Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend

This week we sit down with Helio, essayist, historian and cultural commentator, for a conversation that completely reshapes the way we think about empire, masculinity, queerness and power.

From Ancient Rome’s obsession with dominance and “bottom shaming”, to Emperor Hadrian deifying his lover Antinous… from Alexander the Great’s erased queer relationships to the ongoing exploitation of the Democratic Republic of the Congo, this episode travels across centuries to expose how colonialism didn’t just steal land, it rewrote history.

We explore how empires manufacture identity, how education becomes propaganda, how masculinity is weaponised, and why queerness has always existed, even though we may try to forget it.

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We're BUSY BEING BLACK! This week we sit down with Josh Rivers, creator and host of the award-winning podcast Busy Being Black, a platform centring queer Black joy, intimacy, spirituality and political consciousness.

Josh shares the origin story behind Busy Being Black, from a deeply personal dark night of the soul to building one of the most vital spaces for queer Black storytelling in the UK and beyond. We explore identity politics, shame, desire, anti-Blackness, and why visibility alone will never be liberation.

This is a conversation about spirit, softness, political awakening and remembering who you are beneath the labels.

If you’ve ever questioned your identity, your desires, or your place in the world, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, we’re joined by Jenny, founder of Meet Cute Cakes in Manchester, for a funny, intimate and unexpectedly deep conversation about love, identity, anxiety and building a life on your own terms.

Jenny talks about growing up, coming out, and why she’s never quite connected with labels, exploring queerness, internalised homophobia, and what it means to feel secure in your identity without needing to define it. 

Alongside the laughs, this episode gets real about panic attacks, anxiety, OCD, and the quiet ways mental health can shape big life moments including weddings, travel and social spaces. Jenny also shares how Meet Cute Cakes began, why “cute” doesn’t mean small, and how creativity, work and queerness often intertwine.

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In this episode, we’re joined by Jerome and Jacques, partners, creators and the people behind the viral cat duo Lupin and Rajah.
They share how a love story that began on a nightclub dance floor grew into a life together, a creative partnership, and an unexpected online following built around joy, softness and visibility in public spaces.

Jack opens up about growing up in France in the 1990s, experiencing homophobia at school, including being called “fagg*t” by a teacher and how those early experiences shaped his sense of safety, identity and self-expression. Together, they reflect on coming out, trauma, and the long process of learning to be visible without shrinking yourself.

We explore how Lupin and Rajah became emotional support animals, how cats changed the way strangers interact with them in public, and how social media transformed a personal coping mechanism into a global audience. 

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In this episode, we’re joined by Ali and Adam, a married queer couple whose relationship sits at the intersection of faith, politics, identity and love.

Ali, who is Muslim, Palestinian and Turkish, and Adam, who is Jewish, share how they met, fell in love and built a life together and how their marriage became a flashpoint for online debate, media attention and, at times, serious hostility.

They reflect on navigating religion, queerness and cultural expectations, coming out within very different family dynamics, and what it means to be constantly asked to “pick a side” in a world that struggles with nuance.

We explore how social media collapses complex identities into headlines, how algorithms amplify extremes, and why being visible can come with real emotional and physical costs. From dating, family acceptance and faith to Israel–Palestine, pinkwashing, online hate and the limits of performative allyship, this is a deeply human conversation about love, belonging and refusing simple narratives.