109. When It’s All Too Much: Mindfulness Tools for Stepmom Life
You're not broken. You're overwhelmed. This episode is for those moments when you’re trying so hard to keep it together, but inside you're screaming. The mental load is crushing you, your patience is hanging by a thread, and even the dog’s breathing feels like too much . . . If that rings a bell, let me reassure you that no, you’re not broken. You’re just overwhelmed. And there are tools to help you manage your stress. This week, I'm joined by licensed therapist and coach Kristin Cogan for a conversation every stepmom (and honestly, every woman) needs. We’re diving into the truth about “mom overwhelm:" what it is, why it hits so hard in blended families, and how mindfulness can help you interrupt the spiral before it swallows you whole. This is the kind of episode you’ll want to save and come back to - especially on the days when you feel like disappearing into the bathroom for a week. ABOUT KRISTIN: Kristin Cogan, MA, LPC, is a licensed therapist, coach, and mom of five based in Texas who helps high-achieving, overwhelmed moms break free from the cycle of stress and self-doubt so they can feel confident, calm, and in control again. With a down-to-earth approach and over a decade of experience, Kristin empowers women to stop surviving and start thriving - on their terms. Learn more about Kristin at imperfectlywonderful.com Follow her on Instagram: @imperfectlywonderfulmotherhood Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It’s super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I’ll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It’s normally $49 and it’s a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you’ll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint! Connect with Cameron: Website: stepfamilysolutions.com Instagram: @stepfamilysolutions TikTok: @stepfamilysolutions
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108. Stepmom Triggers and the Power of Choosing Peace Over Panic
What if you could take that familiar whisper of "You don't quite belong" and give it the heave-ho? Picture this: at your stepdaughter's sorority Parents Weekend, everyone's wearing their "sorority mom" pins . . . everyone but you. That familiar whisper starts: "I wonder if they notice I don't belong here." But then something incredible happens: you pause, breathe, and choose a different thought. This episode is about that moment - how triggers that used to wreck you now don't have to. You know what I'm talking about: It can be the smallest, most seemingly-insignificant moments that hits stepmoms where we're most vulnerable and surfaces our deepest insecurities. And then before we know it, we embark on the mental gymnastics of analyzing every interaction to verify our assumptions that we have, in fact, been rejected - or that we are, in fact, inadequate . . . and we spiral. Sound familiar? But what if we didn't have to go down that rabbithole of doubt? What if we could catch ourselves in that moment and choose to focus on what's actually true? I'll talk you through how to do just that so next time you can change your experience. And your stepfamily. Connect with Cameron: Website: stepfamilysolutions.com Instagram: @stepfamilysolutions TikTok: @stepfamilysolutions Resources Mentioned Join the Stepfamily Circle: Ready to stop navigating stepfamily life alone? The Stepfamily Circle offers ongoing support, group coaching calls, and a community that truly gets it. Learn more at stepfamilycircle.com For Aspiring Stepfamily Coaches: Ready to help other stepmoms through coaching? Or just want to dive deep into learning everything about stepfamily life and see what happens from there? Learn about the Stepfamily Coach Academy at stepfamilysolutions.com/stepfamily-certification Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It’s super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I’ll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It’s normally $49 and it’s a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you’ll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!
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107. Stop Trying Harder: Why Stepmoms Need Support, Not Perfection
"You're not the problem. You're just doing it alone." If you attended the Stepmom Summit last weekend, you wrapped up in a high - feeling seen and understood. But it’s over now, and you're back in a house that doesn't feel like yours with zero space to land. Today we're talking about why "trying harder" isn't the answer, and what you actually need to create lasting change in your stepfamily life. In This Episode, We Cover: Why Stepmom Life Feels So Isolating The myth of "trying harder" and the stepmom spiral of second-guessing your boundaries and interactions How "trying harder" leads to losing yourself in the effort That you're not actually failing - the system is failing you You don't need to try more - you need to be seen You weren't meant to navigate stepfamily life alone Resources Mentioned Join the Stepfamily Circle: Ready to stop navigating stepfamily life alone? The Stepfamily Circle offers ongoing support, group coaching calls, and a community that truly gets it. Learn more at stepfamilycircle.com If you missed The Stepmom Summit For a few more days, you can still grab a VIP ticket and access all of the presentations and $2,000 in bonuses. Don't wait because the opportunity to grab your ticket will expire on September 15th! For Aspiring Stepfamily Coaches: Ready to help other stepmoms through coaching? Or just want to dive deep into learning everything about stepfamily life and see what happens from there? Learn about the Stepfamily Coach Academy at stepfamilysolutions.com/stepfamily-certification Connect with Cameron: Website: stepfamilysolutions.com Instagram: @stepfamilysolutions TikTok: @stepfamilysolutions Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It’s super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I’ll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It’s normally $49 and it’s a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you’ll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!
