Self-Performance Strategies Podcast

Welcome to the SPS Podcast. Episode 71 Performance Origins Deep Dive with Andi Jarvis Andi Jarvis runs Eximo Marketing, which is based in the UK and Ireland. They focus on delivering customer-inspired marketing strategies for their clients. Andi helps his clients profit from marketing by focusing primarily on companies launching new products or entering new markets. He’s an in-demand professional speaker and hosts the Strategy Sessions podcast. Check out his links here: Twitter: Andi Jarvis LinkedIn: Andi JarvisInstagram/Threads: Andi Jarvis Podcast: Strategy Sessions Website: Eximo Stephen links: Future You Matrix:https://www.stephentimoney.com/future-you ​Visit the website: https://www.stephentimoney.com/ Join the email list: https://www.stephentimoney.com/the-list Follow me here: Twitter LinkedIn Big love,ST

Episode 70: How to silence nagging mental noise Welcome to the SPS Podcast "The deepest rivers make the least noise." - Richard HookerLet's talk about removing nagging noise...Back in my wilder days… I spent a lot of time in loud nightclubs or listening to banging house music... as I practised my bedroom DJ skills.Often… after a night out or an extra-long DJ session… I would have this ringing in my ears… it would go away a few hours later.Then… later in my early 30’s (I was still trying to become a full-time DJ)I returned from a night of DJing at a friend’s art show... that turned into a late-night party… and the ringing stuck around for a week.Concerned I had tinnitus… I went to the doctor... explained I had a dull noise in my ear that wouldn’t go away. Got a few tests. Even got special earplugs that professional DJs use.Thankfully…I did not have permanent ear damage… the ringing stopped… I stopped DJing out as much... and pulled back from being in clubs most weekends…The loud music and lack of ear protection were causing the pain… so I solved the problem… the pain went away.Can you see where I’m going with this story?The thing I noticed with this brush with tinnitus… if you don’t deal with dull noise in your life… your pain gets worse. And at some point, that pain might be irreversible.I’ve experienced this mentally, emotionally, and physically in life and business.And I’ve seen it with 100% of the clients I’ve helped over the last 3 years.Everyone has some type of dull noise in their life that won’t go away and you need to deal with it.That noise could be…→ Knowing you’re not spending enough time with your kids.→ Frustration building as you neglect your health to work longer hours→ Awareness you’re spending too much of your time in your business on low-value busy workBut that noise is nagging you every day… it’s like a mental or emotional version of tinnitus.How do you resolve the pain? How do you remove the noise?Sorry to say this… you deal with it...You transform your mental or emotional pain into peak performance.For example…My recent client, Rick, had a lot of noise in his life that he wanted relief from.He had this constant noise of frustration in his days. He wasn’t getting to the important pillars of his life. And he started to resent his daily loop.Now, he enjoyed his work… but he held a few activities in higher regard he wasn’t finding time for…→ Spending time with his kids → Spending time on his health → Spending time on his investmentsAll of his mental and emotional noise traced back to a lack of structure... and far too many open projects sucking up his time.So we created some life pillars and a roadmap… Within weeks of working together… we had turned negative noise into positive performance.We found the source of the mental and emotional tinnitus... We dealt with the source of that pain.So... do you have a dull noise in your life and business that won't disappear? Your first step might be to check your structure and make sure you're working in alignment with your identity and standards. Stephen links: Future You Matrix:https://www.stephentimoney.com/future-you ​Visit the website: https://www.stephentimoney.com/ Join the email list: https://www.stephentimoney.com/the-list Follow me here: Twitter LinkedIn Big love,STFan of removing noise

Let's discuss: Are your coping mechanisms holding you back? Welcome to the SPS Podcast "Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem." - Virginia Satir It’s 7:43 pm. You decide you should spend an hour cleaning up some emails... getting through some basic tasks to get a head start on tomorrow…Walking by the kitchen, you grab a beer and think… “I might as well make it fun.”When you get to your home office… you decide to pop on some sports highlights and think… “I can do 2 or 3 things at once.”One hour passes…One beer turned into two...Only a handful of emails got sorted...Sports highlights became the main focus.You get frustrated and decide to just watch sports and enjoy the night before going to bed.Have you been there?Do you do this often?Say you will do a quick 30-minute to an hour’s worth of night work… but end up spending hours doing nothing.The beer might be a white wine… and the sports might be K-drama.But often… you combine your stress-coping mechanisms with your work. This is dangerous on two fronts…First… you don’t get any work done, which increases your mental and emotional pain.Second… you don’t get any rest because of split attention. And your coping mechanisms are not the healthiest.I’ve seen this story play in many ways with many different clients…It’s not always drink and TV. It’s any time you mix work with an activity you usually do to relax. I’ve even had a client try to do busy work while hanging out with his kids. You can guess how that went… not great.This pattern is so common… it’s one the first things I go hunting for when I start working with a client.Why?Because far too many smart business owners trap themselves in their own actions.And I don’t see many other coaches in the performance space... directly targeting these bad habits or mental open loops that far too many tolerate.Here’s a blunt truth…In the last 5 years… I’ve hired one-to-one coaches (a few times). I’ve been in many cohorts and communities. I’ve bought many programs and books about business and performance.And 95%+ of these all focused on...-> Creating new systems-> Starting new projects or habits-> Or following a cookie-cutter process that is not that related to your current pain.It kinda pisses me off… to be fair.You see…My mission is to provide business owners with the best path forward to improving their results and energy... so that they spend more time doing the things they love about their lives.And the easiest way to do that is… remove the dumb sh*t that is slowing you down.The kicker here…Understanding which of your habits and coping mechanisms are sabotaging you…Is the “easy button” to improve your performance.Remove those... you will improve...And the fastest way to do that is to have a coach in your corner... who is more concerned about your development than their process.If you’re tired of sabotaging your focus and performance with your own actions... let’s talk. Stephen links: Future You Matrix:https://www.stephentimoney.com/future-you ​Visit the website: https://www.stephentimoney.com/ Join the email list: https://www.stephentimoney.com/the-list Follow me here: Twitter LinkedIn Big love,STFan of remove to improve.

Let's discuss defeating Solomon's Paradox: How to win the You vs You battle Welcome to the SPS Podcast The wisest counsel is often offered to others, not ourselves. Have you ever experienced this? When a friend asks you for advice about their business... you suddenly become Rick Rubin or Mark Cuban... And drop some sage advice... But when you think about your own business and performance... Your ideas are poor... and your actions are limited. You often think to yourself... "I'm smarter than this... why do I repeat the same mistakes and don't take my own advice." This describes the psychological phenomenon called Solomon's Paradox. In short... it works like this... We're excellent at giving helpful and rational advice to others. But terrible at giving the same helpful and rational advice to ourselves. Solomon's Paradox is why: • Coaches struggle to coach themselves• Writers struggle to edit their own books• Therapists often need therapy themselves This happens because... You're too close to you and your whole story... you know too much about yourself... When you think about yourself, you don't listen to one piece of information... you reference your whole wiki page... all the pain... all the limiting beliefs... and what Billy, the school bully, said to you during Math class in October 1986. But... when it comes to someone else's problem... You don't reference their full personal wiki page... you focus on the facts of the situation they are describing... without all the emotional junk they associate with it. Here's the truth... Most of your challenges aren't all that difficult... you know there are people not as smart as you... who have solved more difficult challenges than you're facing right now. The thing is... They figured out a way to get help outside of their own head... followed steps that worked... and put in the work. When you don't do that... You remain stuck in the paradox... you can't avoid it... you can't outthink yourself. You end up... -> Frustrated... you think... "Why is this so difficult?" -> Stuck in a loop... "I've run my business for years... why am I still making this mistake?" -> Wasting time and energy... "Why does every project drain me so much?" You overthink. You overcomplicate. You torture yourself with nothing positive to show for it. I know from helping over 30 business owners over the last 3 years... This is what keeps many of you stuck... you vs you... and you keep beating you. My friend and coach, Torrey Dawley, introduced me to this paradox. (I have 100% stole it from him as a coaching tool) He explains that Salomon's Paradox is also... what separates people who get what they want from people who don't. In his words... "You don't trust yourself to actually pull off the great thing you want to do. So you'd rather keep it a secret and pluck away at it slowly in a "safe" place." If you understand this paradox... you start to realize why... -> Unwritten books stay unwritten for an entire lifetime. -> Business ideas that would make you millions never launch. -> Life-changing relationships never blossom because you're scared to open up to people. In short... Solomon's Paradox is the destroyer of dreams. And... yet... it's the easiest mental roadblock to remove. You only need to do one thing... Ask for help from someone you trust... then do what they say. I've worked with some of the top coaches in the field of performance and every one of them had a coach... Why? They understood the importance of feedback and outside perspectives. It's the only way to defeat Solomon's Paradox. They invested in great coaches... proven systems... and powerful programs. If you do these same things. If you can believe in yourself enough. If you back yourself to win... You'll untangle the massive ball of mental yarn you're trapped in. You'll start to see a clearer path forward... and transform that mental and emotional pain into peak performance. Sounds good... right? Stephen links: Future You Matrix:https://www.stephentimoney.com/future-you ​Visit the website: https://www.stephentimoney.com/ Join the email list: https://www.stephentimoney.com/the-list Follow me here: Twitter LinkedIn Big love, ST Fan of defeating Solomon's Paradox