Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

Today we're diving into one of the most transformative conversations happening in mental health right now. My guest is Keith Kurlander, a psychotherapist, co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute, and an expert in trauma and psychedelic-assisted therapy. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Keith has helped thousands of people access real, lasting healing.

We're talking about the potential benefits of psychedelic therapy and microdosing, what trauma actually is and how it gets locked in the body, and most importantly—how psychedelics can unlock doors that conventional therapy often misses. Keith's new book, Psychedelic Therapy: A Revolutionary Approach to Restoring Your Mental Health and Reclaiming Your Life, is a New York Times and USA Today bestseller that breaks down how psychedelics uniquely target the root causes of anxiety, depression, and PTSD.
Also if you are interested in learning more about microdosing, check out Golden Rule at christinehassler.com/mirco

What happens when you stay quiet in a relationship for too long?
In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Mel, who has been in a long-term partnership of over 16 years. While there is still love between them, ongoing conflict, emotional disconnection, and unspoken needs have created a relationship dynamic where Mel feels like she's doing all the emotional work—while her partner withdraws, avoids, or shuts down.
As they unpack the situation, a powerful pattern emerges: the cost of silence.
Mel realizes that in trying to keep the peace, she has slowly disconnected from her own needs—over-functioning, people-pleasing, and tolerating behaviors that deeply impact her sense of safety and well-being.
Christine introduces the concept of the "merging pattern"—where one partner over-functions and the other under-functions—and shows how true healing requires not just internal work, but external expression: speaking up, setting boundaries, and advocating for what you need.
If you've ever felt like you're "doing all the work" in a relationship, or you're afraid to speak up because of how the other person might react, this episode will challenge and empower you.
Press play to discover why your voice matters—and how reclaiming it can transform your relationships. 
 
Consider / Ask Yourself
Are you holding back your true needs to avoid conflict in a relationship?
Do you feel like you're doing all the emotional work while your partner withdraws?
Are you over-functioning or people-pleasing to keep the peace?
What needs have you not clearly expressed or advocated for?
 
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Silence in relationships often leads to resentment, disconnection, and imbalance.
Over-functioning in one partner can enable under-functioning in the other.
True self-love includes advocating for your needs—not just meeting them yourself.
Taking things personally can activate survival patterns that keep you stuck.
Healthy relationships require clear communication, boundaries, and shared responsibility.
 
How to Deepen the Work
Reflect on where you may be tolerating behaviors that don't align with your needs.
Identify and write down your core relationship needs—get specific.
Practice expressing your needs clearly and calmly, even if it feels uncomfortable.
Consider seeking support (coaching or counseling) to navigate deeper relational patterns.
 
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
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In this episode, I'm joined by tapping expert Jessica Ortner for a powerful, experiential session using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or stuck in patterns you can't seem to think your way out of, this episode gives you a tool you can actually use in the moment.
Jessica walks us through a guided tapping sequence designed to calm the nervous system, reduce stress, and help rewire the emotional patterns that keep you looping in anxiety or overwhelm. This isn't just a conversation—you'll have the opportunity to follow along and feel the shift in real time.
We also talk about why tapping works, how it helps regulate your body (not just your mind), and how you can start using it in your daily life to create more ease, resilience, and emotional freedom.
You can go deeper with Jessica's work by downloading The Tapping Solution App and checking out her new book Rewired(available on Amazon).
Whether you're new to tapping or already familiar with EFT, this episode will leave you feeling more grounded, resourced, and empowered with a simple, effective tool for navigating stress.

Is your stress about money really about money—or something deeper?
In this insightful and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Jody, who is navigating a major life transition after a 20-year marriage. As she steps into financial independence for the first time, she's facing intense fear, overwhelm, and a deep sense of scarcity.
But as the conversation unfolds, a powerful truth emerges: Jody's struggle isn't actually about money—it's about years of conditioning around worth, safety, and control.
Christine helps Jody uncover how childhood patterns, people-pleasing, and a history of shrinking herself have shaped her relationship with money—and how this moment of change is actually an opportunity to reclaim her power.
If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances, doubted your ability to support yourself, or tied your worth to your financial situation, this episode will help you see what's really going on beneath the surface.
Press play to learn how stepping into your worth—not just your wallet—is the real path to abundance. 
 
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you feel anxious or overwhelmed when it comes to money or financial decisions?
Have you ever given your financial power over to someone else?
Do you associate safety with "staying small" or avoiding risk?
Are your financial fears actually rooted in deeper emotional patterns?
 
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Financial stress is often a reflection of deeper nervous system patterns—not just numbers.
Scarcity can come from years of shrinking, people-pleasing, and loss of autonomy.
Major life transitions (like divorce) can be powerful opportunities to reclaim personal and financial power.
Abundance begins with expanding out of contraction—not just earning more money.
Support is a key component of an abundance mindset—you don't have to figure everything out alone.
 
How to Deepen the Work
Reflect on your earliest memories and beliefs about money and worth.
Notice where you may be bracing, contracting, or avoiding when it comes to finances.
Practice receiving support—whether emotional, practical, or financial guidance.
Explore what truly matters to you and begin aligning your spending with your values.
 
Resource Mentioned in This Episode
Good With Money Workshop + Relaxed Money Program with Kate Northrup
Christine recommends this resource for both practical financial strategy and deeper emotional healing around money.
Learn more at:
christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney 
 
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In You Could Be Having Better S-x  Dr. Nicole McNichols—dubbed "America's #1 S*x Professor" and one of the most popular lecturers at the University of Washington—translates cutting-edge research and data into a modern guide to pleasure, intimacy, and connection.
 
Her relatable, science-backed approach has turned her into a true sensation, both in the lecture hall and online, where her highly-engaged following of over half a million (Instagram and TikTok) looks to her for real talk about what stokes desire and builds confidence.
 
McNichols argues that pleasure is foundational to overall well-being. Her McNichols Hierarchy of Sexual Needs offers a roadmap for exploring s-x as self-knowledge
And remember, you could be having a better experience with money too! Don't miss this FREE workshop: www.christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney