Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.

• When Your Body Finally Says No: Chronic Stress, Hormones, and Redefining Success in Midlife with Lisa Corduff

  Your body has been trying to tell you something for a while now. The persistent low mood you keep attributing to stress. The exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix. The feeling that no matter how well you take care of yourself, you're still running on fumes. What if it's not willpower you're missing? What if your body is finally saying no to a version of success that's costing you everything? Lisa Corduff's Story Lisa Corduff built a million-dollar business while her life was falling apart behind the scenes. Her husband Nick was struggling with addiction and mental health. She was solo parenting three young kids. And her business became the one place that felt purposeful when everything else was chaos. She was creating non-stop. Documenting everything. Showing up in all the places because that's what successful entrepreneurs do, right? The frantic energy matched what was happening in her real life. And then Nick died in 2019. Lisa was 40 years old with three kids aged 5, 7, and 8, and she kept going because that's what you do when you're the only parent and three kids are depending on you. But here's what nobody tells you about chronic stress: your body keeps the score. For years, Lisa would wake up every morning with her nervous system spiking, wondering "what's today going to bring?" She couldn't get back to sleep. Her system was wired for threat. And even after the acute crisis passed, her body remembered. This year, everything shifted. At 45, Lisa finally got answers she didn't know she needed - ADHD and autism diagnoses that suddenly made her entire life make sense. She discovered her estrogen levels were tanked despite doing everything "right" - morning walks, good food, sleep hygiene, all of it. She realized that what she'd been calling stress was actually perimenopause masked by legitimate life chaos. And she had to make a choice: keep running the frantic version of success she'd built, or completely redefine what success means when you're no longer willing to sacrifice your nervous system, your presence with your teenage kids, or your actual life for revenue targets. In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Lisa reveals: Why she went completely quiet this year after being one of the most visible entrepreneurs online for over a decade The moment she realized her persistent low mood wasn't just grief or stress - it was disappearing estrogen What getting diagnosed with ADHD and autism in her 40s taught her about the hustle she'd been celebrated for How chronic stress from years of managing addiction, solo parenting, and business building dysregulated her nervous system (and why it didn't matter how well she took care of herself) The shift from million-dollar years to redefining success around presence with her teenage kids Why she had to let go of the "prove yourself through content" model and become what she calls a "lighthouse voice" What it's really like to advocate for your own health when doctors dismiss perimenopausal women as overreacting to social media trends How neurodivergence (ADHD + autism) shows up differently in high-achieving women who've learned to mask The hidden cost of being everyone's rock while quietly crumbling inside Why grief and addiction are the "unsexy topics" we need to talk about more What happens when you finally honor your needs instead of overriding them with willpower How to know when it's time to let go even when everything in you wants to fight to hang on This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt like your body is screaming at you, but you keep pushing through with willpower Wondered why you're exhausted despite doing all the "right things" for your health Built impressive success, but it doesn't feel the way you thought it would Questioned whether the hustle is actually worth what it's costing you Felt trapped between the business you built and the life you actually want to live Attributed chronic stress symptoms to "just having a lot going on" instead of hormones Struggled with persistent low mood that nothing seems to fix Been told by doctors that your symptoms are "just stress" or "normal aging" Felt like you're the only parent carrying it all while trying to build something meaningful Wondered who you are when you're not performing or proving anymore Realized the version of success that got you here won't get you where you want to go Known you need to let go but everything in you wants to hold on tighter About Lisa Corduff Lisa Corduff is a successful entrepreneur, speaker, and writer currently exploring the complexities of "this moment in time" on her podcast Conversations with Lisa. A powerful storyteller, she teaches experts, coaches, thought-leaders, and business owners who want to stand out online how to expertly weave stories into their content for greater impact, connection, and trust. She believes storytelling is, as it always has been, an essential skill for our times. Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacorduff.com Instagram: @lisacorduff Facebook: Lisa Corduff Podcast: Conversations with Lisa Grief Notes is the perfect support on your grief journey What’s the Story teaches business owners how to grow their impact and make more sales using the power of storytelling Back to You in Midlife is eight powerful exercises for women who have found themselves lost and disconnected from themselves in midlife. Ready to stop overriding your body's messages and start honoring what it's trying to tell you? This conversation between Lisa Corduff and me isn't just about hormones or business strategy. It's about the wake-up call that comes when your body finally says no to a version of success built on chronic stress, over-functioning, and pushing through at all costs. Maybe you've been attributing your exhaustion to "just being busy." Maybe you've been telling yourself the persistent low mood will pass once things calm down. Maybe you've been white-knuckling your way through because you don't know another way to operate. But here's what Lisa and I both learned the hard way: you can't out-discipline a dysregulated nervous system. You can't out-supplement tanked hormones. And you can't build sustainable success while abandoning yourself in the process. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in chronic stress, the cost of continuing to override your body's messages, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that doesn't require you to sacrifice your health, your presence, or who you're becoming. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good - it finally feels right. Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

