Religion on the Mind

Lillian Daniel returns after five years to discuss her new book Defrocked: Good News from a Bad Pastor for a Better Church — a candid, often funny, and deeply human account of the misconduct process she underwent in the UCC, what it taught her about identity, boundaries, and shame, and how she eventually found her way back to ministry.

Highlights:


Power, process, and accountability


Over-identification with vocation


Boundaries (and the lack thereof)


Shame vs. guilt, done right

Lillian's New Book | Defrocked: Good News from a Bad Pastor for a Better Church

Previous episode with Lillian:

The Most & Least Plausible Christian Claims (#117)

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This is the fifth and final installment of the Anxious Times series, and we're bringing it home by exploring what existential psychology has to say about community, belonging, and civic engagement. I’m joined by returning guest Kristen Tideman and Brian Adoff, founder of Join Philly, a directory and events platform helping Philadelphians connect with each other. 

In the Patreon-only second half, we dig into how Kristen's own anxiety triple crown — MS, new motherhood, and ongoing religious change — has been shaped by her distance from the Philly community she helped build, and what it looks like to find connection in a new chapter of life.

Join or Die Film

Anxious Times Episode Part 1⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 2⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 3

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 4

Highlights:


Collective effervescence, good and bad 


Bowling alone and belonging 


Tech, phones, and the dopamine trap 


Participation gaps and on-ramps

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Religion on the News is back with Mason Mennenga, and today we're tackling some heavy hitters: the Supreme Court's 8-1 ruling striking down Colorado's conversion therapy ban, the rise of the manosphere and what it means for young men, and the latest alien discourse from Obama and beyond.

Highlights:


Supreme Court conversion therapy ruling


First Amendment vs. public health


Evidence base for conversion therapy


Manosphere, masculinity, and religion


Conservative Christian influencer crossover


Aliens, astrobiology, and Obama

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Co-host Kristen Tideman and I work through the final two legs of Emmy van Dersen's triad — the impossible and the desirable — using Kristen's new motherhood, MS diagnosis, and ongoing religious change as real, lived test cases for the framework.

In the Patron-only second half, We move from naming what we can't have, to excavating the values underneath those wishes, to identifying what we actually can do about it — and end up somewhere more hopeful than either of us expected.

Highlights:


The impossible vs. the merely difficult


Extracting values from unmet wishes


Religious change and lost sense-making


MS diagnosis, grief, and clarified priorities


Spiritual grounding after deconstruction

Anxious Times Episode Part 1⁠⁠

⁠⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 2⁠

⁠⁠⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 3

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I sit down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Jeffrey Rubin to explore his concept of meditative psychotherapy — a genuinely reciprocal integration of Western psychoanalysis and Eastern contemplative practice that goes far deeper than the usual mindfulness-lite approaches. We get into what meditation actually is (hint: not just stress relief), spiritual bypassing, the scandals that keep plaguing Buddhist communities, and why real healing requires both quieting the mind and doing hard psychological work.

Highlights:


Meditation isn't just symptom reduction


East-West integration done poorly vs. well


Spiritual bypassing across traditions


AI, dreams, and idiographic meaning


Three stages of meditative psychotherapy

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