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Not so Christian Brothers

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  • Marriage, Mental Load & 20 Years Together — The Aftershow Takeover
    This week’s Not So Christian Brothers Aftershow looks a little different… with Colm away and Terry missing in action, Rebecca and Beatrice take over the mic — with Justin looking on nervously in the corner.Following Beatrice’s special episode, the Aftershow dives into:20 years of marriage — what really makes it workRespect, independence, and why couples don’t need to do everything togetherThe “mental load” and how women often carry the invisible weight at homeLetting go of perfection vs. letting resentment festerWhy laughter, communication, and even scheduled sex keep a relationship alive💡 This one blends honesty and humour — from shoes left on the stairs to vaccum wars, household roles, and why communication beats resentment every time.⏱️ Chapter List00:00 – Aftershow Takeover (Rebecca & Beatrice on the couch)02:00 – 20 Years of Marriage: What’s Changed03:42 – Respect, Independence & Still Laughing05:00 – Who Starts the Hard Conversations?07:38 – Letting Go vs. Resentment09:30 – Household Roles: The Mental Load12:21 – Running a Family Like a Business13:39 – Style, Clean Homes & Instagram Pressure16:07 – Shoes on the Stairs (and Why Men Don’t See Them)18:42 – What Men Really Think About20:52 – When Therapy Helps (and When It’s Too Late)21:48 – Sex, Date Nights & Laughter After 20 YearsHighlights“You’re not the same person you were 20 years ago — respect that evolution.”“The mental load is like running a corporation — except there’s no shares and no money.”“I used to get annoyed about the bins and the dishwasher. Now I just let it go.”“If resentment festers too long, it’s generally over.”“Laughter and respect keep a marriage alive — not the dishwasher.”#NotSoChristianBrothers#MarriagePodcast#MensMentalHealth#MarriageAfter20Years#MentalLoad#ModernMarriage#CouplesPodcast#MarriageConversations#JustinCaffrey#BeatriceCaffrey#RebeccaHoran#IrishPodcast#RelationshipPodcast#MarriageAdvice#PodcastClips Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • Do Men Ever Really Share the Load at Home? Justin & Beatrice Get Real
    With Colm away on personal matters and Rebecca on holiday, Beatrice Caffrey steps into the hot seat opposite her husband, Justin. What begins with playful banter about jumpers quickly dives deep into the heart of modern relationships, gender roles, grief, and rediscovering purpose.Beatrice opens up about life as a business owner, mother, and woman navigating shifting household dynamics — while Justin reflects on masculinity, vulnerability, and how grief shaped their marriage after the death of their infant son. Together, they balance candid honesty with humour, from bin duties and DIY mishaps to raw conversations about resilience, parenting, and finding meaning beyond family roles.Justin mentions Flow Rope and the magic of Lawrence Van Lingen on the pod. Find out more at @lawrencevanlingen on Instagram. Find Beatrice Caffrey on Instragram @beatrice.caffrey_💡 This episode blends laughter with life lessons, giving listeners rare insight into how a couple balances tradition and progress, independence and togetherness, grief and growth.👉 Perfect for fans of relationship podcasts, men’s mental health, resilience stories, and authentic marriage conversations.Chapter List00:00 – Santa or Papa Smurf?Lighthearted opener: Beatrice’s jumper sparks Justin’s cheeky comparisons.03:44 – Household Roles Under the MicroscopeA listener asks if Justin lives up to the “modern man” image or if life at home is more traditional.07:04 – Acceptance, Not AnnoyanceBeatrice explains why she no longer sweats the small stuff — from bins to dishwashers.10:27 – Masculinity and MoneyJustin recalls feeling the burden of being the breadwinner and the difficulty of admitting vulnerability.17:18 – Mental Health is Like a FartJustin’s blunt metaphor for why emotions are “better out than in.”20:00 – Don’t Fix Me, Just ListenBeatrice on why women often just need to be heard — and Justin’s struggle to resist fixing.22:58 – Losing JoshuaBeatrice reflects on grief, nature walks, and how she processed the death of their infant son.26:45 – No Timeline on GriefHer honest message: “There’s no finishing line. Grief is ongoing — let it happen.”28:56 – Rediscovering Purpose Beyond ParentingBeatrice explains how building her business gave her meaning as Luca grew older.32:08 – Teenagers, Relevance, and Letting GoThe couple discuss the grief of not being “cool” to your kids anymore.33:19 – Like, Subscribe, FollowBeatrice learns the all-important sign-off while Justin laughs at her panic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • The Aftershow: Loose Hyphens, Tight Wallets & Life’s Unpredictable Punch
