The Life Stylist

Menopause is not the end of your sexual life if you know how to handle it.

Kimberly Ann Johnson is a sexological bodyworker, birth doula, and author of The Fourth Trimester, whose new book Erotic Seasons maps what happens to a woman’s body across menstruation, mothering, perimenopause, and the years beyond.

The question driving this conversation: what does a man gain from understanding the seasons of the woman he loves?

Kimberly pushes back on the trauma language that’s become ubiquitous and often weakening. She talks about hot sex and warm sex, why the parts of the body women battle hardest are the ones that make them female, and why “calm down” is often the opposite of what a woman needs.

If you’ve ever felt the ground shifting in a long relationship and couldn’t name what was being asked of you, this is that conversation.

Free Gift: Download an exclusive additional chapter from Erotic Seasons entitled “The Body and the Belly” at kimberlyannjohnson.com/erotic-seasons

You'll learn:

[0:00] Introduction
[13:30] What a man gains from understanding the women he loves
[22:31] Men overriding their own arousal to be good
[30:59] Four seasons of a woman’s life explained
[37:05] The male job is to run the perimeter
[43:29] Reading your cycle as the ultimate biohack
[52:12] What men get wrong about women’s desire and arousal
[57:47] Erasing the staircase mentality of foreplay
[1:06:21] Letting pleasure feel good and untying the knot of trauma
[1:19:55] Discounting form on the spiritual path
[1:32:20] Why unity in 12-Step rooms works miracles
[1:46:12] Finding the gift in what was objectively negative
[1:52:02] When nervous system regulation becomes suppression
[1:57:21] You don’t regulate your way to an easier life
[2:03:04] Why most people stay stuck in impulse and satiation

Resources Mentioned:

Mothering the Bones | Website

Full show notes at lukestorey.com/somatic2

Related The Life Stylist Episodes:

Somatic Experiencing, Birth, Sex & Trauma w/ Kimberly Ann Johnson | Podcast

Find more from Kimberly:

Kimberly Ann Johnson | Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube
Read: Erotic Seasons: Tuning into the Rhythms of Women’s Sexuality and Spirituality | Book
Read: Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It for Good | Book

Find more from Luke:

Luke Storey | Website | Instagram | Facebook | X | YouTube | LinkedIn

My new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, launches November 17, 2026. Pre-order now at ahorsenamedlonesome.com and get bonuses: access to my Inner Circle Book Club, an exclusive Lonesome Conversations six-part miniseries, and an ebook transcript of the series.

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My conversation on Unity Manifest takes us back to some of the darkest chapters of my life—from childhood abuse and addiction to the long road toward sobriety and spiritual awakening. We unpack how early experiences can shape our capacity for intimacy, how shame keeps us trapped in destructive patterns, and why healing requires more than simply changing our behavior. I share how these experiences inspired A Horse Named Lonesome, my new memoir about loneliness, separation, and finding our way back to connection.

In this Lonesome Conversation, Sarah and I explore her reframe of shame as a metaphysical force whose whole function is disconnection—the thing that convinces you you’re separate from the rest of the whole. She shares the vivid dream in which her towering spirit guides told her they’d taped their heads to the wall to keep from laughing at how much weight she’d put on growing up poor, and how the shame dissolved on its own afterward. A striking look at why shame isolates us, and what it takes to feel part of things again.

About Sarah
Sarah Elkhaldy is a teacher, healer, and the host of the new series Mystery Teachings on the world’s largest conscious streaming platform Gaia.com.
Sarah’s work bridges ancient wisdom, modern science, and consciousness studies to help people understand how our thoughts and energy shape the world around us. We’ll explore this new partnership, what viewers can expect from Mystery Teachings, and how we can all live more consciously in these transformative times.

Lonesome Conversations Limited Series
Lonesome Conversations is a special series from The Life Stylist, built around my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome (out November 17, 2026). Loneliness is something almost everyone goes through, and almost nobody talks about honestly. So I sat down with psychologists, philosophers, trauma therapists, teachers, and friends to find the truth about loneliness, and how we heal from it. Each episode is its own conversation, but together they walk the same ground the book maps out. (Pre-order your copy at ahorsenamedlonesome.com) You'll find new episodes alongside our regular show over the coming months.

What really happens in the afterlife?

Brendan D. Murphy is the author of The Grand Illusion and Reverse Engineering the Afterlife, and he treats consciousness the way an engineer treats a system: layered, mappable, and worth drawing properly.

The conversation opens on reincarnation and the so-called soul trap, and why he doesn’t buy the version circulating online. The Tibetans, Jung, and near-death accounts all point to something more unsettling than a mechanism: your unmetabolized emotional charge becomes the environment you wake up in.

From there, it turns to the evidence: Peak in Darien cases, Ian Stevenson’s birthmark research, and a woman who lived seven years inside a three-week induced coma.

We also sit with a harder question: why do so many spiritually inclined people get stuck in paranoid loops about loosh harvesting and prison planets? Brendan’s answer reframes all of it, and probably your fear of dying with it.

For details and discounts on Brendan's books and offerings, including his Evolve Yourself program and masterclass, visit brendandmurphy.com/lifestylist.

You'll learn:

[0:00] Introduction
[7:31] Living in Australia through the COVID era
[15:03] What makes the human psyche so susceptible to propaganda
[22:31] Where the demand to be ruled actually comes from
[28:37] My fear of being duped back into the recycling system
[44:11] Working through your attractions and aversions before you die
[51:21] Phobias as imprints from how you died in a past life
[55:02] Whether past lives are sequential or stacked all at once
[1:13:06] The Voice that told me you already have it all
[1:17:28] Differentiation as the only thing the infinite one can do
[1:33:28] Peak in Darien cases and meeting relatives you never knew existed
[1:40:07] A cacophony of emotion after hunting my first large animal
[1:52:29] Giving a child full autonomy to name itself
[1:58:02] What loosh harvesting actually is and where Monroe landed
[2:04:15] When spiritual seekers get trapped in the darkness
[2:15:44] A sound-based modality born from a decade-long dark night

Resources Mentioned:

Read: The Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot | Book
Eckhart Tolle | Website
Read: The Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind by Julian Jaynes | Book
Read: The Kybalion: A Study of the Hermetic Philosophy of Ancient Egypt and Greece by William Walker Atkinson | Book
Near-Death Experience | Wikipedia
Edgar Cayce | Website
Rudolf Steiner | Website
Brian Weiss | Website
Monroe Institute | Website
Nick Sambrook | Website

Full show notes at lukestorey.com/nde

Find more from Brendan:

Brendan D. Murphy | Website | Substack | Instagram | Facebook | X | TikTok | YouTube
Read: The Grand Illusion: A Synthesis of Science and Spirituality by Brendan D. Murphy | Book

Find more from Luke:

Luke Storey | Website | Instagram | Facebook | X | YouTube | LinkedIn

My new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, launches November 17, 2026. Pre-order now at ahorsenamedlonesome.com and get bonuses: access to my Inner Circle Book Club, an exclusive Lonesome Conversations six-part miniseries, and an ebook transcript of the series.

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I joined my longtime friend Daniel Vitalis for a deep conversation about my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, and the experiences that led me from childhood trauma and addiction to recovery and spiritual awakening. We explore the loneliness epidemic, why digital connection can never fully replace human intimacy, and how the pursuit of perfect health can become just another form of self-obsession. We also get into forgiveness, the spiritual cost of resentment, and why learning to love and serve others might be the most important work we ever do.