Uninvited Guests - Conflict Resolution: How to Fight Fair in Your Marriage, Part 2
What is the single biggest source of conflict in your marriage right now? Join Chip as he teaches you how to fight fair in marriage.What I learned on the sandlot from the “Barnes Boys”Conflict is normal, it's an opportunity for growth, it must be diffused or it will destroy, and it demands rules so no one gets hurtGod’s perspective on conflict:Conflict is inevitable in a fallen world. -Jn. 16:33Conflict flows from our differences and our selfishness. -Jms. 4:1-3Conflict is an opportunity for growth. -Phil. 2:1-4The most common communication styles:Turtles: The goal is to avoid.Sharks: The goal is to win.How to diffuse conflict in your marriage:D: DEFINE the problem (on your own). -Pr. 15:14 I: INITIATE a time to talk. -Matt. 5:23-24F: FOCUS on the “perceived” problem, not the person. -Pr. 18:19 F: FEEL their pain. -Pr. 17:17U: UNCOVER the root problem. -Pr. 20:5S: SET things right between you. -Jms. 5:16E: ESTABLISH a specific action plan that addresses the issue discussed. -Jms. 1:22-25Broadcast ResourceDownload Free MP3Message NotesAdditional Resource MentionsMarriage Truth Cards Offer"Uninvited Guests" ResourcesConnect888-333-6003WebsiteChip Ingram AppInstagramFacebookTwitterPartner With UsDonate Online888-333-6003
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Uninvited Guests - Conflict Resolution: How to Fight Fair in Your Marriage, Part 1
What is the single biggest source of conflict in your marriage right now? Join Chip as he teaches you how to fight fair in marriage.What I learned on the sandlot from the “Barnes Boys”Conflict is normal, it's an opportunity for growth, it must be diffused or it will destroy, and it demands rules so no one gets hurtGod’s perspective on conflict:Conflict is inevitable in a fallen world. -Jn. 16:33Conflict flows from our differences and our selfishness. -Jms. 4:1-3Conflict is an opportunity for growth. -Phil. 2:1-4The most common communication styles:Turtles: The goal is to avoid.Sharks: The goal is to win.How to diffuse conflict in your marriage:D: DEFINE the problem (on your own). -Pr. 15:14 I: INITIATE a time to talk. -Matt. 5:23-24F: FOCUS on the “perceived” problem, not the person. -Pr. 18:19 F: FEEL their pain. -Pr. 17:17U: UNCOVER the root problem. -Pr. 20:5S: SET things right between you. -Jms. 5:16E: ESTABLISH a specific action plan that addresses the issue discussed. -Jms. 1:22-25Broadcast ResourceDownload Free MP3Message NotesAdditional Resource MentionsMarriage Truth Cards Offer"Uninvited Guests" ResourcesConnect888-333-6003WebsiteChip Ingram AppInstagramFacebookTwitterPartner With UsDonate Online888-333-6003
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Uninvited Guests - How to Share Hearts Instead of Words, Part 2
In this message, Chip explains how you can improve the communication in your marriage. Communication is the highway on which love travels. Chip shares how you can start building your own relational super highway.Understanding the communication process:Definition: The meeting of MEANINGS.“Communication is the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities.” -Norman Wright“Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in such a way that the other person can both accept and understand what you are saying.” -Norman WrightThe complete messageWords alone = 7% of meaningTone of voice = 38% of meaningFacial expression, gestures, posture, total non-verbal = 55% of meaning5 Principles that will transform communication in your home:BE HONEST - Speak the truth in love. -Ephesians 4:15, 25BE ANGRY- Deal with anger appropriately. -Ephesians 4:26-27BE DILIGENT - Work hard on your relationship. -Ephesians 4:28BE POSITIVE - Don’t wound with your words. -Ephesians 4:29-31BE FORGIVING - Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” -Ephesians 4:32Practical skills and suggestions to enhance communication in your home:The conference - A tool for listening. Ask Three Questions:What are you concerned about?What do you desire?What are you willing to do?Word pictures - A tool for understanding“Care” lists - A tool for building: List seven simple, loving, “caring behaviors” that are non-conflict producing and not expensive that make you feel loved by your spouse.Broadcast ResourceDownload Free MP3Message NotesAdditional Resource MentionsMarriage Truth Cards Offer"Uninvited Guests" ResourcesConnect888-333-6003WebsiteChip Ingram AppInstagramFacebookTwitterPartner With UsDonate Online888-333-6003