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• Love Without Losing Yourself: Redefining What Self-Love and Real Love Actually Mean

  Everyone talks about self-love like it's a destination you reach after enough bubble baths and affirmations. But what if the real work of loving yourself is learning to stop abandoning who you are every time you enter a relationship? What if being "the loving one" has actually cost you more than you've been willing to admit? In this raw, solo episode, Lisa dismantles everything you thought you knew about unconditional love, self-love, and what it takes to be in a healthy relationship without losing yourself in the process. She challenges the narrative that many of us, especially women, were raised with: that being loving means holding it all together, forgiving everything, and sacrificing yourself to make it work. Drawing from her own journey of overgiving, abandoning herself, and ultimately setting boundaries in her current relationship after a major wake-up call, Lisa reveals why unconditional love has a place (with your children) but becomes toxic when applied to adult romantic relationships. She breaks down the difference between compassion for someone's humanity and tolerating harmful behavior, between loving someone deeply and staying when it costs you who you are. This isn't about becoming cold or withholding love. It's about understanding that healthy love, both with yourself and others, requires discernment, reciprocity, and boundaries. It's about learning to meet yourself with the same compassion you've been giving everyone else, and recognizing that the relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint for every relationship you'll ever have. In this episode, Lisa reveals: Why unconditional love in romantic relationships often means you're abandoning yourself (and calling it devotion) The specific cost of overgiving in relationships and how it erodes your self-trust How forgiveness without repair is just using spirituality to avoid reality The difference between loving someone's humanity and having conditions for access, partnership, and intimacy Why boundaries don't block love, they protect it (and make love sustainable) What healthy, mature love actually looks like: reciprocal, boundaried, grounded, accountable, spacious, and intentional How to recognize when you're mistaking tolerance for love and endurance for devotion The only real antidote to shame (and why most high-achievers struggle to give it to themselves) Why self-integrity, keeping promises to yourself, is the foundation of self-love and self-trust How to love someone deeply and still walk away if staying costs you who you are The reflection questions that will show you exactly where you're out of alignment in your relationships This episode is for you if you've ever: Found yourself overgiving in relationships, always being the one who repairs, carries, and sacrifices Believed that being loving meant forgiving everything without requiring accountability or repair Lost yourself in a relationship because you were so focused on not losing the other person Said yes to things you didn't want to do, shrinking yourself to be liked or chosen Felt resentful in your relationship but kept telling yourself you just need to be more loving Struggled to set boundaries because you equated boundaries with being cold or withholding Extended endless compassion to others but met yourself with criticism when you fell short Wondered why you can show up with such compassion for everyone else but can't seem to give it to yourself Built a relationship that looks good on the outside but inside you've abandoned who you are Knew you needed to leave a relationship but kept staying because you loved them (even though it was costing you everything) About Lisa Carpenter Lisa Carpenter is a Master Life Coach and host of the Congruent podcast. She works with ambitious, Type A professionals, executives, and entrepreneurs who look successful on the outside but feel exhausted, unfulfilled, or like it's never enough on the inside. Through her signature Congruency Loop™ process, Lisa helps clients stop living in Doing Mode and create success that feels as good as it looks. Find her at lisacarpenter.ca and on Instagram and LinkedIn @lisacarpentercoaching. Ready to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love? If you heard yourself in this episode, if you recognized the pattern of overgiving and calling it devotion, if you've been mistaking tolerance for love and endurance for commitment, it's time to get honest about what this is costing you. Because here's the truth: you can love someone with your whole heart and still feel unseen, unsafe, and disconnected. You can love someone deeply and still completely lose yourself in the process. And the highest form of love has to include you. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the relationships you've built and what you're actually feeling inside them. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in overgiving, the wounds driving your need to earn love through sacrifice, and what it's going to take for you to finally create relationships (including the one with yourself) that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. In 15 minutes, we'll pinpoint where you're abandoning yourself, what's driving that pattern, and the single biggest shift that will change everything. Because you didn't come this far to keep losing yourself in every relationship you enter. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the relationships you're in don't require you to disappear. Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside starts with you including yourself in the love you give.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

