The Breakup Debrief Podcast

If you're new here- welcome! Pull up a chair, grab your matcha & let Kelly tell you everything 🤭

& if you've been here since the beginning, you might still want to listen to this one. Because over a year in, with new listeners joining every week, Kelly is doing a reintroduction. Her story, her why & everything that led her to sitting behind this microphone every Monday.

This episode covers it all the ten-year relationship that started at sixteen, the six-month marriage, the wedding night she spent alone in the smoking area in her wedding dress, the relationship that came after & the work she had to do on herself before she finally found what she'd always been looking for.

You'll hear:

✨ Why Kelly started The Breakup Debrief & where the name actually came from
✨ The ten-year relationship that started at sixteen, growing up together & breaking up
✨ The wedding that almost didn't happen because of COVID & the wedding night that told her everything she needed to know
✨ The moment she knew the marriage was over & how she found the courage to leave
✨ The relationship that came after- what she thought was healing & what it actually was
✨ The work she did on herself in between- therapy, coaching & getting to know who she actually was outside of a relationship
✨ Her current relationship; how it feels different, what it has that the others didn't & why she finally believes she deserves it
✨ The message she wants every listener to hear who is currently in the thick of it- whether you're heartbroken, healing, single, or somewhere in between
✨ Your Alan is coming. She met hers on Tinder. There is hope! 💚

Whether you're showing up today feeling great or feeling a bit sh*t, this is a safe space for all of it & Kelly is so glad you're here

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📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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Sometimes you're in a relationship & you know there are a lot of lies- you're wading through them, trying to make sense of them, trying to recover from them.

And sometimes you go through a breakup & you didn't even realise how many lies there were until time passes, things unravel & you find yourself looking back at a relationship wondering what was actually real.

Both scenarios add a very specific, very painful layer to a breakup. And this week, Kelly is talking about it.

You'll hear:

✨ Why being lied to in a relationship is a whole different kind of grief because you're also grieving the reality you thought you had
✨ The self-blame spiral that comes with being lied to & why the finger needs to be pointed firmly at the liar, not at you
✨ The difference between big lies & the small, consistent, purposeless lies and why both do damage
✨ Gaslighting- how it goes hand in hand with lying & why it's so hard to recover from
✨ Why "I didn't tell you because I didn't want to hurt you" is actually just someone avoiding the consequences of their own actions
✨ Why lying is a form of control &why the person being lied to is never the one in the wrong
✨ The shame & embarrassment of being lied to and why that shame belongs to the liar, not to you
✨ How to rebuild trust in yourself before worrying about trusting anyone else
✨ Why going into new relationships with your eyes open is not the same as going in with your walls up
✨ Trust is built through trustworthy actions & what that actually looks like in practice

The shame is not yours to carry. The embarrassment is not yours to carry. If you saw the best in him & chose to trust him- that says everything good about you and everything bad about him 💚

Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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He's back & this time he brought ChatGPT 😂Part 2 of the one year special with baby bro Ian is here & it does not disappoint. We pick up right where we left off, with Ian sharing how he coped in the early stages of his own breakup (terribly, at the start, terribly) & dive straight into the chaos from there.You'll hear:✨ Ian's honest account of how he actually coped & what ended up helping him most✨ The embarrassment of walking away from an engagement & why it absolutely should not have felt that way✨ How Kelly was Ian's inspiration when leaving his relationship & became his proof that things get better✨ Whether men are actually getting better at talking about their feelings (Ian has thoughts & a very specific breakdown of the different types of men 😂)✨ ChatGPT as emotional support- Ian's confession & Kelly's reaction✨ The red flag green flag rapid fire round ✨ Breakup songs- which ones got them through it & why crying in the car is genuinely great therapy✨ Ian's final words of wisdom for anyone going through a breakup right now✨ Ian's Instagram handle for any single, attractive gay men in their late twenties to early thirties 👀Thank you for an incredible year. We love you for being here ❤️‍🔥Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

One year, 52 episodes & to celebrate Kelly's brought in her favourite guest- baby bro Ian 🎉
This is the episode you didn't know you needed. Equal parts chaotic, hilarious, emotional & genuinely insightful because who better to give you the real story on Kelly's breakup journey than the person who had front row seats to all of it?
In Part 1 of this special one year episode, Kelly & Ian get into Kelly's breakup history from Ian's perspective, what it was really like supporting her from the inside & Ian's own breakup & healing journey earlier this year.
You'll hear:
✨ Ian's honest take on Kelly's exes- including which one he liked least
✨ The "I told you so" moment Ian had been sitting on & the story that goes with it
✨ What supporting Kelly through her breakups was actually like from the inside
✨ What Ian would tell anyone who is supporting a loved one through a breakup right now
✨ What it was like going through a breakup with a sister who is a Breakup Empowerment Coach & whether it actually helped
✨ How Ian handled telling people about his breakup when he wanted to keep it private
✨ The moment Ian sat Kelly down & kept saying "it gets worse"- and it kept getting worse
✨ How Ian coped in the early stages of his own breakup- spoiler: not well 😂
Part 2 coming next week & trust us, you'll want to tune in for that one too 💚
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention?
No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's getting into all of it.
Episode 50 is the male validation episode- how we seek it, why we seek it & most importantly how we stop needing it from everyone else & start giving it to ourselves instead.
You'll hear:
✨ The subtle ways seeking male validation shows up & why it doesn't always look like what you think
✨ Why your dopamine & oxytocin crash after a breakup makes validation-seeking completely understandable & what your brain is actually trying to do
✨ Why external validation is like a sugar rush & why it will never actually fill the gap
✨ How chasing validation from men is quietly delaying your healing without you even realising it
✨ Why the right person cannot fix a validation wound & what happens when you make them try
✨ The self-awareness tool that is always the first step
✨ Practical ways to start validating yourself- including the affirmation you can use even if the big ones feel like a lie right now
✨ The difference between enjoying a compliment & depending on one
You knew you looked good in that photo. That's why you posted it. This episode is your reminder that you don't need anyone else to confirm it 💚

Also, Kelly introduces something new in this episode. The Breakup Clarity Call. A 90-minute one-to-one call for anyone who isn't sure about full coaching yet but needs some guidance, a bit of a chin wag & a clear action plan for what comes next. Details on Instagram.
Links & Resources
📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree