Mission Imperfect: navigating life with coaches Kirsty and Kathryn

It’s probably no surprise we are talking about new year resolutions for this episode, our first of 2025!  We discuss our aversion to SMART goals, and some general pitfalls of new year resolutions… and yet we both concede that we are in favour of direction, purpose and thinking about how we want to be and feel. So we’ve decided to talk about resolutions (at any time) the Kirsty and Kathryn way!  We also discover that Kathryn can’t say ‘2025’ which could be problematic for the next 364 days, and Kirsty ties us in knots with a double negative brain teaser and coins the term ‘mental biscuit’.  Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:  ‘How do you want to be feeling at the end of 2025?’ Resources: The 4 questions to journal on about what you want to do differently: What happens if I do do this? What happens if I don’t do this? What doesn’t happen if I do this? What doesn’t happen if I don’t do this? Kathryn’s blog on the anti-resolutions perspective: https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/the-anti-new-year-resolutions-perspective Kirsty’s blog on goals: https://www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk/post/we-all-have-goals-even-if-we-ve-chosen-not-to Find us here: Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com                                        Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk                        And on social media here: Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball   Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Something a little different for Christmas Day and the lead-in to the new year: inspired by the 12 days of Christmas, we have a series of coaching questions for you, (very) loosely connected to the days of the song. Don’t worry: there’s no singing from us…relief all around! Today’s (last!) question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode: ‘Which of the suggestions for the 12 days of Christmas do you definitely want (or don’t want) to do?’ Here's a copy of the 12 days of Christmas 'worksheet' with all the questions we ask during the episode: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1WgMhARI0ojz4jKQm89DKC8rLLnxJRKy6/view?usp=sharing Find us here: Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk                       Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com And on social media here: Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/ Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball  

The paradox of selflessness…we tie ourselves in knots considering how you’re supposed to give of yourself if you’re not supposed to have a self; ponder the middle ground between selfless and selfish (self-full??); discuss whether the practice of preventative mental and emotional self-care is really fully ingrained in society, and agree that giving of ourselves doesn’t mean sacrificing ourselves. We also use the word frippery, which should happen more often, and reference being burnt at the stake, which shouldn’t. Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode: Consider an area in your life where you’re feeling drained and resentful (or in danger of being so) by what you’re giving: what are you telling yourself about why you have to keep doing it, and how true is it? Resources: https://www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk/post/the-selfless-paradox Find us here: Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com And on social media here: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/ LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

It may not be in the dictionary – yet – but what we mean by ‘comparisonitis’ (comparing ourselves, mostly unfavourably, to others) is a trap we can often fall into! We discuss how comparisons start but how they actually provide an unhelpful and unfair measure of ‘how am I doing?’ – which is really the question we want to be answering.  Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:  ‘If you find yourself comparing, what can you say to yourself that is helpful in that moment?’ Find us here: Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk And on social media here: Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball   Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/