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• The Hidden Cost of Financial Control: Why Successful Women Still Feel Broke with Lisa Chastain

  You've done everything right. The degree, the career, the salary that finally exceeds what your parents made. You're checking all the boxes. But if you're honest, you still feel broke. Not because your bank account is empty, but because you never feel safe with money. You're controlling, budgeting, tracking every dollar, and somehow it still doesn't feel like enough. That constant financial anxiety? That's not about your numbers. It's about the unworthiness conversation running underneath every money decision you make. Lisa Chastain grew up blue-collar on a dirt road in Las Vegas, watching her dad never make more than $60,000 a year. She did what good girls do: got the degree, landed the job with the 401k and health insurance, bought a house at 24, married at 25, had her kid at 28. She was winning. Until she wasn't. When her husband lost his job nine months after she left her career to stay home, everything unraveled. The $100,000 in her 401k? Drained trying to hold it all together and start her financial advisor business. The perfect marriage? Hiding active addiction and chaos. The life that looked so good from the outside? Completely unsustainable on the inside. Lisa spent years trying to control her way to safety—budgeting harder, fixing her husband, making herself smaller, believing if she just did more, it would finally feel secure. But control was never the answer. The real work was healing the "not enough" conversation that made her use money to prove her worth, use debt to fill voids that weren't fillable with things, and stay in toxic situations because leaving felt like failure. Through divorce, a public rebound relationship with another addict, and what she calls her "come to Jesus moment," Lisa rebuilt her entire relationship with money. She stopped budgeting. She redefined success beyond bank account balances. She learned to use debt strategically instead of shamefully. And she made it her mission to help other women do the same—because financial shame keeps successful women stuck in scarcity longer than actual money problems ever could. Today, Lisa is a nationally recognized personal finance coach, bestselling author of Stop Budgeting, Start Living, host of The Real Money Podcast, and the woman teaching thousands of women how to stop controlling money and start trusting themselves with it.   In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Lisa reveals: Why budgeting is actually a control mechanism designed to keep women feeling ashamed of their financial decisions (and what to do instead) The hidden cost of financial control: how trying to manage every dollar keeps you feeling broke no matter how much you make Why debt isn't the problem—the unworthiness conversation driving your spending is How men are championed for using debt strategically while women are shamed for having $5,000 on a credit card The real reason successful women still live paycheck to paycheck despite good salaries: they're banking out of emotion, not data Why money amplifies who you already are (and what happens when you put money on top of an "unworthy" story) How to build self-trust with money through financial forecasting instead of white-knuckling a budget The generational shame women carry around money ownership and decision-making (and why it wasn't even legal for women to own their own accounts until less than 100 years ago) What redefining success actually looks like when you stop attaching it to external markers The exact moment Lisa realized she was the problem—and also the solution   This episode is for you if you've ever: Done everything "right" financially but still feel like you're one emergency away from falling apart Felt successful on paper but broke in your nervous system—constantly anxious about money no matter what your bank account says Controlled and budgeted your way through life only to realize you still don't feel safe with money Carried shame about debt, spending decisions, or financial mistakes that men would be championed for taking Made good money but somehow still felt like it was never enough Used spending or debt to fill a void that wasn't actually fillable with things Known you should feel more financially secure than you do, but the anxiety won't go away Realized you're trying to control money because you don't trust yourself with it   Guest Bio Lisa Chastain is a nationally recognized Personal Finance Coach and bestselling author with over 20 years of experience helping women take control of their money. Featured in CNBC, O – The Oprah Magazine, Fortune, Business Insider, and Forbes, Lisa is known for her fresh, no-shame approach to financial empowerment. After burning through $100,000 and nearly going broke, she rebuilt her life and made it her mission to help women fix their finances—without rigid budgets. In 2016, she launched her coaching business to teach women how to track money intentionally, invest wisely, and create sustainable wealth. Today, she's the host of The Real Money Podcast and the bestselling author of Stop Budgeting, Start Living, which challenges outdated money rules and inspires financial confidence. Lisa's work focuses on money mindset, leadership, and financial emotional intelligence, guiding clients and organizations to achieve long-term stability and freedom. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, NBC News, MSN Money, Fortune, and Entrepreneur Magazine, and was named one of Las Vegas Women Magazine's "People to Watch." Find Lisa: Website: lisachastain.com Podcast: The Real Money Podcast: https://lisachastain.com/podcast/ Book: Stop Budgeting, Start Living: Transform Your Money Mindset, Transform Your Life (available on Amazon) Instagram: @realmoneywithlisa  90-Day Money Bootcamp launching quarterly 4-Day Intensive Healing Retreats   Ready to stop controlling money and start trusting yourself with it? If Lisa's story hit close to home, it's because you're carrying the same pattern: doing everything right, checking all the boxes, making good money, but still feeling broke, unsafe, and like it's never enough. Here's the truth: That anxiety isn't about your bank account balance. It's about the unworthiness conversation running underneath every financial decision you make. The shame you carry about debt. The belief that if you just budget harder, control tighter, manage better, you'll finally feel safe. But control is never the answer. Self-trust is. You're exhausted from white-knuckling your way through your financial life. You're collapsing into bed at night, mind racing about money, even though objectively you're doing fine. You snap at your partner about spending. You feel guilty every time you buy something for yourself. You've built a life that looks successful on the outside, but inside it doesn't feel congruent. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the financial success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in financial control instead of self-trust, the wounds driving your relationship with money, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about budgeting harder. This isn't about more spreadsheets. This is about healing the "not enough" story that's been running your financial life since childhood—so you can finally step into the version of you who trusts herself with money, makes decisions from abundance instead of scarcity, and redefines success on your own terms. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

