Life Uncut

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning questions!
Keeshia has a new haircut that she’s claiming is ‘for the girls’. Laura has an ask uncut of her own and we’ve come to the realisation that sometimes we don’t react in the ways we think we will in some situations.
Vibes for the week:
Britt - Reality Check: Inside America's Next Top Model - Netflix
Keeshia - The Babies Kept in a Mysterious Los Angeles Mansion - The New Yorker
Laura - @womenshealthwithheidi
Then we jump into your questions!
I ASKED MY EX NOT TO MOVE ON FOR 1 MONTH - IS THIS UNREASONABLE?
My partner and I (of 3 years) recently separated. We continued living together for a month after this, trying to make it work, but I'm now moving out. He had purchased a house and a dog very briefly before we got together, so they are technically his, which means my whole world is changing, but his stays much the same. I've asked him to not do or start anything with anyone else for a month while I find my feet - I'm absolutely devastated and am so scared of being immediately replaced and having our relationship feel like it meant nothing to him. He has said he isn't in a hurry to move on but can't commit to this. Is my request reasonable? I'm asking him out of respect for me and the life we've had together.
HUSBAND WANTS TO TAKE OUR KIDS TO CHURCH, I’M NOT RELIGIOUS
My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 4. We have two beautiful girls, a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old. We are currently having some in depth conversations about religion. When I first met my husband he let me know he had faith and grew up as a Christian and went to church as a family. When he and his family moved to Australia they stopped going to church and there was no talk about religion. In the last few years his brother, mother and father have started going to church again. My husband has recently started talking to me about wanting to get involved back in the church and taking our girls. For context, I am not religious and grew up in a non religious household. He would like to start taking the girls to church occasionally and would like me to come as well. I would like to broach the subject of religion when the girls are older and are able to do their own research, learn about all the different types of religion, question it and form their own opinions. I don’t want them going up and thinking Christianity is the one and only way. Please don’t get me wrong I do understand and respect Christianity and certain aspects of it .. like being a kind and selfless person, having grace etc.. I'm just not sure about some of the other aspects as I am not sure I agree with them. How do we find the balance for our family?
ENGAGEMENT RING IS SO NOT ME
Early last year my partner and I went and looked at engagement rings. I chose a plain 2mm gold band with a 3 carat oval diamond (lab grown). I always wanted the solitaire to be the main focal point with no diamonds on the band. While we were there I tried wedding bands on as well. Initially I tried on a 2mm band that had small diamonds all the way around which my partner really liked, I said it felt uncomfortable and scratchy against my other fingers and I always pictured myself having small oval diamonds. Fast forward to late last year, my partner got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. There was my beautiful solitaire oval diamond but to my surprise the band had little diamonds around it just like the wedding band he liked. He said he wanted to add a little something special to it. I have never told him how I feel but I really don’t like the ring and every time I look at it I feel like it’s not me. We are currently looking at wedding bands and he has sent me what he wants. He keeps asking me what I want and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t know what wedding band I want now because the one I wanted looks stupid with this ring now that it has the little diamonds around the band. I feel my only wedding band options are a plain gold band or get one exactly like an engagement ring band. I really want to have the diamonds removed so I can have my dream ring but I don’t want to hurt his feelings or seem like a brat. I also imagine having the diamonds removed from the band would be expensive. I’d love your help
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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!
We chat:
Punch’s $16 IKEA toy selling for wild amount

The most revolting hotel 'hack' circulating
The lesser known 'looks minimising"
Eric Dane secretly recorded his 'last words'

