The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox

Ever decided you weren't going to drink, only to find yourself negotiating with that familiar voice in your head a few hours later?
"You've had a long week."
"Just a couple won't hurt."
"You can always start again on Monday."
Sound familiar?
In episode 261 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, men's life and sober coach Patrick Fox explores why the voice telling you to drink isn't necessarily the voice you need to listen to.
Our brains are brilliant at learning habits, and sometimes the urge to drink is simply an echo of past behaviours rather than a reflection of what we genuinely want.
Patrick shares a personal experiment he's been trying to interrupt habitual urges: talking to himself out loud.
It might sound a little strange, but speaking out loud can help break the hypnotic spell of an urge, interrupt familiar thought patterns and reconnect you with the decisions you've already made.
In this episode, Patrick explores:
Why drinking urges can feel so convincing, even when you've decided to stop drinking.

How habitual thoughts can keep you stuck in the same internal negotiations.

Why speaking out loud might help you respond differently to alcohol cravings.

What one client's first 30 alcohol-free days reveal about moving beyond the constant mental battle.

A simple three-step exercise to try the next time an urge appears.

The takeaway? You don't have to believe every thought your brain offers you, and you certainly don't have to act on it.
That voice might simply be an echo of your past.
But you get to decide what you say, and what you do, next.
Your challenge this week: Recognise the urge. Get curious. Speak out loud.
Give it a try and let Patrick know what happens.
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Ben Coombes loved skiing, but each trip seemed to pull him back into the same cycle of heavy drinking, anxiety and feeling as though he wasn’t living up to his potential.
In episode 260 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks with Ben about the decision to spend an entire ski season alcohol-free. What began as a challenge to himself became Soberski, a way for others to enjoy the mountains without the expectation to drink.
Ben shares how he built confidence one commitment at a time, why he was surprised by the support he received in a party resort, and what happened when he put his energy into something he cared about.
Awesome things you’ll hear about:
Why a frightening health scare didn’t immediately change Ben’s drinking

The moment he realised alcohol was getting in the way of the life he wanted

How a sober ski season helped him build self-trust

What guests experience on a Soberski alcohol-free ski retreat

Why enjoying a holiday without alcohol can open up possibilities beyond the holiday itself

Whether you ski or not, this conversation is an invitation to question what you’ve been told you need alcohol to enjoy.
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Have you ever noticed that once you feel annoyed, stressed or anxious, your mind starts finding even more reasons to feel that way?
In episode 259 of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick shares a story about a difficult school run, that invloved four dog poos and a full-blown argument with an environmental officer who didn’t actually exist.
It became a funny but revealing example of how the mind can take a familiar emotion and build an entire story around it.
Patrick explores the idea of your “emotional home,” the feelings you return to so regularly that they begin to feel like part of who you are.
He explains how your emotional state can influence what you notice, remember and imagine, and why this can turn a frustrating moment into a bad day.
He also looks at how these emotional patterns can fuel the desire to drink, why alcohol only provides temporary relief and how awareness can help you interrupt the cycle without judging or suppressing what you feel.
Awesome things you’ll hear about:
The imaginary argument that revealed what Patrick’s mind was doing

What an emotional home is and how yours may have developed

Why familiar emotions are not necessarily helpful emotions

How your mood influences the thoughts and stories your mind creates

Why an imaginary situation can produce a very real emotional reaction

The connection between stress, emotional patterns and the desire to drink

Why changing your relationship with alcohol involves more than removing the drink

How to notice an emotional spiral before it takes over your day

Four questions to help you identify your own emotional home

If you’re ready to understand the thoughts, emotions and patterns behind your drinking, find out more about DISRUPT, Patrick’s signature group coaching programme, using the link below.
DISRUPT Group Coaching Program - Starts Oct 6th 2026

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What does 'doing the work' mean once not drinking is no longer the main focus of your life?
In episode 258 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores how the work changes as someone matures in sobriety.
In the beginning, it might mean managing alcohol cravings, changing routines and understanding drinking patterns. But as alcohol becomes less important, the focus begins to shift from how to stop drinking towards what to do with the life, energy and clarity that sobriety has created.
Patrick explores the difference between contentment and complacency, why life after quitting alcohol can begin to feel ordinary and how personal growth can become another way of telling yourself that you’re still not good enough.
This episode is for anyone who has made good progress with alcohol but has started to feel as though life is simply happening around them.
Get ready to hear about:
How “doing the work” evolves in long-term sobriety
Why alcohol becoming quiet is both progress and a potential risk
The difference between enjoying life and disengaging from it
How to avoid turning sobriety into another self-improvement project
One practical question to help you reconnect with your life

The work doesn’t stop when alcohol is no longer the problem. It shifts from not drinking to how you choose to live.

Ready to DISRUPT?
If alcohol keeps pulling you back into the same cycle, DISRUPT will help you understand what is happening and start responding differently.
It’s Patrick’s signature 12-week group coaching programme for men who want to step out of autopilot, interrupt their drinking patterns and rebuild discipline, energy and self-trust.
With weekly live coaching, practical tools and the support of a small group of men, you’ll learn how to handle urges, stress, social pressure and setbacks without relying on willpower or endless rules. 
➡️ Find out more and join DISRUPT.

What motivates someone to stop drinking might not be what keeps them going?
In episode 257 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores how sober motivation needs to change and evolve alongside the person making the change.
Pain may create the initial breaking point. But what happens when the hangovers, anxiety and arguments begin to fade? When life starts feeling better, relying only on memories of how bad drinking felt may no longer be enough.
Patrick introduces three stages of sober motivation:
The Breaking Point: becoming honest about what alcohol is costing.

What’s Possible: recognising the progress, self-trust and opportunities being created without alcohol.

The Pull: becoming emotionally connected to a future that matters more than drinking.

He also shares why a reason such as health, family or work can sound important without feeling truly compelling, and how going deeper can turn a sensible reason into one that creates lasting change.
This episode is for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol, struggling to stay motivated in sobriety or wondering what comes after they stop drinking.
Because removing alcohol is not the final destination. It creates the capacity to build something more.
Pain might give someone a reason to stop. Progress gives them a reason to continue. Purpose gives them a future they refuse to trade for alcohol.
Cool things covered in this episode:
Why sober motivation naturally changes over time

How pain can provide the motivation to stop drinking

Why noticing progress helps rebuild self-trust

What to do when motivation to stay alcohol-free begins to fade

How to create an emotionally compelling reason for sobriety

Why purpose does not need to look impressive to anyone else

How to build a life in which alcohol becomes obsolete

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