Project Confidence: Becoming Confident & Content Through Canceling Comparison is your weekly guide to help you break free from the comparison trap and build tru...
#19 - The Problem with Pretty: Why We Need Better Compliments
We compliment girls and women on their looks without thinking—it's automatic. But what if our words are fueling comparison, objectification, and insecurity? In this episode, we challenge the habit of body-focused compliments and explore how praising skills, talents, and character instead can build confidence and self-worth. Let’s shift the conversation and start seeing people for who they are, not just how they look.
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# 18 - Better Than Who? The Problem with Comparison-Based Praise
Compliments that compare someone to others don’t build true confidence—they create a fragile sense of worth based on being “better” than someone else, which can easily crumble. To give compliments that truly uplift, we need to remove comparisons and focus on recognizing individual strengths and effort.
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# 17 - The Power of Pure Compliments: Uplifting Others Without Putting Yourself Down
Compliments have the power to change lives—but not all compliments are created equal. In this episode of Project Confidence, we explore how self-deprecating compliments can shift the focus from celebrating someone else's strengths to highlighting our own insecurities. Instead of building confidence, they invite comparison. We often think this kind of self-downplay is humility, but true humility doesn’t require us to diminish ourselves to lift others.
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#16 - Lessons From A Sunburn: Learning to Love My Body
Body comparisons are so common—but what are they costing you? In this episode, I share how constantly comparing my pale skin to my tan friends led me to a painful lesson and years of insecurity. But a little boy's words changed my perspective on how I should view my body. Join me as I reveal a simple yet powerful daily challenge that will transform the way you view yourself—helping you embrace confidence and appreciation for the body you have.
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#15 - What's In a Name? - Why I Rebranded
Dive into why I originally chose the word "canceling" and its powerful role in overcoming comparison. While effective, I’ve realized some may see it as negative, and I want to shift the focus to the positive outcome: building confidence. That’s why I’m introducing Project Confidence—a name that highlights an ongoing, intentional action to grow in confidence by letting go of comparison.
Project Confidence: Becoming Confident & Content Through Canceling Comparison is your weekly guide to help you break free from the comparison trap and build true confidence and contentment. In short 10-15 minute episodes, we’ll explore how to recognize the harmful comparisons we engage in and come to understand the negative impacts they can have on our lives, relationships, self-worth, and happiness. We’ll discuss how to intentionally choose to replace comparative thoughts and actions by shifting your focus to appreciation for others, being inspired to try new things, and learning to more fully recognize your own talents and strengths. Life becomes beautiful when we embrace the power of growth, self-discovery, and personal fulfillment.
Released every Thursday, these bite-sized episodes are designed to help you reclaim your confidence, stop the cycle of comparison, and start living a happy life free of vanity and bitterness.
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