    But just when you think it’s all laughs, Rebecca shares a harrowing personal story from her holiday (Caution When Listening), witnessing a man collapse and die on the beach in front of his wife and children. The conversation turns raw, heartbreaking, and deeply human.This Aftershow is pure chaos — and we wouldn’t have it any other way. Justin, Colm, and Rebecca spiral from jokes about loose hyphens, perimenopause, and Japan’s luxury toilets into a heated debate on stingy friends, cutting people out of your life, and what sobriety really does to friendships.This is Not So Christian Brothers at its most unpredictable: equal parts comedy, confession, and confrontation with life’s fragility.If you’ve ever questioned your friendships, wrestled with cutting ties, or just needed a reminder that life can turn on a dime, this episode will hit you hard — and keep you laughing along the way.⏱️ Chapter Timelines00:00 – Trigger Warning & Kickoff – Justin preps listeners for a tough ending00:18 – Bathroom Banter – Colm’s constant need to pee, loose hyphens & perimenopause jokes01:12 – Aftershow Madness – Names, producers, and the Gay Byrne mix-up story02:45 – Karen vs. Jessica – The evolution of cultural name-calling04:06 – Stingy Friends & Money Etiquette – When tightness tips friendships over the edge05:52 – Japan Toilet Tour – Heated passion for high-tech loos07:10 – Cutting People Out – Justin on “weeding your friendship garden”08:54 – Sobriety & Shifting Friendships – Who stays, who leaves, and why11:11 – The Judgment of Sobriety – Are sober friends secretly seen as superior?13:00 – Rebecca’s Holiday Trauma – Witnessing a sudden death on the beach17:58 – Echoes of the Past – Justin shares Beatrice’s childhood tragedy19:22 – Desensitization vs. Real Life – Why live trauma hits different than TV news20:26 – The Dark Beauty of Chaos – Reflections on fragility, privilege, and guilt21:06 – Closing Out – Gratitude, raw honesty, and a reminder to love fiercely Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • When Life Blindsides You: From Chris Evans to Hospital Emergencies
    What happens when life throws you completely off script? In this week’s Not So Christian Brothers, Justin and Colm swap wild stories of unpredictability—from Justin’s son ending up in hospital after a terrifying health scare, to Colm’s wife rushing into treatment, to the unpredictable chaos of live radio where a prize giveaway went horribly wrong. Along the way, they reveal a surprising Chris Evans connection, debate whether friendships can survive “tight” mates who never pay their way, and laugh at how control is mostly an illusion.Expect raw honesty, real laughs, and plenty of chaos—because when life blindsides you, all you can do is ride the wave.Timestamps00:00 When life blindsides you (and Rebecca’s mic dies)02:10 Chris Evans at CarFest: fame, health, and reinvention05:00 Justin’s hospital scare with Luca (what happened)08:45 Colm on live radio chaos—when a giveaway goes wrong14:50 Are your mates “tight”… or just oblivious?21:30 How to call it out without blowing up the group28:40 Why men need more friends (and how to make them at 40+) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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  • The After Show: Why men can’t get excited
    In this Aftershow, Rebecca joins Colm and Justin on the sofa — and immediately throws down a challenge. Why do men shy away from joy? Are we meant to accept life as mostly struggle with the odd moment of happiness, or can optimism and denial actually keep us alive?What follows is raw, funny, and deeply human: Rebecca opens up about excitement, resilience, and living in denial as survival. Colm admits he no longer feels excited about anything, while Justin argues for finding meaning in small wins instead of chasing big highs. Together they wrestle with loneliness, love, and whether anyone is really there to “catch us” when we fall.It’s banter, honesty, and emotion in equal measure — a conversation that will resonate with anyone navigating middle age, change, and the search for connection. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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About Not so Christian Brothers

Not so Christian BrothersAn authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between. It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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