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106. I Didn’t Sign Up For This: When Stepmom Life Gets Messy Fast, with Alicia Krasko
Every stepmom has that moment where reality hits and you think: “Wait… I didn’t sign up for this.” In today’s episode, I sit down with Alicia Krasko - stepmom coach, podcast host, and CEO of the Stepmom Side Community. Alicia’s story will sound familiar: she went into stepmom life thinking it would be smooth sailing (kids liked her, in-laws liked her, even the ex liked her)… until suddenly, everything changed. In the episode, we talk about: What happens when “happily ever after” collides with blended family reality Why traditional therapy often misses the mark for stepmoms (and what to look for instead) How to handle high-conflict situations without losing yourself The truth about always being asked to be “the bigger person” — and what to do when it feels exhausting Why stepmom struggles look so similar (and why you’re NOT the only one going through this) ✨ Plus, Alicia gives us a sneak peek of her upcoming live session at the Stepmom Summit, where she’ll dive into extended family drama (yes, we’re talking in-laws) and how to navigate it without losing your peace. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “how to get divorced” or wondering why stepmom life feels harder than you imagined — this conversation will remind you that you are not alone, and there is a way forward. 🎟️ Save your seat at the FREE Stepmom Summit 🎟️ Links + Resources Mentioned: Connect with Alicia: aliciakrasko.com Grab Alicia’s free guide: aliciakrasko.com/expectations Join the Stepmom Summit: thestepmomsummit.com The Stepmom Summit Is For You If: You’re tired of doing this alone You love your partner but struggle with “everything that comes with them” You want tools that work outside of therapy sessions and social media scrolls 🎟️ Save your seat now! 🎟️ Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It’s super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I’ll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It’s normally $49 and it’s a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you’ll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!
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105. From Bathroom Floor To Breakthrough: The Lifeline That's Helped Thousands of Stepmoms
“You don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to guess, or feel guilty. You just have to say yes to support that actually gets it.” Ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells in your own home? Like no one truly sees how hard you’re working to hold it all together? In this powerful mini episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why the FREE annual Stepmom Summit (coming up September 4-6th) has become a lifeline for thousands of stepmoms around the world - and why it might be exactly what you’ve been needing, too. I share my own raw and real moments (yes, including the one where my stepson called 911 on me), and why this annual virtual gathering is more than just a few Zoom sessions—it’s a community, a permission slip, and a freaking game-changer. Plus, get a sneak peek at the surprises in store at this year’s event (hint: you're going to get to ask all of our speakers your most burning questions in real-time) - along with our jaw-dropping speaker lineup! We'll discuss: Why even “strong” stepmoms need safe spaces The shift from isolation to belonging (with real stories from past attendees) How the summit is going 100% live this year - and why that changes everything Featured Speakers Sneak Peek: Eve Rodsky – on burnout, boundaries, and reclaiming your joy Terri Cole – setting unapologetic boundaries Patricia Papernow - the globally-recognized top stepfamily expert in the field Samantha Boss – parenting plans during high conflict Kristin Cogan - mindfulness in the midst of chaos Jessica Frew, Alicia Krasko, and even a lawyer from the Real Housewives 👀 Plus: top therapists, experts, coaches, and a panel of top researchers led by Emmy-winning journalist Jamie Yuccas The Stepmom Summit Is For You If: You’re tired of doing this alone You love your partner but struggle with “everything that comes with him” You want tools that work outside of therapy sessions and social media scrolls Join Us: The Stepmom Summit is completely virtual, packed with live speakers, and full of support that lasts long after the event ends. Replays are available for 48 hours - so no pressure, just presence. Register now at thestepmomsummit.com Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It’s super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I’ll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It’s normally $49 and it’s a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you’ll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!
The Stepmom Diaries podcast, hosted by Cameron Normand of Stepfamily Solutions, focuses on all things stepmom-related.
As a second wife, stepmom to four kids, and successful businesswoman, Cameron Normand keeps it real with conversations about blended families, relationships, personal development, and much more. With her expert advice and down-home discussions, Cameron will inspire you to live into your best blended family life.
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