The Selfish Woman

The Confession Booth is open! 
I'm calling BS on the 'reinvention trend'....one that I was fully participating in for the last few years. 
Nobody reinvents themselves on purpose. Not the way the industry sells it. Real change doesn't start with a plan, it starts with one thought that won't let you go: 
I want something different. 
In this episode, I'm dismantling the whole reinvention myth, and replacing it with something that actually works. 
It's a confession, a rallying cry, and the most extravagant permission slip I've ever handed out. 
You'll hear: 
The reinvention lie 
Why your perspective is supposed to shift as you grow 
What real change looks and feels like, and why there's no parade for it 
The one sentence that starts everything 
Why 'terrixciting' is the most honest word for where you are right now 
 
Resources mentioned: 
The Selfish Year
The Phoenix 
The Quiz: why you keep holding yourself back 
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We've all been there: a plan falls apart, a deadline shifts, or a minor inconvenience feels like the end of the world. Or, we spend way too much of our time and energy worrying about 'what if.' We usually blame the situation for how we feel, but today's guest says the 'problem' isn't what's happening - it's how we're wired to react to it. 
I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, NYU professor, and a leading expert in the mind-body connection who has shared her insights alongside icons like Oprah and Mel Robbins. 
Ahead of the April launch of her highly anticipated book, "When Life Happens," Dr. Rachel breaks down the science of CBT and explains why we need to stop trying to 'delete' stress and start building a Coping Toolbox. 
This episode is a survival guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the weight of 'doing it all' and is ready to reclaim their peace of mind. 
What We Discuss: 
The Stress Reframe: Why stress is inevitable, but our physiological and mental reaction to it is a choice. 
The "All or Nothing" Trap: How to break the cycle of perfectionism when things go sideways. 
Building Your Coping Toolbox: Specific strategies to regulate your emotions in real time. 
Mindset as a Skill: Why resilience isn't a personality trait - it's a strategy you can train. 
When Life Happens: A deep dive into the mindset shifts needed to navigate life's messiest moments. 
Resources & Links: 
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Follow Dr. Rachel 
Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast on Spotify 
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I left Spain to figure out what was wrong with me. 
I had the dream life. The cobblestone streets. The European light. The copper bathtub imported from England that cost eleven thousand euros. 
And I was miserable in ways I didn't have words for yet. 
So I left. Convinced I was the problem. 
I was wrong. 
In this episode I'm recording from Harrison Hot Springs - sitting in a mineral pool, in the middle of a meditation that turned into a download - and I finally understand what I was actually running from. And why leaving was the most sane thing I ever did. 
This is the episode for the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself. The woman who has read the books, done the work, followed the rules - and still feels like something is fundamentally broken. 
Nothing is broken. 
But something is wrong. 
And until you figure out what that is, you will keep building beautiful lives on foundations that cannot hold you. 
This is where we start. 
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What if your life isn't random? 
In this episode, I sit down with numerologist Ann Perry to break down what your numbers reveal about you, and how they shape your relationships, your patterns, and the way you move through the world. 
We also dive into: 
What if your soul chose this life? 
What if the challenges you've faced weren't random...but selected? 
And how do you hold that idea without dismissing real pain or turning it into toxic positivity? 
 
What You'll Learn: 
What numerology is, and why it works 
How your numbers influence your identity and decision-making 
Why you keep repeating the sane relationship dynamics 
How to better understand your kids, partner and coworkers 
The controversial idea that your soul chose this life (and what that really means) 
How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself 
Links: 
Ann Perry's website: https://www.annperrynumerologist.com
 
Ann's book: https://amzn.to/4icbFsq
 
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nwkCP4v_atI?si=QjWGaBPy7zNER2jy
 
 
And if you're ready to stop overthinking and step over the edge and into your next level....
Join The Phoenix: subscribepage.io/4M2VOU

Why do you keep overthinking decisions when you already know what to do? 
In this episode I break down why overthinking isn't a clarity problem, it's a self-trust problem - and what you're actually avoiding. 
What you'll learn: 
Why you say "I don't know" (and what it really means) 
The hidden reason you stay stuck in indecision 
How overthinking protects you from uncomfortable truth 
The identity shift that changes everything 
One simple question to stop overthinking immediately 
Key moment from the episode: 
"You don't say 'I don't know' because you're confused. You say it because the truth would cost you something." 
If you're ready to stop overthinking and actually move forward, this is exactly what we do inside The Breakthrough. 
Email me: 
[email protected] and tell me the one thing you want a breakthrough in. 
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