Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

What do you do when everything feels hard, nothing feels particularly good, and you no longer trust that the things you've always wanted are actually going to happen?
In this deeply reflective coaching session, Christine works with Jeni, who has spent the last three years navigating an overwhelming season of loss and change. A relationship ended. A new relationship that made her feel truly seen also ended. The job she loved came to an end. Her beloved cat was diagnosed with cancer. Her friend group disappeared. And at the same time, hormonal changes and perimenopause made it harder to simply push through life the way she always had.
But as Christine explores Jeni's story, it becomes clear that this feeling didn't begin three years ago. Underneath the recent losses is a much older belief: that who Jeni naturally is isn't quite good enough.
Growing up, Jeni learned that love, approval, and connection often depended on behaving the "right" way. Over time, people-pleasing and self-judgment disconnected her from her own inner compass. When you're continually taught—directly or indirectly—that your preferences, feelings, or choices are wrong, it becomes difficult to trust yourself at all.
Christine helps Jeni recognize that what feels like being stuck may actually be an invitation to reclaim herself. Rather than searching for another external solution, this season may be asking her to stop relating to herself the way she was related to as a child.
And that doesn't require one enormous breakthrough.
Healing can happen through tiny moments of awareness, compassion, self-acceptance, and choosing differently. Sometimes the biggest transformation begins with simply noticing the pattern instead of automatically believing it.
If life has felt gray lately, if you've lost faith in what you once wanted, or if you're exhausted from trying to fix yourself, this episode offers a compassionate reminder that you don't have to figure everything out today.
Press play to explore how small, consistent acts of self-trust and self-love can begin reconnecting you with the person you've always been underneath the protective patterns.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Does life feel harder or "grayer" than it used to?
Did you grow up believing you needed to behave a certain way to receive love, approval, or acceptance?
Do you struggle to trust your own desires, opinions, or decisions?
Are you highly critical of yourself because you learned early that who you naturally were wasn't enough?
Are you waiting for a massive breakthrough instead of acknowledging the smaller steps you're already taking?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Major seasons of loss can reveal patterns and wounds that have been operating underneath the surface for years.
People-pleasing can disconnect us from our own inner compass and make it difficult to know or trust what we truly want.
When children don't feel fully accepted, they may conclude that something is wrong with them rather than recognizing the limitations of their caregivers.
Constant self-judgment can develop from trying to figure out how to become "good enough" to receive love and validation.
What feels like depression or emotional grayness can sometimes include years of repressed feelings and suppressed self-expression.
Protective patterns may resist healing because familiar discomfort can feel safer than an unknown future.
Healing doesn't require a dramatic breakthrough. Small moments of awareness and safety matter.
Reparenting means choosing not to continue relating to yourself in the same ways you were related to as a child.
Acceptance and forward movement can coexist: you can accept where you are while still committing to the next step.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice when you're criticizing yourself without immediately trying to stop the criticism. Begin simply with: "I'm criticizing myself right now."
Once that awareness becomes easier, try adding: "I forgive myself for criticizing myself."
Eventually, ask: "What else could I tell myself right now?"
Write your own "parenting manual" for yourself. How do you want to respond when you're scared, triggered, disappointed, or judging yourself?
When fear arises during deeper emotional work, consider whether the fear actually means "stop" or whether it's a protective part responding to something unfamiliar.
Celebrate small moments when you stay present with a difficult emotion instead of expecting yourself to have a massive breakthrough.
Practice giving yourself a little more love, understanding, compassion, and patience today than you did yesterday.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine has opened her roster to additional private coaching clients. If you're navigating a season where everything feels difficult, you're experiencing significant loss or transition, or you're ready to explore deeper patterns with personalized support, you can learn more about working directly with Christine.
Learn more about one-on-one coaching with Christine
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring individual toe articulation designed to support more natural movement and a barefoot-style experience.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link

