Hit Save On That w/ Wendy Rivera

Is being your authentic self the highest goal you could have?
I used to think so. But I've come to believe the answer goes a lot deeper than that.
In this episode I'm unpacking something I hear all the time — from stylists, from friends, from people in relationships — that moment when someone says, that just doesn't feel like me. And I want to gently push back on that, because authentic doesn't mean finished. It means where you are right now.
A toddler throwing a fit over dropped ice cream is being completely authentic. That doesn't mean we stop there.
Your natural responses are a starting point — not a finish line. And the moment we use authenticity as a reason to stop growing, we stop serving the people around us. We stop leading. We stop loving.
The most self-focused people hurt others constantly — and don't even realize it. The most loving people give constantly — and become stronger for it.
That's not a coincidence. That's how love works.
Stretch to your fullest self. That's where your most authentic self actually lives.
-Wendy ❤️

Have you ever sat in training and spent the whole time looking for the things you already do?
That's not learning. That's hiding in plain sight.
In this episode I'm talking about one of the most common things I see when coaching stylists — and honestly, when coaching anyone who wants to grow. The comfort zone doesn't just hold you back. It convinces you that staying put is the wise choice.
We'll cover:
Why the instinct to feel safe can be the very thing stopping you from helping people
The difference between wanting to be liked and actually wanting to help
How to prepare mentally, physically, and emotionally before you stretch
Why your results don't lie — and what to do when they're telling you something uncomfortable
This isn't about being perfect. It's about being willing. Willing to try something outside of what feels familiar. Willing to play to win — and when you lose, learn.
Because more is possible. And somewhere in your same shop, with your same stock, another stylist is proving it.
The question is — are you ready to be that stylist?

Twenty-two years ago today, a younger guy grabbed my pinky across a table and said three things that changed everything about how I understand love.
I love you. We're on the same side. And we're gonna figure this out.
In this episode I'm sharing what Gabe taught me — not from a lecture or a book, but from the way he lived it out right in front of me from the very beginning. Three principles from our earliest days together that have shaped how I lead, how I love, and how I show up for brides and teams every single day.
Leaders take the risk to be vulnerable first. The best decisions are made where your head and your heart meet. And love isn't proven in the easy moments — it's proven in the conflict.
If you've ever been afraid to speak up in a relationship. If you've ever clammed up when disagreement showed up. If you've ever wondered what it actually looks like when someone loves you well —
This one's for you.
Happy 22nd, Gabe. I love you. 💛
-Wendy ❤️

You believe in people. You see their potential. You keep pouring in, hoping they'll grow.
But what if they can't?
In this episode I'm sharing nine things you need to know to recognize a narcissist — on your team, above you, next to you, or in your personal life — before you pour any more of yourself into a black hole.
We'll cover:
Why community to a narcissist means worshippers, not equals
How they use triangulation to control every relationship around them
What to do when they cry victim, assign false motivations, or show out at life's biggest moments
Why staying calm and succinct is your most powerful move
The one thing you should always do before a conversation with them
This episode is not about going to war. It's about staying free — knowing exactly where their power ends and yours begins.
Clarity is a gift. And this one is full of it.

When you interview a potential employee, date a potential mate, or are analyzing whether a friend is one you should get closer to, or sever ties with, how can you know if that person is operating from a foundation of love? And what happens when they're not? You can spend years trying to make a relationship work with someone who was never building from the same foundation. In business, that can cost you time and money, and so much more because of the damage done to the people in your care. In our personal lives, staying in relationships that continually weaken us - quietly costing us our confidence, clarity, freedom, and even our ability to recognize what healthy relationships are.
In this eye-opening episode, Wendy's exploring the difference between love and manipulation and the signs that reveal what someone is truly building from. Because love does not cause you to feel smaller, afraid, confused or dependent. It embraces who you were created to be. It frees, empowers, supports, and clarifies. If you've ever questioned where you stand in a relationship (whether personal or professional) this one is for you!
Love is not searching for what it can take from you. Instead, love asks, "How can I help you become more?"
So def Hit Save and use this helpful list as a framework the next time you need to gauge whether someone is the right fit for what you are trying to create in your life! This list can change the way you interview for your business, the agency you have in relationships, and guide your steps in becoming all that God made you to become!
Can’t wait to hear your thoughts!