Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

In this week's episode, Erin and Terry share what they've learned about the autism world, much of it from the followers who send Erin everything! From carer supports and genetic testing to the higher rate of epilepsy in autistic children, it's a lot to take in. 
Then they go down the rabbit holes: the gut, €500 tests, stem cells at around 30 grand a go, and the spelling boards causing such controversy in America. Erin is the first to say not everything on the internet is real, and that this was never about fixing autism. It's about easing the awfulness when a child is in crisis and can't tell you what's wrong.
The strain on their marriage comes out on the couch too. Erin goes full speed for Harry, ready to run through walls, while Terry would sometimes rather bury his head in the sand. Neither holds back, and Terry admits the gut-wrenching feeling he has sitting there is how his son feels all the time, and that's what keeps him there. Plus, a message for anyone who loves an autism parent: show up, because they're drowning. Spoiler, nobody cried this time, but Terry did tell everyone he resents Erin.
Only sometimes, he says, and it turns out he's not the only one! Tell us in the comments: autism parents, what's the best tip another parent ever gave you, and what difference did it make? New episodes every Thursday. 
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In this week’s episode, Erin and Terry open up about a summer that was one of the hardest times of their lives. Their beautiful son Harry was in pain he had no way of explaining, crying for 12 hours on end and hurting himself, and the whole summer felt like lockdown.

Erin talks about refusing to accept it was ‘just autism’, filming and writing down everything so the professionals would finally believe her. Terry explains what constant fight or flight really looks like for a nonverbal child, and they get into the physical side of autism that most people don’t realise; a body that simply can’t do what’s being asked of it.

They’re honest about what it did to their marriage too, from two completely different ways of coping to the day Erin watched her husband break down at the table, asking how much more they could take. And they face the hardest question of all; what if Harry needs care for the rest of his life?

Raw, emotional, and angry in parts, this is Erin at her most honest, with Terry doing his best to finish on a positive. As Erin says herself, everyone else thought she was having some sort of breakdown, but she was actually having a breakthrough.

Plus, a message for every parent who sent in advice over the summer. Erin has written down every bit of it!

Tell us in the comments: autism parents, what’s the one thing you wish every professional knew about who your child really is?

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In this week’s episode, Erin and Terry look back at the many comments left by autism parents following the release of Episode 8, “what happens to Harry when we’re gone”.That episode touched a nerve with so many SEN parents all dealing with the same terrifying problem of how to prepare for a future where they’re not around anymore to take care of their beautiful children.
Emotionally raw and angry in parts, the episode reflects the feelings of our viewers. Feelings that only families living in the situation can truly understand.
Terry takes a strong stance on the severe shortage of adequate support from government services, and the well meaning but ultimately unhelpful comments from friends and others who just don’t get it.
Erin brings her usual conscientious approach and insights, as always, wearing her heart on her sleeve and calling it exactly how it is.Tell us in the comments: SEN parents, what’s the one thing you wish people said to you instead of ‘I don’t know how you do it’?
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No specific topic this week and no guest. Just hot takes, two very different opinions, and nowhere to hide. Keep it, or cut it, and neither of them is allowed to say ‘it depends’!

Erin and Terry go through the lot. It starts with a harmless warm up round; then veers through dangerous territory for any couple; the house, the airport, screen time, food, dating, and going out, big occasions, little occasions, marriage and weddings, sex, intimacy, parenting, and their friends and social lives. In true Erin and Terry style, both have strong opinions loosely held.

This episode is hilarious and real in equal measure. Spoiler, they do make it through to the end with their relationship stronger than before, so long as Terry keeps his damn feet off the new couch!!

Tell us in the comments: whose side would you be on, and which hot take would start the biggest row in your house?!

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Erin’s off this week, so Terry brought in his friend and fellow musician Jake Suleman, and it turned into one of the most honest conversations of the series. Both of them are autism dads. Terry to Harry, Jake to his 8-year-old daughter Esme. Two totally different kids of the same age. Despite the differences, Terry and Jake share the same lifestyle and same highs, lows, and hard days.
Terry shares the moment from a few days before recording that stopped him in his tracks. Harry saying his first word with real purpose. Jake talks about how Esme sees the world: no concept of violence, unable to spot a bully because she assumes everyone talking to her is a friend. They get into how differently Esme hears the world; super-sensitive to sound, picking up songs she can’t stand even when they’re barely audible. And they land on the thing neither of them takes for granted: that their careers in music simply wouldn’t exist without help from their families and their wives holding everything together at home.
Two dads, two guitars, and the kind of conversation that doesn’t happen often enough.
Tell us in the comments: if you’re raising an autistic child, what’s the moment that hit you harder than you ever expected?
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