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Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
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What if you're saying exactly what you mean—but somehow you're still not getting the connection you want?
In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Gaby, a self-described direct communicator who has become increasingly disappointed by the way friends and family respond when she tries to address hurt feelings or problems in their relationships.
After becoming a mother, Gaby found herself less willing to tolerate behaviors that didn't feel good to her. She began speaking up more clearly, expecting that honesty would open the door to deeper conversations and stronger relationships. Instead, many of the people closest to her seemed to retreat, become defensive, or avoid the conversation altogether.
That leaves Gaby wondering: If I'm the common denominator, am I the problem?
Christine offers a different perspective. Gaby's directness isn't necessarily the problem—but the order of her communication may be getting in the way of what she actually wants: connection.
Together, they explore emotional validation, vulnerability, defensiveness, motherhood, inner child healing, and the difference between communicating what's true and communicating it in a way another person can actually receive. Christine introduces a simple but powerful framework: connection first. Connect before you correct. Connect before you ask. Connect before you collaborate.
If you've ever thought, "But I'm just being honest," only to have someone become defensive or shut down, this conversation will help you understand why—and give you practical language for approaching difficult conversations differently.
Press play to learn how adding vulnerability, curiosity, and connection to your directness can help you communicate your needs without abandoning your truth.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you pride yourself on being direct but often find that other people become defensive?
When you're hurt, are you communicating because you want connection—or because you want the other person to understand what they did wrong?
Did you grow up feeling emotionally validated, seen, and supported when someone hurt you?
Are you offering solutions when the person in front of you may simply want to be heard?
Are you asking the right people to meet your emotional needs—or going to the proverbial "Chinese restaurant when you want nachos"?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Being direct doesn't automatically create connection.
Sometimes what we want more than a solution is simply to feel seen.
A lifetime of not feeling emotionally validated can make being understood feel especially important in adult relationships.
Directness without enough vulnerability or curiosity can unintentionally activate defensiveness.
The phrases "The story I'm making up in my head is..." and "What I'm making that mean is..." can help create personal responsibility while lowering another person's defensiveness.
Connecting before correcting, asking, or collaborating can completely change the tone of a difficult conversation.
Part of inner child healing is learning how to communicate as an adult in ways that make it more likely our needs will be met.
Even excellent communication can't guarantee someone will meet you emotionally. Discernment about who is capable of giving you what you need still matters.
How to Deepen the Work
Before an important conversation, ask yourself: "How can I connect with this person first?"
Experiment with replacing accusations or conclusions with curiosity: "The story I'm making up in my head is..."
When someone shares a struggle with you, pause before offering a solution and consider whether they may simply need validation.
Notice whether anger or hurt is leading your communication. Give those feelings a healthy place to be expressed before entering the conversation.
Practice taking responsibility for your side of the communication without taking responsibility for the other person's response.
Remember Christine's framework: connection first, connection first, connection first.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine has opened a few additional spots in her private coaching practice for people who want individualized support, validation, and transformational coaching.
Learn more and apply at:
christinehassler.com/coaching
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to provide a barefoot-style experience while still offering cushioning for everyday movement, fitness, and athletic activities. Its individual five-toe articulation allows each toe to move separately and supports more natural foot movement.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link
 
Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist
Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com

Sarah Tacy Tangredi is a nervous system specialist and somatic guide for moms who are done with burnout and overfunctioning. She helps clients move from urgency to choice, from survival patterns to deep self-trust, and into a more human pace where vitality, clarity, and mystery can coexist.
Her work blends neuroscience, somatic healing, and sacred strategy to support women in reclaiming their wholeness. She's the creator of Resourced a 12 Week nervous system repatterning journey, and host of the Threshold Moments podcast, known for her grounded presence and ability to hold space for what's real, raw, and ready to rise.
Sarah is an evolving mother, wife, and friend. She believes that the body is always speaking to us, and if we can create space and support on as many dimensions as possible, repair and transformation will unfold.
Join her for a free online event on Sept 10th called "Opting Out of Urgency" that will help you move from chronic over-responsibility and rush to choice and ease.
Register here:
christinehassler.com/workshop

