The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

After betrayal, one of the questions we hear most often is, "How do I convince my spouse that I'll never do it again?"

We understand that question because we've been there. But here's the hard truth. You can't convince your spouse to trust you again just because you say the right things or make the right promises. Rebuilding trust takes time, consistency, honesty, and a willingness to take full responsibility for the hurt you've caused.

In this episode, we're sharing what we learned through our own journey of rebuilding trust after infidelity. We'll talk about why defensiveness and excuses only make things worse, why you can't rush your spouse's healing, and what it really looks like to begin earning back trust that's been broken.

If you're struggling to rebuild trust in your marriage, we hope this conversation encourages you and reminds you that while trust can't be demanded, it can be rebuilt.

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What happens when you're committed to your marriage, but you just don't feel that attraction anymore? Maybe you've been hurt by betrayal. Maybe you've slowly drifted apart over the years. Or maybe life has just changed, and the feelings you once had seem to be gone.

In this episode, we're talking about something that a lot of couples struggle with but don't always want to admit. What do you do when the spark is gone? Can those feelings actually come back?

We talk about why love is so much more than a feeling and how spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy all work together in a healthy marriage. We also share why rebuilding attraction doesn't usually start in the bedroom. It starts with the heart.

If you're in a season where you feel disconnected from your spouse, we want to encourage you. Just because you don't feel the way you once did doesn't mean those feelings can't return. There is hope, but rebuilding that connection takes time, intentionality, and a willingness to love even when the feelings aren't there.

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We believe there is hope for every marriage, and we'd love to help you take the next step!

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This week, we're talking about one of the most difficult parts of healing after betrayal: learning to forgive yourself. A question we recently received from a listener reminded us just how many people struggle with the guilt and shame of their past decisions.

We know firsthand how easy it is to get stuck in the mistakes of our past and allow guilt and shame to keep us from moving forward. But how do we begin to forgive ourselves when we can't change what we've done?

In this episode, we share from our own experiences, talk about how the enemy uses guilt and shame to keep us stuck, and discuss what it looks like to accept God's grace and begin walking in the freedom He offers.

If you're struggling to forgive yourself, we hope this conversation reminds you that your past doesn't have to define your future and that God's grace is bigger than your greatest mistake.

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We’re back from an incredible week in Montana where we had the opportunity to spend time with four couples at our Redeemed Marriage retreat. And once again, we were reminded of something we see all the time in marriage: so many couples are struggling with things they believe no one else would understand.

It’s easy to look around and assume everyone else is doing better than you are. So we keep things hidden. We put on a good face, protect our reputation, and convince ourselves that no one needs to know what is really happening behind closed doors. But the longer we hide, the more isolated we become.

In this episode, we talk about the loneliness that can exist inside a marriage and why healing often requires letting other people in. You don’t have to tell everyone everything, but you do need safe people who know the real story. Because one of the most freeing things you can discover in a difficult season of marriage is that you’re not the only one.

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We’re back with Part 2 of our 30 Years, 30 Lessons series, sharing more of the things three decades of marriage have taught us along the way.

Just like last week, these aren’t perfectly packaged marriage principles. They’re lessons we’ve learned by actually living them, and some of them we definitely learned the hard way. We talk about admitting when you’re wrong, why adding “but” to an apology usually ruins it, learning to respect your spouse’s feelings even when you don’t understand them, and what resentment and keeping score can slowly do to a marriage.

We also get into some of the deeper lessons our own story has taught us about boundaries, forgiveness, rebuilding trust, communication, and walking through the different seasons of marriage together.

Thirty years hasn’t taught us how to have a perfect marriage. But it has taught us a lot about grace, growth, choosing each other, and continuing to show up even when marriage gets hard.

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