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Today’s guest is someone many of us grew up watching even if we didn’t realise it.
David Holmes was a stunt double in the Harry Potter films, mostly for Harry but he also doubled for quite a few other characters and contributed to one of the most iconic movie franchises of our generation. But during filming, an accident left David paralysed from the chest down at just 25 years old.
His memoir The Boy Who Lived and his documentary of the same name tell the story of that accident, but more importantly, what happened after. In the book and the doco, David shares how his friendships are what kept him alive, how his identity has shifted since the accident and the complicated reality of rebuilding a life when everything changes in a second.
In today’s chat we speak about:
Losing sensation but finding the best s3x he’s ever experienced
A particularly beautiful love story - David and his partner (who also has a spinal cord injury) falling in love and ‘heeling’ a lot of themselves together
What it was like being a stunt performer for 7 Harry Potter films
BTS of Harry Potter and his close friendship with Daniel Radcliffe
David’s accident that happened on set
Fighting for 3 years for proper compensation
Blame after an accident like this
David’s advocacy for disabled people
The friendships he has maintained
The future of the creative world like stunting with AI
“If Someone Offered Me A Magic Pill To Get My Legs Back, I’d Be Reluctant To Take It”
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Hey lifers
There’s no ‘big news’ in this episode despite dangling that carrot in the past… Britt has sent some accidental pictures and Laura’s got a story about her fridge that will have you on the edge of your seat!
We catch up on MAFS and whether the public ‘punishment’ fits the crime or if the outrage tips the scale.
We speak about the really controversial participant and how ‘red pill/black pill’ language has entered the chat.
Confessionals are back! Some are light and easily forgiven, others are… diabolical!
Do you tell your partner everything? What about secrets that friends have asked you to keep to yourself? There’s an article in Vogue UK called “Please, Stop Telling Your Partner My Secrets”. When you tell your friend something vulnerable are you actually telling the couple? Because somewhere along the way, we decided that when you’re in a relationship, your partner gets access to everything. Every conversation. Every secret. Every piece of emotional processing.
But is that fair? We unpack.
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions!
The start of this episode nearly got vitto-d and maybe it should have stayed that way!

Vibes for the week:
Laura - Leakproof Milk Bralette
Britt - The Interview': The Woman at the Center of the French Rape Trial That Shocked the World- The Daily Podcast
Keeshia - StepsApp added to lock screen widget
Then we jump into your questions!
My HUSBAND IS GAY AND HOW SOON IS TOO SOON
I got married young and about 11 years in, my husband came out to me as bi. Totally fine, not the biggest surprise and at the time he said he didn’t feel the need to act on it. Cut to 12 months later, we had moved cities and were trying to establish our new circle and life. One Saturday he asked me to bring up the weekend newspaper quiz on his phone and I opened it to an app where he had been chatting with men online. He confessed to masturbating with them live online and that he did feel the need to act on it. Cut to six months later, he told me he was gay and we are getting divorced. Funnily this isn’t actually the crux of my question. Truthfully we were on the rocks for a long time, there was no intimacy (shocking I know) and I had been very unhappy.
After we separated officially and some intense tears at saying goodbye to a version of my life that I thought was it, I jumped on the apps for the very first time! After a few non-starters I met a wonderful guy. He is caring, smart and treats me like I am what he has been waiting for. The intimacy is amazing and we have been together for nearly a year. So here it is, this all just feels too good to be true? I mean what are the chances of finding “the one” so soon after my experience?
FRIEND DIDN’T TELL ME ABOUT IVF
My friend just told me she is 6 months pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF, which she never told me about either. She said only people who asked her directly were let in on the secrets and that they’ve all been especially supportive through this tough time. Am I entitled to be annoyed with her because she didn’t share this? Is she entitled to be annoyed with me because I didn’t ask? I’m happy she’s pregnant but annoyed that I haven’t been part of her journey until the last minute!
DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?
Do I shoot my shot at the gym or risk things getting awkward? For reference I go to quite a small group gym (around 35 people per session). I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I started I’ve noticed this one guy who always goes to the same sessions as me. I’m single, not having any luck on dating apps and am wondering how I could potentially get to know this guy without making things awkward. I have no clue if he’s single or not but have seen him arrive with one of the other girls on a few occasions. I don’t even know how to go about initiating a conversation with him as it’s usually quite separated with girls on one side and guys on the other. So my question is, would you guys shoot your shot and try to get to know him more or is it better to keep things as they are and not make it uncomfortable seeing as we go to all the same classes and see each other most days?

DO YOU HAVE TO RETURN HAND ME DOWN BABY CLOTHES?
I would love your opinion on this. I have a friend who gave me some hand me down clothes for my youngest son, to which I am forever grateful for as I am a single mum of two. However, I’ve just received a message from the friend saying “Hey next time you do a wardrobe clean out, can you just put away whatever I gave you because I want to take it back. I’m starting to collect stuff to give to my brother in law because they’re going to start trying next year.” Now the problem is, I’ve given away most of the baby clothes. I never expected to see them again nor did I expect that I was going to return them to her. So am I right in thinking this is a really weird request? Some of the clothes I’ve donated, some I’ve given to other people. I didn’t realise that she would need them back. Do I tell her that I donated them? How do I navigate this and am I in the wrong?

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