If you deeply fear abandonment, thereās a good chance youāve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.In todayās episode, weāre exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment ā especially for those with anxious attachment. Weāll look at why this happens, how it shows up in your relationships, and what it actually costs you when you disconnect from your truth just to stay connected to someone else.Youāll learn:Why self-abandonment is often a survival strategy rooted in early attachment woundsWhat self-abandonment looks like in dating and relationshipsThe trade-off between authenticity and connectionWhy the work must begin with usĀ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list š Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#195: Two Simple Principles for a Healthy Nervous System
In todayās episode, Iām sharing two key principles for building a truly resilient, balanced nervous system ā and why one without the other tends to keep us stuck.Weāll explore:Why nervous system health isnāt about being relaxed all the timeThe importance of deliberate stress exposure to build capacity and resilienceThe equally vital need to resource and nourish ourselves through rest, pleasure, and co-regulationHow to work with the natural ebb and flow of activation and recoveryA simple metaphor to help you reflect on how youāre currently supporting your systemWhether youāre feeling burnt out, dysregulated, or just curious about how to better support your emotional wellbeing, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate reframe of what nervous system care can look like.Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list š Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#194: When You Donāt Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship
If you often feel like you're fighting for a place in your partnerās lifeālike youāre always waiting to be chosen or noticedāthis episode is for you.This is one of the most common experiences for people with anxious attachment: that persistent, painful feeling of being sidelined. Of giving so much, while wondering if you even matter to the person you love. And when that becomes a pattern, it can quietly erode your sense of self-worth.In this episode, Iām unpacking:Why anxiously attached people are so sensitive to feeling deprioritisedHow this dynamic often plays out in anxious-avoidant relationshipsThe emotional cost of constantly striving to be chosenWhat you can focus on to reclaim your power and stop abandoning yourself in the processWhether youāre currently in a relationship or reflecting on a past one, this conversation will help you make sense of whatās happening and offer practical ways to move forward with more clarity, dignity, and self-trust.Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list š Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
While itās easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment ā overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment ā there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate with anxious attachment can become powerful strengths in our relationships and our lives.Iāll be exploring:Why itās important to move beyond pathologising anxious attachmentThe qualities that often develop through lived experience with this patternHow your sensitivity, attunement, and relational depth can become assetsThe difference between operating from fear vs. secure self-expressionHow to start embracing your relational gifts without losing yourselfWhether you're in the thick of healing or just starting to understand your patterns, I hope this episode leaves you feeling acknowledged for all that is beautiful about you!Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list š Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums
In todayās episode, weāre unpacking the subtle (but important) differences between requests, boundaries, ultimatums, and dealbreakers. While these words are often used interchangeably, they carry different energies ā and understanding those differences can help you communicate more clearly, hold your ground with integrity, and honour your needs without falling into patterns of control, people-pleasing, or collapse.Weāll explore:Why the energy behind your words matters more than the words themselvesWhat makes an ultimatum different from a boundary or dealbreakerĀ The common trap of over-explaining instead of taking aligned actionWhy communication problems can't be solved in isolationHighlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list š Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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