

231. Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol
19/12/2025 | 17 mins.
In this episode, Patrick takes you behind the scenes of what his coaching sessions actually look like, and why reflection plays such a powerful role when rethinking alcohol.Most men are changing more than they realise. The problem is, those changes are often subtle, easy to miss, and rarely recognised as progress. Through real coaching examples and simple explanations, Patrick shows how reflection helps you notice what’s already shifting, how your brain learns through evidence, and why small changes matter far more than dramatic moments.If you’ve ever felt like you’re not making progress despite doing things differently, this episode will help you see what’s really happening and how to build momentum without forcing it.What you’ll learn in this episode:Why the start of a coaching session matters more than most people realiseHow reflection pulls you out of autopilot and into awarenessWhy change often shows up quietly in language, reactions, and what feels normalHow noticing small differences gives your brain the evidence it needs to changeWhy reflection helps change stick without overthinking or pressureKey takeaway:Change doesn’t usually arrive as a big moment. It shows up in ordinary places. Reflection is how you learn to spot it, reinforce it, and let your brain catch up with who you’re becoming.Reflection questions from the episode:What did I do, say, or think this week that would have surprised the old version of me?What felt a little easier or more normal this week compared to before?Where did I respond differently this week than I would have in the past, even in a small way?Mentioned in this episode:Atomic Habits by James ClearDisrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

230. 5 Years Sober & Thriving with Nigel Jones
12/12/2025 | 48 mins.
What really changes after five years without alcohol? And why does it matter more than you think?In this episode of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick Fox is joined by returning guest Nigel Jones to mark a huge milestone: five years of alcohol-free living.Nigel first appeared on the podcast a couple of years ago and the response was massive. This time, he’s back to reflect on what’s actually changed long-term, not just in the first few weeks or months, but after half a decade without alcohol in his life.Together, they explore the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual shifts that happen when alcohol is removed and replaced with presence, intention, and awareness. From heart health and weight loss to mindset, identity, and meaning, this conversation goes far beyond willpower and “just stopping drinking.”Nigel shares powerful, tangible examples that help reframe alcohol in a way most men have never considered, including the real cost to the body, the brain, and the life you’re building. They also talk about fear, beliefs, social pressure, and why so many men stay stuck not because they can’t change, but because they’re scared of what change might cost them.This is an honest, grounded conversation for men who are sober-curious, alcohol-aware, or already alcohol-free and wondering what’s possible long-term.In this episode, you’ll learn:What five years without alcohol actually changes physically, mentally, and emotionallyWhy stopping drinking often improves health faster than most men expectHow alcohol quietly shapes identity, beliefs, and behaviourWhy fear of stopping is usually bigger than the realityHow presence, clarity, and purpose return when alcohol leavesWhy alcohol-free living isn’t restrictive, it’s expansiveWhether you’re considering a break, doing Dry January, or already on the path, this episode offers perspective, evidence, and reassurance about what life can look like on the other side.Connect with Nigel BOOK & DRY JanuaryBuy The Book - % to alcohol Change UK - https://alcoholchange.org.uk/get-involved/donate/give-while-you-shopBook Website - www.9kmby9am.com/booksOfficial Dry January website - https://alcoholchange.org.uk/help-and-support/managing-your-drinking/dry-januaryGENERALWebsite - https://www.9kmby9am.com/Newsletter - https://www.9kmby9am.com/latest-news/newsletter/ Feel Good Hour Radio Ashford –https://www.9kmby9am.com/about-nigel/radio-ashford-the-feel-good-hour/Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

