Beneath the Surface

When your coaching business isn't where you want it to be, it's tempting to overhaul your website, revisit your ideal client, or build out new resources. But what if those urges are being driven by emotion rather than evidence? In this episode, I'm breaking down emotional reasoning in business — what it is, how to spot it, and how to make clearer, steadier decisions that actually move things forward.

Key takeaway: When business feels stuck, the instinct is to fix something visible. But often what needs addressing first is what's happening underneath. Data gives you an objective reference point; emotional awareness stops you wasting time solving the wrong problem.

💬 Want support working through the emotions that are getting in the way of running your business with clarity? Submit a coaching inquiry via this link 🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:
00:00 – Why emotional reasoning is one of the biggest things holding coaches back
01:10 – What emotional reasoning is, and how it shows up in business
02:50 – The confidence myth in coaching — why doubt is normal, and what to address instead
03:00 – Helpful vs. fear-driven motives
04:00 – Trigger #1: Comparison
05:10 – Trigger #2: Making decisions from a place of uncertainty
07:20 – Trigger #3: Endlessly refining
08:15 – How to use data as an objective anchor when emotions are driving your decisions
09:20 – The one question to ask first when your coaching isn't selling
10:00 – Separating the emotional work from the practical next steps

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More Resources:
Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
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If you've tried breathing techniques, journaling, or urge surfing and the emotions just keep coming back — this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the difference between managing emotions in the moment and actually changing how you feel long-term, and why that distinction could be the missing piece in your progress.

Key takeaway: Emotion regulation helps you cope in the moment. Emotion integration is what actually changes your emotional landscape over time, and it works by finding and building tolerance for the emotion you've been avoiding, not the one that's loudest.

💬 Ready to go beyond the in-the-moment tools and work on the deeper patterns? Submit a coaching inquiry through the link below, I'd love to support you through this process.
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Timestamps:
00:00 – Why your go-to coping tools might only be scratching the surface
00:55 – How I define emotion regulation
02:00 – When emotion regulation *is* useful
02:50 – What emotion integration actually means
03:45 – A deep dive example: social anxiety, and the hidden emotion that's actually driving it
05:20 – Why blocked anger can show up as anxiety — and what healthy anger is really there to do
06:30 – What this looks like in practice
07:45 – My personal experience getting in touch with my own anger, and why it changed everything
08:40 – The Steady Mind: why we build this first before turning towards difficult emotions
09:20 – Two questions to get you started on your own emotion integration journey

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More Resources:
Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking "I should be able to do this, why can't I just get it together?" In this episode, I'm unpacking self-blame: where it comes from, why we developed it, and how to take responsibility for our lives without turning on ourselves.

💬 If you'd like deeper, more long-term support working through these patterns I'd love to hear from you. Submit a coaching inquiry via the link below.
🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:
00:00 – The inner critic's greatest hits — and why they're keeping you stuck
01:15 – What self-blame actually is, and when it can be constructive vs. destructive
02:30 – Why self-blame developed as a learned safety strategy
04:20 – How blaming yourself protects you from anger, sadness, and feelings of helplessness
06:00 – My real-life illustration of self-blame vs. responsibility in action
08:45 – The crucial difference between fault and responsibility — and why it changes everything
09:50 – Practical steps to begin noticing your self-blame patterns
10:40 – The fear beneath the pattern and why that's where your compassion needs to go

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More Resources:
Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
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In this episode of Beneath the Surface I challenge the common coaching assumption that struggling to follow through automatically means “resistance” and I introduce a clearer framework of blocks, resistance, and fears.

With rest (or lack of it) as an example, I unpack how understanding the root cause of our limitations can help us to shift our mentality and be more compassionate towards ourselves.

Timestamps:
00:25 – Why “resistance” is oversimplified
01:30 – Blocks: external limits on rest
03:20 - Resistance: not seeing the benefit of rest
04:55 - Fears: knowing it helps but still can’t rest
07:55 - Compassion, courage, and origins of overworking/rest guilt

More Resources:
Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

I’m kicking off the self-sabotage series of Beneath the Surface with a real-time example of how I worked through performance anxiety before running my first ever half marathon.

In this episode, I walk through the exact tools I used, including an approach from Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), reframing perfectionist thinking, and the self-talk that helped me stay focused during the race.

If you’ve ever felt pressure around a goal you really care about, this episode will help you hold high standards without letting anxiety sabotage you.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Performance anxiety before my first half marathon
02:30 – The hidden belief driving the pressure
04:15 – Reframing goals: preference vs demand
06:00 – Perfectionism, social pressure, and self-compassion
08:30 – Returning to the why
10:00 – Self-talk and mindset during the race
12:15 – A question to reflect on for your own goals

More Resources:
Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here