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• When Being Strong and Capable Becomes Your Prison: Learning to Soften Without Losing Your Edge with Manja Horner

  What if your greatest strength is actually your prison? What if the capability everyone admires, the drive that built your success, the resilience that got you through everything, is the very thing keeping you exhausted, overwhelmed, and unable to let anything be easy? Manja Horner learned early that she couldn't be a bother. With an older sister battling cancer and parents stretched beyond capacity, four-year-old Manja absorbed a profound lesson: be strong, be capable, never add to the burden. That pattern of over-functioning became her operating system, driving her to perfectionism, straight A's, a full-ride scholarship, and eventually a high-powered corporate career at BMO's Institute for Learning. On the outside, Manja was killing it. Executive track. Great salary. Respect. Security. But when she was asked to pour months of her life into a project she didn't believe in, something shifted. She walked away from the comfort, the salary, the stability, because her integrity mattered more than her safety. She sold a rental property to fund her business, had three small kids, and her husband, a police officer whose core values are security and stability, watched his wife blow up their predictable life. Fast forward to today: Manja runs a thriving learning and development company serving the skilled trades industry, she's pioneering AI applications to capture retiring tradespeople's wisdom, she's writing a book, raising three kids, doing somatic therapy, acupuncture, and EMDR to heal childhood wounds. She's accomplished, capable, and deeply successful. And her biggest challenge? Learning that ease is safe. Learning to soften without losing her edge. Learning that she doesn't have to make everything uncomfortable just because comfort feels dangerous. In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Manja reveals: The hidden cost of learning "don't be a bother" as a child and how it shows up as chronic over-functioning in adulthood Why perfectionism isn't about excellence, it's about not being judged (and how she's learning to iterate instead) The moment she walked away from corporate security because integrity mattered more than safety, and what that cost her marriage How being "intimidating" is often just armor for women who never learned they're allowed to take up space Why driven, ambitious women gravitate toward discomfort because ease actually doesn't feel safe in their nervous system The somatic reality of high-functioning freeze and what it takes to finally soften How therapy, EMDR, and the Big Leap helped her expand her capacity for joy, ease, and contentment Why "it is what it is" is a cop-out sentence that keeps you stuck in patterns you could actually change What it means to be the strong, capable one everyone relies on while quietly crumbling under the weight of your own standards The marriage work required when one partner's core value is security and the other can't stop shaking the cage This episode is for you if you've ever: Been told you're intimidating when you're just trying to belong Left a room wondering if you were "too much" or took up too much space Walked away from security because staying would have cost you your integrity Found yourself making things harder than they need to be because ease feels unsafe Collapsed into bed exhausted while your mind races through tomorrow's to-do list Snapped at the people you love most after a long day of holding it together for everyone else Wondered why you can't just relax, chill out, or enjoy the success you've built Been praised for your strength while secretly feeling trapped by your own capability Known you're over-functioning but can't figure out how to stop without everything falling apart Guest Bio Manja Horner is a learning experience strategist and trusted advisor to companies who want to transform their business with training and team procedures and processes in a seamless, digital and easy-to-implement system. As founder of Boost, she's on a mission to create amazing employee experiences and get results for leaders in the skilled trades. She helps clients in the skilled trades and construction create inspiring, enriching, and all-encompassing experiences for better employee retention, integration, and education. Manja is also the author of the forthcoming book Passing the Torch in the Trades and a former corporate learning executive at a leading financial institution who left security to build a business rooted in integrity and impact. Find Manja on: Instagram: @Manja_horner LinkedIn Boost   Ready to stop making everything harder than it needs to be? If Manja's story landed, it's because you recognize yourself in it. You're strong, capable, the one everyone turns to. You've built something impressive. But you're exhausted. You can't remember the last time something felt easy. And the idea of softening, of allowing ease, of not carrying it all? It terrifies you because doing feels safer than being. Here's what nobody tells you: Your strength isn't the problem. Your capability isn't the problem. The problem is that you learned a long time ago that being a burden wasn't safe, so you became the opposite. You became the rock. And now you're carrying weight that was never yours to carry. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and the exhaustion you're feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, the childhood wounds driving your need to never be a bother, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about doing more or being better. This is about learning that ease is safe. That softening doesn't mean losing your edge. That you can be strong AND allow support. That you can be capable AND let things be easy. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

