The Selfish Woman

What if your life isn't random? 
In this episode, I sit down with numerologist Ann Perry to break down what your numbers reveal about you, and how they shape your relationships, your patterns, and the way you move through the world. 
We also dive into: 
What if your soul chose this life? 
What if the challenges you've faced weren't random...but selected? 
And how do you hold that idea without dismissing real pain or turning it into toxic positivity? 
 
What You'll Learn: 
What numerology is, and why it works 
How your numbers influence your identity and decision-making 
Why you keep repeating the sane relationship dynamics 
How to better understand your kids, partner and coworkers 
The controversial idea that your soul chose this life (and what that really means) 
How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself 
Links: 
Ann Perry's website: https://www.annperrynumerologist.com
 
Ann's book: https://amzn.to/4icbFsq
 
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nwkCP4v_atI?si=QjWGaBPy7zNER2jy
 
 
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Why do you keep overthinking decisions when you already know what to do? 
In this episode I break down why overthinking isn't a clarity problem, it's a self-trust problem - and what you're actually avoiding. 
What you'll learn: 
Why you say "I don't know" (and what it really means) 
The hidden reason you stay stuck in indecision 
How overthinking protects you from uncomfortable truth 
The identity shift that changes everything 
One simple question to stop overthinking immediately 
Key moment from the episode: 
"You don't say 'I don't know' because you're confused. You say it because the truth would cost you something." 
If you're ready to stop overthinking and actually move forward, this is exactly what we do inside The Breakthrough. 
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Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness. 
Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for. 
In this episode, we talk about: 
Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed. 
The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next. 
Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud. 
Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty) 
People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop. 
This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you. 
Connect with Darshana: 
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In this episode I reveal the next level of your journey - from midlife reinvention to full-blown feminine sovereignty. If you're a woman ready to rise into your power, lead with vision, and claim a life that reflects your true worth, this is for you. 
I unpack the Queen Code (my brand new methodology), share the mythic framework behind the Sovereign Woman, and invite you inside the symbolic castle that holds it all. 
Consider this your rite of passage. 
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You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough. 
But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death. 
This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us. 
In this episode: 
Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should) 
What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up 
The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet) 
How to get out of the Cave of Resentment 
Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything 
The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think) 
Your communication report card (we all have one!) 
How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it 
Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking. 
Because the cost of quiet? It's your life. 
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