bigger conversation about addiction.

What happens when something manufactured begins to compete with what once naturally nourished us?

Alcohol offers exactly that kind of shortcut.

Confidence without building confidence.

Relaxation without learning to regulate ourselves.

Connection without vulnerability.

Relief without having to move through discomfort.

And alcohol isn’t the only “apple juice” available to us. Our modern world offers endless ways to change our state immediately — scrolling, shopping, food, work, gambling, entertainment and constant stimulation.

The question becomes not simply “How do I stop?”

But:

What is this substituting for?

Key Insights & Nuggets

Dr Zach Bush’s provocative image of “the loneliest cell.”

The Achuar people and what their relationship with the Amazon can teach us about enough.

The extraordinary story of the boxed apple juice — and the power of concentrated, immediate reward.

Why the danger may lie not only in the substance, but in the substitution.

How modern life has dramatically shortened the distance between wanting and gratification.

Immediate state change: “I don’t like how I feel. Change it.”

The difference between stimulation and nourishment.

How communication has become increasingly abstract — and what may be lost when human experience is reduced to screens, text and emojis.

Dr Julia DiGangi’s powerful reminder: We are always feeling our lives.

The addiction cycle: isolation feeds consumption; consumption feeds isolation.

Why removing alcohol may not be enough if we haven’t rediscovered what genuinely nourishes us.

Recovery as recovering our appetite for the real thing.

Two Questions to Take With You
What is your apple juice?

Where has a shortcut, substitute or quick state-change quietly become more compelling than the real experience underneath it?

And then:

What is your forest?

What genuinely nourishes you?

Not what stimulates you.
Not what distracts you.
Not what impresses anyone else.

What brings you back into relationship with yourself, other people, your body, nature and the experience of being alive?

Perhaps recovery isn’t only about removing the substitute.

Perhaps it’s about rediscovering the forest.

Work With Lynette
If this episode resonated with you and you’re beginning to question your relationship with alcohol — or you’ve stopped drinking but want to create a life that feels richer, more connected and genuinely yours — I work with people privately through LLR Coaching.

My coaching goes beyond simply “not drinking.” Together, we explore the patterns underneath the behaviour, build your capacity to navigate discomfort without escaping it, and create the emotional tools, self-trust and connection that support lasting change.

Email: lynette@llrcoaching.com

I’d love to hear from you.

🎵 Intro & Outro Music: “Remember” — Sutherland

On last weeks podcast I talked you through the Breaking Free course in detail so do have a listen if you missed it

I recently hosted a discussion on Zoom with four Breaking Free graduates which will give you a real insight into the results that people are getting…

On the podcast you'll hear the soundtrack from that discussion

So if you want to be sure of a place on the next BF program which kicks off soon then please sign up today as places are filling up fast

You can sign up for Breaking Free here

More Info

Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.

To access our website, click HERE.

If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.

If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.

 

Episode Sponsor

This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today
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On this weeks solo episode I talk about our 6 week Breaking Free program which we run just three times a year. 

Registration for the current program is open   - more info on tribesober.com

We limit each Breaking Free group to 20 so you’ll always get personal attention

In this episode:-

I talk about the warning signs of alcohol dependence as well as the benefits of an alcohol free lifestyle

The Breaking Free program has four components…

Four pieces of a puzzle that come together to create a transformation…

The first piece of the puzzle is Community Support so we connect you with the other people on the Breaking Free program

 We put you in a chatgroup with where you’ll also find some TS team members to answer any questions you may have

You'll also be invited to several Zoom meetings every week

The second piece is our online course which includes videos, podcasts, articles and book recommendations so you’ll be able to throw the book at your sobriety – you’ll be able to treat it as a 6 week project that will take a deep dive into psychology, biology and neuroscience - a project that will change the trajectory of your future.

The third part of the puzzle is the personal support. 

You’ll have a 1.2.1 Zoom call with Monica who will explain how everything work and help you with any tech issues

Mid-way through the 3 month program you'll have a session with Coach Lynette to review learnings so far

A final session with our Coach Darren who will discuss how you are applying the theory of the Breaking Free program to your daily life

So that’s the four pieces of our Breaking Free puzzle, four pieces that will come together to create an alcohol free lifestyle that you love..

The fourth part of the puzzle is our brand new AI tool JanetGPT - Tribe Sober in your pocket, available 24/7

Apart from creating a program that will get results we’ve created a program that is flexible and will fit in with your busy lives…. 

All of the 1.2.1’s can be scheduled to suit your convenience, the online course can be worked through at your own pace 

While we’re on the subject of time that’s one of the unexpected benefits of sobriety….. when we no longer spend time drinking and recovering from the drinking we find ourselves with extra time on our hands….

As well as the energy to do something constructive with that time!

Registration for the current Breaking Free program is open - more info on tribesober.com

More Info

Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.

To access our website, click HERE.

If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.

If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.

 

Episode Sponsor

This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today
Read more about our program and subscribe HERE

Help us to Spread the Word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts.

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This weeks guest is… Tribe Sober Coach Darren

Darren came to our Masterclass a few years ago…and hasn’t had a drink since!

In this episode:-

Darren started drinking at the age of 13

His drinking escalated during university years, influenced by the heavy drinking culture which is prevalent in Northern Ireland

Darrens drinking began to impact his life:-  
Struggled to maintain some of his responsibilities like paying rent. 
He experienced severe blackouts and embarrassing incidents at social events.  
He damaged relationships as a result of his drinking

Darren’s Turning Point was a wedding which led to a realization about the damage he was doing to his relationships

His Partner’s comment about him having an issue with alcohol made him realise he had to make a choice

So he decided to quit

Even though he’d been a heavy drinker for a couple of decades he was able to quit by attending a 3-hour Tribe Sober Masterclass

He also listened to podcasts, read the quitlit and connected with our community via the whatsapp groups and Zoom meetings

Darren got curious about underlying reasons for his drinking and began addressing his self-esteem issues.

He realised that alcohol was adding nothing but trouble to his life…and that without it he was experiencing many benefits 
He gained clarity, self-compassion, and a renewed sense of identity. 
His relationships improved, especially with his partner, who expressed pride and renewed love.  
Darren felt empowered and inspired to help others on their sobriety journey so he trained as a Coach

He gave us a nice analogy about recovery being similar to an athlete healing from an injury: a temporary phase followed by ongoing management.

His website is called "www.pauserecovery.com" and his email address is darren@pauserecovery.com

Darrens Advice for Others wanting to quit drinking:   
start small,  listen to podcasts and explore the QuitLit.
get curious and reframe sobriety as freedom, not deprivation
join Tribe Sober!

More Info

Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.

To access our website, click HERE.

If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.

If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.

 

Episode Sponsor

This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today
Read more about our program and subscribe here

Bootcamp on Demand

         To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here

 

Help us to Spread the Word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts.

Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you!

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram.

You can join our private Facebook group HERE.

PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device)

Open the Podcasts app. EASY.

Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.

Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).

Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.

Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).