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• The Hidden Cost of Watching Your Mom Overwork with Emma Jory

  You're over-giving because you're terrified no one will see your value. You know you're doing it. You're even aware it's exhausting you. But awareness without understanding why you do it? That just fuels the shame cycle. Emma came to this coaching session with a question about imposter syndrome. Twenty-five years of teaching, consistently getting great results with her clients, and still doubting whether she's doing enough or good enough. Still uncomfortable asking for money. Still over-giving in every session because maybe, just maybe, if she gives enough, they'll finally see her value. But here's what I don't coach to: I don't coach to imposter syndrome. I coach to the operating system underneath producing that symptom. Within minutes, we uncovered what was really running the show. Emma watched her mom overwork her entire childhood. Watched her put herself last, neglect her health, tie her worth to productivity, and never value herself. Emma loved her mom. So she learned this is what you do. You work until you're exhausted. You give until there's nothing left. You prove your value through doing. And now, decades later, Emma's middle-aged, looking in the mirror, and seeing her mom staring back at her.   In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Emma through: Why she's been working so hard to get her clients' acceptance and what part of her is driving that hustle for approval The exact moment she realized she's been modeling her mom's pattern of tying worth to productivity without even knowing she picked it up How loving someone who couldn't value themselves creates an unconscious loyalty to suffering—and why it feels like betrayal to treat yourself better than they treated themselves The practice of emotional neutrality when asking for money so she can witness the discomfort without letting it run her choices Why "I want more money" and "I want freedom" are abstract goals that keep high-achievers trapped in chasing their tail instead of actually creating what they want How to stop recreating your parent's life and become the conscious creator of your own by getting crystal clear on your values and boundaries The tool for parenting the part of you that innocently picked up misinformed stories about your value—so you can take different action even while feeling uncomfortable This episode is for you if: You've built success but still feel like you have to over-give to prove your value You're aware of your patterns but can't seem to change them, which just makes you feel more shame You watched a parent sacrifice themselves through overwork and now you're doing the same thing You're uncomfortable asking for money even though you deliver exceptional results You chase "more money" or "freedom" but never feel like you're actually getting there You want to understand what it's like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms This is what it sounds like to work with a coach who doesn't address what you think the problem is. I go after the beliefs and identity driving the behavior. If you've been telling yourself it's just imposter syndrome when it's actually about worthiness, tune in.   Ready to explore your own patterns? What pattern are you repeating that you watched growing up? What are you getting from over-giving, from tying your worth to productivity, from staying exhausted, that you won't admit? Emma came in thinking we'd coach on imposter syndrome. But the real work was uncovering the operating system underneath that was running her life. And I'm willing to bet there's an operating system running yours too. If you're done perpetuating the suffering, if you're ready to stop recreating what you watched and start becoming the conscious creator of your own life, book a free Congruency Audit with my team at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence. What pattern are you ready to stop repeating?   Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacarpenter.ca Podcast: lisacarpenter.ca/podcast Coaching + Retreats: lisacarpenter.ca/coachingretreat   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.  

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