Unbothered

Is he your person, or have you just invested too much time explaining his texts to your friends? Serena Kerrigan joins Chloe to talk dating the same guy in a different font, her three P theory (practice, potential, plot), and what makes “the one” feel so different from the rest. From staying too long to making your boyfriend your entire personality, consider this your guide to investing in yourself, building a life you love, and making room for someone without losing yourself or needing them to complete you.
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You wrote in, and Chloe is answering. This week’s inbox includes an ex who became a changed man the second it was too late, a casual fling whose personality disappeared after sex, a bedroom problem no one wants to say out loud, and a bride-to-be who discovered her fiancé had a secret life. Let’s get into it.

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He’s avoidant. She’s projecting. Or maybe they’re just being weird? Chloe sits down with The Psychology of Your 20s host Jemma Sbeg to talk about why uncertainty makes us obsessed, when psychoanalyzing turns into excuse-making, and why understanding someone doesn’t mean you have to tolerate them. Plus: unavailable men, healthy love, and the suspiciously productive power of heartbreak.

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If you want a family someday, it’s almost impossible not to do the math backward and wonder if you’re already behind when you haven’t met the love of your life by 25.
Somewhere along the way, that ticking clock can start creeping into the way women date, the way women leave, and what we're willing to settle for. You might find yourself staying a little too long in the wrong relationship because starting over means throwing the whole timeline back into the unknown.
So this week, Chloe is unpacking the biological clock itself: what actually happens to fertility as we move through our late 20s and 30s, why everyone is obsessed with 35, AMH, egg freezing, and how to have an ideal timeline without letting it become a deadline.

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Today I’m giving you my full dissertation on the chill girl because I have THOUGHTS. She’s low-maintenance, easygoing, never needy, never difficult. But how much of being “chill” is actually confidence, and how much is abandoning your own needs before someone else gets the chance to reject them?
Let’s get into where the chill girl came from, why women are so afraid of being “difficult,” and what it actually looks like to retire her for good.

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