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Uninvited Guests - How to Share Hearts Instead of Words, Part 1
This message focuses on a candid look at communication. If you want to learn how to improve the communication in your marriage, to share hearts instead of just exchanging words, then join Chip.Understanding the communication process: Definition: The meeting of MEANINGS.“Communication is the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities.” -Norman Wright“Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in such a way that the other person can both accept and understand what you are saying.” -Norman WrightThe complete messageWords alone = 7% of meaningTone of voice = 38% of meaningFacial expression, gestures, posture, total non-verbal = 55% of meaning5 Principles that will transform communication in your home:BE HONEST - Speak the truth in love. -Ephesians 4:15, 25BE ANGRY- Deal with anger appropriately. -Ephesians 4:26-27BE DILIGENT - Work hard on your relationship. -Ephesians 4:28BE POSITIVE - Don’t wound with your words. -Ephesians 4:29-31BE FORGIVING - Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” -Ephesians 4:32Practical skills and suggestions to enhance communication in your home:The conference - A tool for listening. Ask Three Questions: What are you concerned about?What do you desire?What are you willing to do?Word pictures - A tool for understanding“Care” lists - A tool for building: List seven simple, loving, “caring behaviors” that are non-conflict producing and not expensive that make you feel loved by your spouse.Broadcast ResourceDownload Free MP3Message NotesAdditional Resource MentionsMarriage Truth Cards Offer"Uninvited Guests" ResourcesConnect888-333-6003WebsiteChip Ingram AppInstagramFacebookTwitterPartner With UsDonate Online888-333-6003
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Uninvited Guests - Three Skills Great Marriages Have in Common
Have you ever forgiven someone who hurt you, only to have resentful feelings begin to fester a short time later? How does that scenario change when it is your spouse who caused you pain? In this program, Chip explains why forgiveness is a powerful skill couples need to harness. Learn about the dangers of unresolved conflict in relationships and the freedom that comes when you genuinely say, “I forgive you.”Introduction:The foundation of a great family begins with a deep, intimate marriage.Three skills for a great marriage:Skill #1: FORGIVINGSkill #2: COMMUNICATIONSkill #3: RESOLVING CONFLICTForgiveness – What it’s not and what it is:Forgiveness is NOT a quick fix or an excuse to be a “doormat” by repeatedly accepting hurtful behavior without addressing the root issuesForgiveness IS a spiritual discipline that involves three distinct parts:It’s a DECISIONIt’s a PROCESSIt actually is ACCOMPLISHEDThe parable of the unforgiving servant:Matthew 18:21-35Three-part method for forgiveness:Act: Choose to forgive.Process: Actively pray and bless the person with your words and actions.Accomplished: The true test of forgiveness is when you can genuinely rejoice in the other person’s success and well-being.Broadcast ResourceDownload Free MP3Message NotesAdditional Resource MentionsMarriage Truth Cards Offer"Uninvited Guests" ResourcesConnect888-333-6003WebsiteChip Ingram AppInstagramFacebookTwitterPartner With UsDonate Online888-333-6003
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Discovering the Bible's answers is the focus of Living on the Edge, the broadcast ministry of Chip Ingram. Each week, Chip will take you to God's Word for biblical guidance on topics like being a follower of Jesus, strengthening your marriage, understanding love and sex, raising moral children, and overcoming painful emotions. Chip also shares honestly from his own experiences. Visit us online at https://LivingontheEdge.org.
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