What if receiving love and support feels almost as uncomfortable as the pain you're already carrying?
In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Maryam, an Iranian woman living in Norway who is struggling with grief, fear, and guilt as she witnesses tremendous suffering in her homeland while her family remains in Iran.
At the same time, Maryam has built a beautiful life with a loving husband who consistently shows up for her. He listens, comforts her, walks with her, and gives her space to grieve. Yet instead of simply receiving his support, Maryam often finds herself apologizing for needing it.
Underneath that guilt is a powerful question: If people I love are suffering, is it okay for me to feel safe, supported, and loved?
Christine helps Maryam explore how trauma can condition the nervous system to expect chaos and suffering—making safety and love feel unfamiliar when they finally arrive. Sometimes, without realizing it, we may even add guilt to positive experiences as a way of recalibrating back toward what feels familiar.
Together, they explore collective grief, survivor's guilt, highly sensitive nervous systems, receiving in relationships, and the difference between compassionately witnessing suffering and believing you must suffer alongside someone in order to love them.
If you've ever felt guilty for having something another person doesn't, struggled to receive help without apologizing, or believed that your own happiness somehow minimizes someone else's pain, this conversation offers a powerful invitation to choose differently.
Press play to discover why your suffering doesn't relieve someone else's—and how allowing yourself to receive love may actually give you greater capacity to offer love in return.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you feel guilty receiving support when other people are struggling?
Is it easier for you to care for others than to allow someone to care for you?
Do you unconsciously believe that suffering alongside someone proves how much you love them?
When something good enters your life, do you find yourself waiting for something bad to happen or creating additional worry?
Can you allow yourself to experience safety and love even when suffering exists elsewhere?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Compassion for another person's suffering doesn't require adding unnecessary suffering to your own life.
Trauma can orient the nervous system toward chaos, making love, safety, and support feel unfamiliar.
Guilt can become a way of limiting how much goodness we're willing to receive.
Receiving support doesn't make you less compassionate, committed, or connected to the people you care about.
Rejecting support can also prevent someone you love from experiencing the gift and purpose of supporting you.
Your suffering does not automatically lessen someone else's suffering.
Receiving love can expand your capacity to give love.
Sometimes healing means allowing your nervous system to recalibrate to safety instead of continually tethering itself to pain.
How to Deepen the Work
When you notice yourself apologizing for needing support, try replacing "I'm sorry" with "Thank you," "I love you," or "I'm grateful you're here with me."
Notice what happens in your body when someone offers you love, comfort, or support without asking for anything in return.
Remind yourself that it is safe to receive—even when other parts of your life or the world feel uncertain.
Ask yourself whether your suffering is actually helping the situation you're concerned about.
Give yourself permission to step away from collective pain at times and return to the reality of your own present moment.
Practice receiving support without immediately feeling obligated to reciprocate it.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring five-toe articulation, which gives each toe its own space and supports more natural movement while walking or running.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link
Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist
Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com

Regena Thomashauer — better known as Mama Gena — is a bestselling author, teacher, feminist icon, and founder of the School of Womanly Arts, which she started in her living room in 1998 and has since grown into a global movement.
For more than three decades, Regena has helped women reconnect to the parts of themselves we've been taught to suppress — our bodies, our desires, our emotions, and our pleasure. At the heart of her work is the belief that pleasure is a form of power, and that when a woman is fully connected to herself and what she wants, it changes how she moves through every area of her life.
She is the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation, and her work has reached hundreds of thousands of women around the world. Her teachings are an invitation for women to reclaim their feminine power, raise their standards, and live with more truth, turn-on, and freedom.
Today we talk about her newest book: On Our Knees which offers a new map for navigating heartbreak, uncertainty, loss, and reinvention.