Emotional Regulation: How to Feel Your Feelings Flexibly
Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss how we can regulate our emotions by feeling, managing, and processing them more effectively. They begin by unpacking common misconceptions and clarifying what healthy regulation looks like - feeling our feelings without being overwhelmed by them. From there, they walk through the three key steps of emotional regulation, focusing on practical tools like cognitive defusion and opposite action. Topics include interoception, the window of tolerance, cognitive bypassing, suppression/repression, and finding a balance between acceptance and agency.
Key Topics:
1:59: What Does Emotional Regulation Look Like?
6:08: The Three Aspects of Emotional Regulation
12:35: Step 1: Feeling Your Feelings
27:20: Step 2: Managing Your Feelings
58:50: Step 3: Processing (and maybe expressing) Your Feelings
1:10:10: Recap
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Trauma or Personality, When to Walk Away, and Burnout: October Mailbag
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about trauma and its impact on personality, boundaries, anger, and burnout. They discuss how to distinguish the authentic self from the patterns we needed to learn to survive, how to balance duty to self with duty to others, and how to work with explosive anger by first joining with it. Finally, they discuss the importance of moving from empathic distress to compassion in order to prevent caregiver fatigue. Topics include cognitive defusion, taking a bird’s eye view, filling your own cup, and being with your feelings without judging them.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
01:30: Question 1: Trauma or Personality?
07:53: Question 2: Managing Boundaries with a Depressed Partner
28:32: Question 3: Dealing with Explosive Anger
37:45: Question 4: How to Prevent Caregiver Fatigue
47:16: Recap
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The Psychology of Resentment: Over-Functioning, Repression, and Repair
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the silent killer of relationships: resentment. They discuss resentment as a combination of perceived grievance (“I was wronged”) and helplessness (“and I can’t fix it”), before talking about how over-functioning and control tendencies can lead to resentment in relationships - one person shoulders more of the load while quietly stewing about it. Topics include the role of rumination in keeping resentment alive, the difference between legitimate grievances and toxic rumination, and why resentment can feel protective. Rick shares a step-by-step framework for handling resentment when repair isn’t possible, while Forrest highlights how communication and claiming agency can be powerful antidotes.
Key Topics:
00:00: Intro
04:14: Legitimate grievances vs. unhealthy resentment
09:44: How perceptions of injustice and helplessness fuel resentment
20:04: Claiming your agency
34:41: How to work through resentment with others
50:11: How to work through resentment when you can’t work through it with others
1:02:51: Recap
Grief and Loss Course: In this four-week online program Rick will help you soothe emotional pain, find perspective and meaning, and hold whatever happened with acceptance and compassion. Learn more at RickHanson.com/loss and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount.
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How to Believe in Yourself: Carl Rogers and Humanistic Psychology
Dr. Rick and Forrest explore humanistic psychology, the mid-20th century movement that redefined how therapists relate to clients. It challenged the pessimism of Freud and the mechanism of behaviorism, offering a more hopeful alternative: that our nature is fundamentally good, and our job is to let it shine through. They discuss Carl Rogers’ work, including self-actualization, conditions of worth, unconditional positive regard, trusting your experience, and the central role of the therapeutic alliance. Throughout, they focus on what you can take from these ideas into your life.
Key Topics:
00:00: Intro
03:40: Humanism as a response to psychoanalysis
09:53: Humanism’s core principles: inherent goodness, wholism, self-actualization, agency, and subjective experience
21:35: What does humanistic therapy actually look like?
32:46: Congruence, conditions of worth, and authenticity
40:54: History and context: post-WWII and the civil rights movement
56:09: Critiques of humanism
1:02:40: Lessons we can all take from humanistic psychology
1:13:41: Recap
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AI Therapy Deep Dive: Can a Chatbot Be Your Therapist? w/ Dr. Nick Jacobson
AI chatbots may already be the largest providers of mental health services in the United States, raising big questions about safety, effectiveness, and oversight. Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Nick Jacobson to explore the risks and opportunities of AI therapy: Can a chatbot be good at therapy? Will it replace human therapists? What about AI psychosis? How should we think about privacy, bias, and regulation? Is this a silver bullet for mental health access, or are we just opening a new can of worms?
About our Guest: Nick is associate professor of biomedical data science, psychiatry, and computer science at Dartmouth, and directs the AI and Mental Health Laboratory there. He’s also the developer of Therabot, a generative AI therapy chatbot that predates ChatGPT, and he’s one of the first researchers to run a clinical trial on AI therapy.
Key Topics:
02:35: Is AI going to replace human therapists?
05:00: Risks of using ChatGPT as your therapist, and general vs. therapy-specific AI
14:30: What should people be worried about?
19:14: Is AI good at therapy?
29:58: Bias, values, and “who’s watching the watchers”
39:17: Is there something unique about a human therapist?
52:21: Oversight and the self-driving car analogy
1:00:51: Personhood, consciousness, and risks of anthropomorphizing AI
1:11:00: Recap
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About Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson
Forrest Hanson is joined by clinical psychologist (and his dad) Dr. Rick Hanson and a world-class group of experts to explore the practical science of lasting well-being. Conversations focus on the key insights from psychology, science, and contemplative practice that you need to build reliable inner strengths, overcome your challenges, and get the most out of life. New episodes every Monday.
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