Sitting In A Car:
Sexuality, Relationships & Consent For Parents of Teens & Little Kids
Ever feel awkward talking to your kids about sexuality, relationships a...
Do you want a family team or a ‘you vs him’ situation?
The school’s version of sex-ed vs what you’ve been teaching is very different.
So, what now?
Send him in to learn about sex-ed from this point of view or keep him home so that your point of view remains unchallenged?
It can be a tough decision, yet it can also be simple.
Are we trying to create clones of ourselves or raise kids that are free to be exactly who they are and can come and talk to us about anything under the sun?
The latter, right?
So maybe, we can ask him how he feels about it and also weigh up the pros and cons of being part of the lesson so together you and he can make a collaborative decision.
This in itself is a great life skill.
I’m sharing a few nuggets in today’s episode (if I do say so myself) and I look forward to hearing how you get on with them.
In today’s episode we cover:
The two sentence starters you can use to help you have a convo with your kid about how we all have different ways of thinking and/or seeing things.
What non-binary thinking is and how to explain it to your kid.
How to set a culture of collaboration with your kid so they can be involved in making decisions that affect them.
If you’d like to join us in the Evolve School where I teach the whole Evolved Family Method let me know here.
Until next episode,
x Sarah
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'It’s a pretty dark and complex topic but you can still talk about it'
Our job is to be there for our kids, no matter what.
And their job is to ask for help, no matter what.
And so if there is something that they need to talk about, they need to know they must ask for help.
As many times as possible, until they get it.
People being hurt by sex (this can happen for many reasons) is a difficult topic to speak about.
But having these kinds of chats with our kids is important.
For their growth and awareness.
So have a listen to this week’s episode to learn how to have this kind of talk with your kid.
Building the courage to speak openly with our kids about all kinds of topics is important for our own connection with them and ourselves.
If you need more support with this, feel free to reach out here and leave me your details. I’ll get back to you.
For now, have a listen to how we use courage to have complex conversations about difficult topics.
x Sarah
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9:54
‘How do I chat with my neurodiverse kid about sex, bodies, puberty etc?’
Speaking to kids in general about sensitive topics is hard.
If you have a kid on the spectrum, you may question if this is still appropriate.
And it most definitely is.
Saying more as early as you can is how you protect them and support them in their uniqueness.
I’m giving 3 recommendations in this episode of how to chat with your kid, who’s on the spectrum.
Recommended Books:
Things Tom Likes by Kate E Reynolds
Things Ellie Likes by Kate E Reynolds
What’s happening to Ellie by Kate E Reynolds
What’s happening to Tom by Kate E Reynolds
The growing up book for boys by Davida Hartman
The growing up book for girls by Davida Hartman
Sensory: Life on the spectrum by Schnumn
Divergent Mind: Thriving in a world that wasn’t designed for you by Jenara Nerenberg
If you would like to learn all the strategies inside the growth, courage and kindness pillars let me know here.
Until next episode,
Sarah
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16:05
'That time my 6 yr old learned that people kiss each other’s private parts'
And is now fixated on the fact that people kiss each other’s private parts if they’re in a relationship.
Now this is not only awkward but it’s complex.
Where do you start with this?
What do you focus on?
What do you say?
Here’s the thing, it’s likely that you’re both shocked.
You: that she knows this information.
Her: that anybody would want to put their mouth on another’s private area.
So in this episode I'm going to show you how to help your kid who's fixated on the fact that people kiss each other's privates, if they're in a relationship.
Accept that kids talk (4:34)
What is consent (6:38)
Have a convo about sex? (8:30)
Want to learn the complete evolved family method that helps parents and other caring adults manage feelings of awkwardness while talking about quite complex details about bodies and sexuality?
Click here and I’ll send you some information.
Until next episode,
x Sarah
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11:38
‘How can I hold boundaries for my 2-year-old with family members who want to kiss, hug & handle her without her (or my) consent?’
“Family comes first.’
‘Girls don’t answer back.’
‘Don’t be awkward.’
How about, “It’s ok not to be hugged or kissed by (insert family member’s name)?”
Girls should know that they’ve a right to set boundaries and know what that looks and feels like.
That’s what being a courageous parent will help you do.
It will help you support your little girl in setting healthy boundaries around her body.
Today’s episode highlights that it doesn't matter what age your kid is, you can speak up for them until they're old enough to speak up for themselves.
In today’s episode you’ll learn:
What The Family Cringe Crusher is and how to use it.
How to recognise your own boundaries.
How to support your kid’s body autonomy around extended family members.
Knowing what to do is one thing but do you have the ability to sit with the intense emotions of others and stay centred and grounded at the same time?
If not, and you would like support, let me know here.
Until next episode,
x Sarah
Sitting In A Car:
Sexuality, Relationships & Consent For Parents of Teens & Little Kids
Ever feel awkward talking to your kids about sexuality, relationships and consent?
Wish you had someone to go to with your questions?
Good news - now you do!
Each week on Sitting In A Car, educator Sarah Sproule answers parents’ questions about everything from bodies to babies, from puberty to privacy, from sex to Snapchat - and so much more.
With humour, creativity and compassion, Sarah will help you become more comfortable and empowered to talk about sexuality, relationships & consent with your kid -
and help you to raise a confident, caring young person who respects themselves and the people around them.
No matter your worry, Sarah’s here to help.
Join her while you’re Sitting In A Car!
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