No Matter What with Hanna Seymour

Have you ever looked across the room at your husband and wondered when you two started feeling more like roommates than partners? If your marriage feels cold or distant right now, I want you to hear this: it’s a season, and seasons are meant to be passed through.

This week I’m talking with licensed counselor Debra Fileta, who has spent over 20 years sitting with couples. Her newest book, Relationship Skills, walks through the four seasons every relationship moves through, and we spend most of our time in winter, the cold, distant one.

We talk about why empty people make terrible partners (and what to do when you’re the empty one), the difference between selflessness, selfishness, and self-neglect, and how couples slowly drift apart without noticing. Debra also opens up about a hard winter in her own marriage and the simple weekly habit she and her husband still keep 15 years later.

If you’re in a cold season, I hope you leave this conversation with some hope and one practical place to start.

Resources Mentioned
Relationship Skills by Debra Fileta: https://link.amazon/B075fNpD7Soul Care by Debra Fileta: https://debrafileta.com/soulcare/Marriage Check-In Guide: https://debrafileta.com/product/marriage-check-in-guide/Free Relationship Skills Quiz: https://debrafileta.com/relationship-skills-quiz/

Connect with Debra
Website: https://debrafileta.com
Instagram: @debrafiletaTalk To Me podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talk-to-me-the-debra-fileta-podcast/id1417804351Debra Fileta Counselors Network: https://debrafileta.com/counseling/

Connect with Me
Instagram: @hannaeseymour
Website: https://hannaseymour.com
The Weekly One (my Monday email): https://hannaseymour.com/the-weekly-one
Everyday Spiritual Habits: https://everydayspiritualhabits.com/

Do you ever feel like you're failing at your faith because your prayer life doesn't look like the version in your head? Like real women of prayer have a whole system figured out, and you're just whispering something quick while you're doing dishes?

I sat down with Monica Ritchie, an on-air host at 98.5 KTIS in the Twin Cities who also hosts her own podcast, Theologically Fashioned. We talked about the guilt that creeps in around spiritual disciplines: wrestling honestly with hard questions instead of burying them, bringing anger and grief to God instead of stuffing it down, and how to tell when a practice you used to love has gone from life giving to just obligatory.

Monica also shares her reframe on rest. It's not about doing nothing, it's about restoration, and what that's actually looked like for her in different seasons of life.If you've ever felt like you're doing your faith wrong, this one's for you.Monica's new book, Fashioned by Faith, goes even deeper into all of this if you want to keep going.

Connect with Monica:

Instagram: @itsmonicaritchie

Podcast: Theologically Fashioned

Book: Fashioned by Faith — https://link.amazon/B02cBulQr

Connect with me:

Instagram: @hannaeseymour

Website: hannaseymour.com

The Weekly One (my Monday email): hannaseymour.com/the-weekly-one

Everyday Spiritual Habits: everydayspiritualhabits.com

Be honest with yourself for a second. If your closest friends who don't follow Jesus were asked whether you're actually any different than they are, what would they say?

That question is what cracked this whole episode open for me. I'm talking with Pastor Nirup Alphonse, founder of LIFEGATE Church in Denver and author of the new book Defiant Lights.

We get into the difference between a faith built on convenience and one built on conviction, what it actually means that Jesus calls us the light of the world, and why offense and joy can't grow in the same soil in us.

Nirup is funny, he's honest about his own hypocrisy, and by the end of this one you might find yourself rethinking what your ordinary, everyday life is actually saying about who you follow.

Connect with Nirup Alphonse

Defiant Lights (book): https://link.amazon/B0h7mxA3g

Connect with Nirup: https://linktr.ee/PastorNirupAlphonse

Connect with Me

Instagram: @hannaeseymour

Website: hannaseymour.com

The Weekly One (my Monday email): https://hannaseymour.com/the-weekly-one

Everyday Spiritual Habits: https://everydayspiritualhabits.com/

If you've ever wondered whether struggling with anxiety or depression means something's wrong with your faith, or you love someone in a dark season and don't know how to help, this conversation is for you. I'm talking with Hope Blanton, a licensed clinical social worker, and Christine Gordon, who has a master's in theological studies and teaches at Covenant Theological Seminary. They've each walked through their own seasons of anxiety and depression, and together they've written a book that refuses to pick a side between the spiritual and the clinical.We get into what it actually looks like to hold "God is good" and "my brain isn't functioning right now" at the same time, why so many Christians feel guilty for taking medication, and what the story of Elijah in 1 Kings 19 teaches us about how God cares for the whole person, body included. This one is honest, practical, and full of real hope.Their book, Hope for the Anxious and Depressed, releases September 29th.Connect with Hope and Christine:Website: https://www.athisfeetstudies.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/athisfeetstudies/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/athisfeetstudies/Book: https://link.amazon/B08hLQCyEConnect with me:Instagram: @hannaeseymourWebsite: hannaseymour.comThe Weekly One: https://hannaseymour.com/the-weekly-oneEveryday Spiritual Habits: https://everydayspiritualhabits.com/

Ever feel like you're just waiting around for someone to invest in you — waiting to be picked, waiting to be mentored, waiting for someone older and wiser to notice you need it?

I sat down with Cheryl Marshall, who's spent over 25 years walking alongside women in the local church, and she flipped that whole idea on its head.

We also spent real time in Romans 12, unpacking what it actually meant for a first-century Jewish believer to hear "present your body as a living sacrifice," and why that phrase is so much bigger — and harder — than we usually make it.

This one covers discipleship, worship, and what it looks like to suffer well.Cheryl's new book, All of Me: Pursuing a Life Wholly Devoted to God, walks through Romans 12:1-2 in depth if you want to keep going after this episode.Connect with Cheryl:Website: cherylmarshall.comInstagram: @_cherylmarshallFacebook: CherylMarshallBooksPodcast: Whole-Life WorshipBook: All of Me — https://link.amazon/B08fl2gHlConnect with me:Instagram: @hannaeseymourWebsite: hannaseymour.comThe Weekly One (my Monday email): https://hannaseymour.com/the-weekly-one