203. A Powerful Shift To Help You STOP Relying On External Validation
In this episode, Alissa shares a personal mindset shift that can be a game-changer for highly sensitive people focusing on being proud of how you show up, rather than relying on others to validate you. Through real-life stories including awkward happy hours to Instagram posts to toddler mealtime critiques, she explores how to stop chasing external approval and instead ground yourself in self-trust, self-respect, and authentic expression.In this episode, you’ll learn:How to recognize when you’re depending on external validationThe internal shift that leads to more peace and less overthinkingPractical examples of showing up in ways you’re proud of—at work, socially, and in relationshipsWhy being in integrity with yourself matters more than anyone else’s reactionUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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202. How To Be Empathetic Without Being Taken Advantage Of (A Word On Self-Trust and Not Tolerating Poor Behavior)
In this episode, Alissa unpacks the hidden reasons why highly sensitive people (HSPs) often struggle with self-trust, and how that lack of trust leads to people-pleasing, being overly tolerant, and losing connection with their own worth. Through personal stories and client breakthroughs, she explores how being overly empathetic can actually lead to self-abandonment, why being “too understanding” hurts more than it helps, and how to finally rebuild your self-trust from the inside out. If you’ve ever felt like you “know” something in your gut but still second-guess yourself, this episode will hit home.You’ll learn:Why self-trust is essential for highly sensitive people and how to rebuild itHow being “too understanding” can lead to self-abandonment and low self-worthThe difference between empathy and over-tolerating poor behaviorHow to hold your own standards and teach others how to treat youUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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201. The Sacred Silence: Trusting Life When You’re in the In-Between
In this episode, Alissa explores what it means to rest, surrender, and find steadiness in the silence. Whether it’s waiting on a job, a text, or clarity in a relationship, these “in-between” moments can stir up anxiety and self-doubt...most especially for highly sensitive people. Alissa opens up about hitting a wall, listening to her energy as a Manifestor, and embracing the sacred invitation of stillness. She also offers practical, compassionate tools to shift how you relate to waiting, rest, and the need for external validation. In this episode, you’ll learn:How to handle silence without spiraling into shame or overthinkingThe power of choosing rest and honoring your energy cyclesWhy stillness can be an invitation for deep inner healing and growthMindset shifts and practices to anchor into self-trust and peaceUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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200. Healing Abandonment Wounds, Raising Self-Worth, & the Rebirth of Building a New Identity
In this episode, Alissa explores the raw, emotional process of moving through self-abandonment and into a fuller, more authentic sense of self-worth. Speaking candidly from her car post-Pilates (in true real-life mom mode), Alissa reflects on her personal journey and what she’s seeing come up for her clients, especially highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigating the discomfort of change. She unpacks the emotional layers of guilt, fear of rejection, and identity shifts that emerge when we stop people-pleasing and start living in alignment. From regulating your nervous system to honoring your light, this episode is a loving call back to self.You’ll learn:What self-abandonment looks like in everyday life (and how to spot it)Why choosing yourself can trigger deep guilt—and how to move through itHow HSPs can navigate the fear of judgment or rejectionTools for regulating your nervous system in moments of discomfortWhy shifting your identity is often a painful—but necessary—rebirthThe surprising connection between self-worth and chronic health issuesHow dimming your light to avoid triggering others is actually abandoning yourselfWays to reclaim internal validation and shed the “good girl” identityHow to manage the emotional backlash from setting boundaries with familyThe empowering message behind Alissa’s trio of transformational coursesUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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199. Creating Your Own "Cool Table" (How I Helped My Client Heal Her Sisterhood Wounds)
In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing and aligned.What you’ll learn:How past relational wounds (especially with your mother) can affect your adult friendshipsWhy overgiving is a symptom of low self-worth—and how to shift out of itThe “do the opposite” method to rewire old relational patternsWhat it really means to create your own “cool table” and attract aligned friendsHow radical self-acceptance leads to magnetic friendshipsWhy healing self-worth is foundational for HSPs to thrive sociallyQuestions answered in this episode:Why do I feel like I always give more than I receive in friendships?What does it mean to have a sisterhood wound?How do I stop people-pleasing in my relationships?Can I build new, better friendships after outgrowing old ones?What steps can I take to feel more confident and grounded socially?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are.
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