As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self mean...
277. The One Thing That Could Decrease Your Marital Disagreements
Today’s episode was inspired by our personal experiences and a blog post from The Gottman Institute all about perpetual versus solvable problems in long-relationships. As close friends, we’ve had a front seat to the common disagreements and issues that we each have in our 10-year long marriages. We often will talk through something and try to see the other partner’s side, while also working towards solutions - which is what you’ll get to hear in today’s episode. The Gottman blog post was so interesting to us because it made us realize that what may be a solvable problem for Abby and Colin, may be a perpetual problem for Amy and Drew and vice versa. According to The Gottman Institute, 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual with the most common topics being household chores, parenting, sex, and in-law relationships. We are digging into a couple of these topics today and breaking down whether this is a perpetual or solvable problem in our own relationship and what we’ve done to work on it together as a couple. We hope that from listening to our personal experiences in today’s episode, you’re able to reflect if your marital arguments are perpetual or solvable problems in order to evolve with your partner and be in a really happy marriage.Links & Resources:20% off your order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping 20% off your first order at Vuori ClothingCheck out the Maui Nui Venison products we’re loving!The Gottman Institute Blog Post, “Managing Conflict: Solvable vs Perpetual Problems”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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276. Avoiding Burnout as Busy Moms with Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein
We know a lot of listeners in our HERself community are busy moms, including us! We've got households to run, kids to take care of, careers to advance, spouses to love, and friends to support. Today on the podcast Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two, is here to deep dive into stress and burnout, something that is unfortunately common amongst moms. Dr. Carolyn is passionate about supporting moms in finding their worth, helping them embrace the human experience not just with evidence-based strategies, but also with deep compassion and understanding. While stress may be a normal human response, unmanaged and compounding stress without intervention can lead to inevitable burn out. We hope that through today’s episode, you are able to learn the signs and symptoms of burnout and feel prepared with some strategies that Dr. Carolyn shares. Today’s episode was eye-opening knowing that if we just pause and evaluate, it’s possible to take small steps in the right direction to avoid burnout.Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Check out LeVillage on Instagram and their website to find a location near you, and be sure to grab tickets to our event at the new Des Plaines location on March 21st!10% off at BETTERHELPFollow Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein on InstagramDr. Rubenstein’s WebsiteLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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275. Raising Confident + Conversational Kids with Dr. Alison Wood Brooks
Today’s conversation is all about…conversation! We are happy to have Dr. Alison Wood Brooks joining us on the podcast. Alison is a behavioral scientist as well as a professor and Faculty Fellow at Harvard Business School. She created and teaches a course called “TALK” and has now taken her research and published it in her new book also titled TALK! Many of us as parents want our kids to grow and learn in the area of communication - communicating with us, with their friends, with teachers or coaches, etc. Whether you have extroverted or introverted kids - this episode is for you. We touch on things like how to help your extroverted child find balance in discussions by letting others participate, and teaching introverted children how to feel comfortable in conversations to create strong friendships and excel at school. We also discuss how to approach difficult topics, especially with our significant others. And we end the episode elaborating on the importance of apologies and why this comes easily to some, not so easily to others, and some techniques to help bridge that gap. Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Use code ‘HERSELF’ for 10% off your Team SuperCrew purchase, PLUS free gift!Free sample pack with purchase of LMNTFollow Dr. Alison Wood Brooks on InstagramAlison’s WebsitePurchase Alison’s Book; “Talk: The science of conversation and the art of being ourselves”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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274. Abby + Amy: How To Feel Good in Adult Friendships
We all have twenty four hours in a day. And when your plate is full with things like a romantic relationship, kids, a career, keeping up your home and taking care of pets, friends, and other obligations, every piece on that plate gets a designated amount of your time. Some seasons of life, the time you have for friends is plentiful - thinking back to our youth with school friends, college friends, and friends at your first job. Friendships came easily then because you had the time to pour into them. Now as adults, it can be hard to find the time to create new and meaningful friendships or keep existing friendships going. Today on the podcast, we are sitting down to have a conversation about our experiences with friendships through our seasons of life. We share the concept about friendship “tiers” and how that relates to our new and existing relationships, our most important values in friendship, and what we feel about friendships with the opposite sex. Our goal is that after listening to today’s episode, you feel hopeful that whether your friendship cup is big or small for your current season of life, that your cup can be full!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’20% off your first purchase of Vuori ClothingCheck out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’Episode “59: HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on the Challenges and Triumphs of Adult Friendships”KU Med professor, J. A. Hall’s article, “How many hours does it take to make a friend?”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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273. Keeping Our Kids Healthy This Sick Season with Dr. Kelly Fradin
The winter season can feel long for a number of reasons, especially if you live in a cold climate like us! Illnesses going around at school or daycare seem to be constant and our kids are always catching something. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Kelly Fradin on the podcast today to talk with us about how to keep our kiddos healthy during this season, when to seek additional help for issues such as tonsils and sleep problems, and we even touch on our children’s mental health too. As a pediatrician and mother of two, Dr. Kelly shares the concerns of keeping our children healthy. Having graduated from Harvard College and Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons and years of experience working in public health and schools, we knew Dr. Kelly’s outstanding credentials would make her the perfect guest to share tips and tricks to help keep our kiddos healthy, mind and body, during this cold and flu season! Be sure to share this one with a friend in solidarity and share on your socials, tagging us @herselfpodcast! Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT10% off your first month of BETTERHELPFollow Dr. Kelly Fradin on InstagramDr. Kelly’s WebsitePurchase Dr. Kelly’s Book; “Advanced Parenting: Advice for Helping Kids Through Diagnoses, Differences, and Mental Health Challenges”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother? Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.
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