The KYLO Show

• Navigating Family Dynamics with Courage and Clarity

  This week on The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney take us to Vancouver, Washington, where they respond to powerful audience questions about family disconnection, political disagreements, and parenting through transition. Whether it's a daughter using "boundaries" to cut off relationship, a seventeen-year-old disrupting family game night, or a holiday skipped because of political differences, the heart of this episode is about restoring connection without compromising your values. With wisdom, laughter, and plenty of real talk, Danny and Brittney offer practical tools for loving your people without losing yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between boundaries and punishment in relationships. How fear drives disconnection—and how love casts it out. Why adult children sometimes distance themselves and how to rebuild trust. What to do when siblings in the same home become strangers. How to build a culture of respect in your home through shared family values. Key Takeaways: Boundaries keep the door open for reconciliation. Punishment shuts it. When a child disconnects, start by asking: “Do I have a mess to clean up?” Family time is a culture you create, not an obligation you force. Your job isn’t to control your adult kids—it’s to become a trusted friend. Clarifying your family values (like a “Family Creed”) helps everyone know what’s expected and what matters most. Join the Conversation: Have you ever been on the receiving end of a "boundary" that felt more like rejection? Or maybe you're a parent learning to navigate new dynamics with adult children. We'd love to hear from you—join us at www.thekyloshow.com and tell us how you're learning to keep your love on. Stay Connected: Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell

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• Building Boundaries and Belonging

  Whether you’re single, parenting adult children, or recovering from relational pain, this episode is packed with wisdom for staying powerful in the face of disconnection. Recorded live at Eden Church in Newcastle, Washington, Danny and Brittney answer real audience questions about singleness, narcissism, motherhood, boundaries, and healing from toxic relationships. They share stories, scriptures, and practical tools for cultivating healthy identity, confronting manipulation with courage, and protecting connection without enabling dysfunction. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to build strong relationships without losing themselves. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why the KYLO 5 is essential—especially when you’re single. How to create joy-filled, life-giving relationships that align with your purpose. What real boundaries look like when dealing with manipulative or toxic adult children. How to differentiate between your role and God's role in your child's life. Why Jesus is the ultimate model of healthy boundaries. Key Takeaways: Singleness isn’t waiting—it's preparation: Cultivating self-love, healthy community, and clear boundaries now sets the stage for healthy connection later. Love isn’t enabling: Setting boundaries with someone you love—even your child—isn’t cruelty, it’s wisdom. You are not your child’s savior: Your job is to love them, not rescue them. Trust Jesus to be who only He can be. Boundaries aren’t rejection: They’re protection—for you, and for the relationship. Jesus had perfect boundaries: He never violated another person’s will, even in crisis. He honored self-control and invited ownership. Join the Conversation: Have you had to set a hard boundary with someone you love? How did you stay connected without being controlled? We’d love to hear your story. Connect with us online or submit a question at www.thekyloshow.com. Stay Connected: Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell

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• When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People

  What do you do when your feedback is met with stonewalling, shutdowns, or accusations? In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney return with more live Q&A from their tour stop in Newcastle, Washington, tackling tough questions about feedback, conflict, narcissism, and relational disconnect. Through personal stories and real-life coaching moments, they offer wisdom for navigating relationships where feedback feels impossible and disconnection seems inevitable. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a one-sided relationship or struggled to confront dysfunction in love, this episode will equip you to stay powerful, connected, and courageous. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What to do when someone resists or shuts down your feedback. How to stay calm, clear, and connected when emotions run high. Why asking “What did you hear me say?” is a game-changer for clarity. The difference between repentance and self-justification in broken trust. How to approach accusations of narcissism in a culture that overuses the term. Key Takeaways: Don’t confuse judgment for feedback: True feedback is sharing your experience, not labeling or controlling the other person. Safe connection takes time: If someone has never experienced feedback as love, they may need consistent safety before they engage. Stay powerful, even when others aren’t: You get to choose self-control, honor, and clarity, regardless of how the other person responds. Build trust with repetition: Healing relational dynamics takes practice, courage, and time—not a one-time conversation. Repentance isn’t promises—it’s change: When trust is broken, words don’t restore it—consistent changed behavior does. Join the Conversation: Have you ever struggled to give feedback to someone who wouldn’t receive it? What helped you stay connected and powerful? Let us know by leaving a review or connecting on socials. Stay Connected: Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell

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• Live from New Castle: How to Stay Connected Even When Emotions Run High

  When fear, anger, and disconnection enter a relationship, it’s easy to slip into control, self-protection, or power struggles. In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney answer live audience questions from the KYLO Show Tour and talk about the battle to stay connected even when emotions run high. They share personal stories about rebuilding trust in marriage, navigating conflict with respect, and overcoming deception in relationships. If you want to create a culture of love, accountability, and healthy communication, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and encouragement. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to stay courageous when building trust in a wounded relationship. Why connection—not control—should be your goal in conflict. Practical ways to manage fear and anger without damaging connection. How to recognize and respond to deception without breaking relationship. Why feedback, accountability, and a listening posture protect healthy connection. Key Takeaways: Connection heals fear: Staying connected in the middle of conflict is more powerful than rushing to fix or control the situation. Courage builds trust: Committing to connection, even when you feel hurt or scared, transforms relationships over time. Self-awareness is key: Recognizing your own fear, anger, or self-justification is critical to building safe, lasting connection. Feedback protects growth: Inviting honest feedback and staying accountable to others helps you stay out of deception and isolation. Join the Conversation: Where have you experienced the power of connection in the middle of conflict? We’d love to hear your story! Share with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message. Stay Connected: Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell

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• Live from Coeur d’Alene Pt. 2: Connection vs Control in Parenting

  We’re back with part two of The KYLO Show live from our tour stop in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho! While Brittney was still down for the count with the flu (we missed her!), our good friend and Resolute Church pastor Katie Ann Browning returns to co-host alongside Danny. This episode goes deep into the heart of parenting teens without power struggles, shame, or fear. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, powerless, or unsure how to parent in a way that cultivates connection without losing authority—this one’s for you. We also explore how healing our own shame is essential to raising emotionally healthy kids—and how to stay anchored in love, even when your kid says, "You suck." What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why connection—not control—is your superpower in parenting How to handle disrespect and scary behavior without losing your peace Tools for breaking power struggle cycles with your kids Why your own healing journey is crucial to raising whole, healthy children The role of shame, and how it sabotages both parenting and marriage Key Takeaways Fear fuels control. When we’re disconnected from our kids, fear takes over—and controlling them becomes our default. Connection is the goal, not control. Staying relationally connected through conflict is more powerful than punishment. You’re not powerless. You don’t control your child—but you do control access, resources, and your response. Shame blocks love. If you struggle to receive love or extend it, shame is likely at the root. Do the inner work—it’s the best gift you can give your family. Repetition builds character. Inner healing matters, but tools and practice are what carry you through real-life conflict. Practical Parenting Tools Mentioned Use phrases like “I know,” “Probably so,” and “Nice try” to avoid power struggles Establish connection before correction Practice calm, confident boundaries with natural consequences Stay close in the middle of scary choices to build long-term trust Do the inner healing work to break shame cycles before they get passed down Books Referenced Loving Your Kids on Purpose by Danny Silk Imperfect Parenting by Brittney Serpell Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk Unpunishable by Danny Silk The Way of the Dragon Slayer by Danny Silk Stay Connected Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose Instagram: @brittneyserpell

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