229. Failure Resistance
05/12/2025 | 23 mins.
Have you ever noticed how one small slip, one mistake, or even one word can send you spiralling into old patterns? In episode 229 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks about why so many men feel huge resistance around the idea of failing, and how that resistance then shapes and influences their attempts to rethink alcohol. Patrick shares how school, parenting and early experiences teach us that getting things 'wrong' is something to avoid. He also shares a personal moment from home where an innocent word triggered an old emotional reaction, and how that experience opened up a deeper conversation about identity, childhood wounds and the meaning we attach to failure. You'll hear insights from Gabor Maté and Amy Edmondson to show why our brains react the way they do, why avoidance can feel safer than trying, and why men often lean on willpower when what they really need is curiosity and compassion. Patrick explains how shifting the energy you bring to rethinking alcohol, from pressure to permission, completely changes your experience results. Get ready for a powerful question at the end of the show that will help you see what you’re truly proving to yourself every time you try to change your drinking.Awesome topics you'll hear in this epsiode: Old experiences shape how you react to mistakes today.Avoidance isn’t laziness, it’s emotional protection.Willpower burns out quickly, curiosity keeps you moving.Feeling safe to get things wrong is essential for growth.Failure is feedback, not identity.Sobriety works best when treated as a skill you develop.Resisting failure keeps you stuck in the same loop.The win isn’t avoiding the fall, it’s getting better at getting up.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

228. Bored Sober?
28/11/2025 | 24 mins.
What if the only reason sobriety feels boring is because your brain forgot what real fun is actually like?On episode 228 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox takes on one of the most stubborn myths men carry around about stopping drinking, that life without alcohol is flat, dull or somehow less exciting.... Spoiler - it’s not even close. Get ready to hear Patrick break down why that belief shows up, why it feels so believable at first, and why it couldn’t be further from the truth. With honest coaching stories, laughable real-life moments (including a dinner-table joke disaster that had the whole restaurant looking over), and insights every sober-curious guy will relate to, Patrick explains what’s really happening behind that early sense of 'boredom.' From the nervous system recalibrating to the sudden shift in how dopamine works, be prepared to start thinking about rethinking alcohol in a whole new way. He also introduces the three types of fun and reveals why most men unintentionally ditch type 1 fun (the easy, enjoyable stuff) and jump straight into type 2 (the hard work, delayed payoff). It’s no wonder things feel flat when guys accidentally turn early sobriety into a marathon. Patrick shows how to fix that fast. If you’ve ever worried that life won’t feel fun without a drink, this conversation will flip that belief on its head.Key Takeaways• The real reason sobriety can feel flat at first, and why it’s temporary• How alcohol overstimulates the brain and creates a false version of fun• The three types of fun (and why type 2 can accidentally take over)• Why comparing drunk fun to sober fun is an unfair fight• Simple ways to bring light, easy, everyday enjoyment back into your life• How calm can feel uncomfortable, and why that’s actually progress• Why redefining fun opens the door to more energy, curiosity and connectionA refreshing, funny and reassuring episode that reminds men they don’t need alcohol to enjoy life, they just need a new definition of fun.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

227. How David Quit Drinking and Rebuilt His Health, Identity and Life
21/11/2025 | 48 mins.
What if the moment that finally changes your life doesn't have to be dramatic at all, but a quiet realisation that you can’t keep living the way you have been? That’s exactly where this week’s guest David, found himself before everything shifted.On episode 227 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick speaks with long-time listener David, who shares his journey from being a daily drinker stuck in a cycle of weight gain, health scares, and repeated attempts to 'moderate one day,' to becoming completely alcohol-free and losing over 35 kilos in the process. A listener who first reached out years ago to share early wins, David now returns with the full story, one that you are bound to relate to.He talks openly about the wake-up calls he ignored, the relentless belief that moderation would eventually work, the years spent in the sober-curious phase, and the exact moment it all finally clicked. He also shares how quitting drinking helped him uncover deeper layers of himself, including understanding his ADHD and why his brain had always gravitated toward alcohol, dopamine and coping behaviours.This episode goes far beyond weight loss or stopping drinking.It’s about identity, resilience, self-awareness and the uncomfortable emotional work that comes after the alcohol is gone.Some awesome takeaways:• Why health warnings became the catalyst for changing his drinking• How one year alcohol-free didn’t stick, and why old habits returned• Why moderation is harder than we want to admit• The identity shift that follows when you stop fighting yourself• How neurodiversity, dopamine and addiction overlap• The power of building new neural pathways (and letting old ones fade)• Tools that helped David stay alcohol-free, including 'never question the decision' and playing the movie forward• What emotional sobriety really means• The incredible physical transformation, including over 35kg lostA huge thank you to David for sharing his journey so openly and honestly. If you’re rethinking alcohol yourself, pick one insight from this episode and put it into practice today.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox



The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox