Navigating the holidays with adult children, in-laws, blended families, and changing traditions can feel overwhelming and obligatory. In this episode, we break down the unspoken dynamics that create conflict, disappointment, and distance during the holiday season — and how to rebuild connection without guilt, pressure, or control.Whether you're an empty-nest parent, a couple adjusting to a new family & traditions, or someone carrying old expectations into a new season, this conversation exposes the real reasons holiday drama happens and offers practical ways to experience peace again.Topics covered– Why adult kids pull away during holidays– How control masquerades as love– The grief parents feel but never talk about– Letting go of traditions without losing your family– De-escalating holiday pressure between families– How to build connection through flexibility– Setting expectations as a couple before the chaos hits– The psychology behind feeling “left out”– How gratitude literally rewires the brain– Rebuilding relationships with daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandkids– Why guilt and obligation destroy holiday joy
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Control vs Connection: What EVERY Parent Deals with When Kids Grow Up
If you've ever felt disappointed or sad about what your kids have done with their lives, or felt like you didn't do enough, this episode was made with you in mind :)We have had a lot of couple's ask us about what do you do when your kids life looks different than how you expected it to go, and in this episode, we go over things we would tell the younger versions of ourselves of how to set proper expectations with ourselves, our kids, how we would grieve differently etc. We hope this episode blesses you and creates clarity for you and your family- The Welch'sGrab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday
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The Grandparent Gap: The Side Effects on Kids who grow up without Grandparents
As grandparents who love our grandkids and spending time with them, we decided to do some research on the positive effects grandparents have on kids, butWith that also comes how do we define healthy grandparenting? What should be the roles of being a grandparent, and how should they interact with the kids? In this episode, we dive into what we found and how it can benefit you at home!Grab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday
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#41 - Why Do We Take Our Kids’ Failures So Personally?
Watch the Youtube version here: https://youtu.be/mQMsVB4ntxc
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#40 - Encouraging Self Reliance in Children (what's their responsibility vs mine)
Watch the YouTube version here: https://youtu.be/0wEMx-Qq5ps
Beyond The Nest is a place to go deep on the real realities of being an empty nest family that has survived the rollarcoaster ride of having kids, raising kids, releasing kids...all while preserving a healthy marriage and friendships. Lance and Allison will lead with vulnerability and lessons learned by sharing the things they did right (and wrong) throughout this journey.
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