Good Inside with Dr. Becky

After kids, a lot of couples assume intimacy is supposed to disappear. You’re exhausted, touched-out, overwhelmed by logistics, carrying invisible mental load — and somewhere along the way, sex can start to feel complicated, distant, or impossible to even talk about.

But what if the story is more nuanced than that?

In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with board-certified OB/GYN, sexual wellness expert, and Chief Medical Officer at Hers, Dr. Jessica Shepherd, about new survey data exploring what actually happens to intimacy in long-term relationships and parenthood.

They discuss:

why some married couples report better sex after kids

how vulnerability changes intimacy

the connection between mental load and desire

hormones, perimenopause, and libido

why “whose fault is this?” is often the wrong question

what it means to approach intimacy from a same-team perspective

This conversation is honest, practical, funny at times — and ultimately hopeful. Because intimacy is about feeling seen, understood, connected, and able to locate yourself inside your relationship again.

Dr. Becky wrote up a few tips for talking to your partner about intimacy after kids. You can read those here.

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Dr. Becky recently had a run-in with a ... dubious ... purveyor of NeeDohs, the outrageously popular, notoriously hard-to-find squishy toys. And it made her think twice about why this craze has taken over our homes in the first place. So she did what any reasonable person would do: she recorded an emergency podcast episode in her closet. 

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Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson has helped millions of readers understand the lasting impact of emotionally immature parents. In this conversation, she joins Dr. Becky to explore the other side of the equation: how we raise emotionally mature kids.

They discuss why kids’ behavior can feel so activating, the difference between emotions being a “master” versus an “advisor,” why emotional maturity has nothing to do with perfection, and how connection is built in tiny everyday moments—not just the hard ones.

This episode is for every parent who’s ever thought: Why did I react so strongly to that?

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For generations, fathers were taught that their job was simple: protect, provide, preside.

But what happens when those old rules no longer fit?

In this conversation, Dr. Becky talks with writer and father Kevin Maguire ("The New Fatherhood") about the emotional transformation happening inside modern fatherhood — and why so many dads are trying to parent differently than they were parented themselves.

They explore:

why presence matters more than ever in parenting

the hidden identity shift that happens when men become fathers

why play can feel surprisingly hard for dads

anger, emotional regulation, and repair

the pressure men feel to disconnect from vulnerability

paternal postpartum depression and why so few people talk about it

how healing ourselves changes the way we show up for our kids

This is an honest conversation about masculinity, parenting, emotions, and the courage it takes to break generational patterns.

Kevin's new book is called The New Fatherhood: Why Everything They Told You About Being A Dad Is Wrong, and How Embracing It Will Transform Your Life.

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You’ve probably said it—or heard it:

“Nobody knows what they’re doing.”

It’s meant to comfort us as parents. And sometimes it does.

But… is it actually true?

In this episode of our ongoing Is It True? series, Dr. Becky and Myleik Teele take a closer look at this belief—and what might be more helpful to hold onto instead.

They explore:

Why this idea can feel relieving… and also limiting

The pressure to “prove” you’re a good parent in hard moments

What it really looks like when a parent does know what they’re doing

And the powerful role of curiosity—about your child and yourself

Through real-life moments (public meltdowns, getting hit in a school line, vacation chaos), they show how parenting isn’t about having it all figured out—but about learning, adjusting, and building skills over time.

Read Dr. Becky's follow up on the Good Inside Blog. 

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