198. How To Stop Taking Things Personally In Your Friendships
If you’re someone who spirals when a friend doesn’t text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn’t. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You’ll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself with compassion—so you can experience more peace in your relationships.What You’ll Learn:Why HSPs often take things personally in friendships—and how to stopThe connection between overreacting and unresolved past hurtHow your nervous system goes into “threat mode” over neutral situationsThe difference between assuming the worst and assuming the most generousHow to check in with your triggers instead of blaming yourself or othersWhy personal growth means not projecting past pain onto present peopleWhat it looks like to show yourself compassion in emotionally activated momentsTools to ground yourself before jumping to conclusionsHow to gracefully approach honest conversations when neededWhy real friendships can survive seasons of less communicationQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I always take things personally with my friends?How can I stop overanalyzing texts or slow replies?What if I’m triggered by a friend pulling away—how do I manage it?Why does silence or distance from someone I care about feel so threatening?How do I know if it’s a real issue or an old wound being activated?What does it mean to “assume the most generous” in friendships?When is it time to bring up concerns—and how do I do that with care?How do I stop letting other people’s actions define my worth?What’s the link between friendship struggles and abandonment wounds?Can I really feel safe in my relationships, even when things aren’t perfect?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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197. Overgiving In Friendships? It's Time To Heal Your "I Care More" Wound
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I always care more?”—this episode is for you. Alissa Boyer unpacks the deep emotional pattern many highly sensitive people experience in friendships: the “I care more” wound. When you’re constantly overgiving, anticipating everyone’s needs, and doing the emotional heavy lifting, it can leave you feeling unseen and burned out. This episode helps you uncover why that dynamic keeps repeating—and how to shift out of it so you can create friendships that feel mutual, supportive, and deeply fulfilling.What you’ll learn:The root of the “I care more” wound that many HSPs carryWhy you might give too much in friendships—and how to stopHow to tell the difference between genuine care and giving from insecurityWhat happens when your empathy lacks boundariesHow past family dynamics shape your friendships todayWhy being overly responsible in relationships doesn’t make you more lovableHow to expand your identity beyond the “helper” or “fixer”What it looks like to give from a place of security vs. fearHow to take empowered ownership of your friendship patternsWhat it really means to be authentic and emotionally available as an HSPQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I always feel like I’m doing more than others in friendships?What’s the difference between healthy empathy and self-abandonment?How do I stop overgiving without feeling guilty or selfish?Why am I afraid people will leave if I stop being “the one who does everything”?How do I create friendships that feel more mutual and emotionally safe?What role do past wounds play in my current relationship patterns?Can I still be kind without constantly bending over backwards?How do I set boundaries without shutting people out?How can I be more myself in friendships and still feel loved?What kind of friendships am I a match for when I stop overgiving?Click here to join Confident & Content Relationships: The Friendship EditionUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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196. How To Stop Letting GUILT Get In The Way of Being Yourself, Setting Boundaries, & Speaking Up
You are a good person—and you’re still allowed to say no. In this soul-nourishing episode, in today's episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest emotional blocks for highly sensitive people: guilt. Whether it's over setting a boundary, saying no to a social invite, or not stepping in to solve someone else's problem, guilt can feel like too much to bear. But what if the work isn't to avoid guilt, but to learn how to hold it with compassion? This episode is here to help you build that emotional resilience—and remember that you can be kind and have boundaries.What You'll Learn:Why HSPs often feel guilty for setting boundaries or saying noHow to identify where your guilt is really coming fromThe difference between avoiding guilt and expanding your capacity for itWhy you don’t have to fix other people’s problems to be lovingThe identity traps HSPs fall into (helper, peacemaker, overgiver)How your upbringing and past wounds shape your emotional reactionsWays to build a new self-image rooted in authenticity—not approvalHow to choose between two types of discomfort: people-pleasing or self-honoringHow guilt doesn’t mean you did something wrong—it’s just a feelingA new, empowering way to define kindness and care as a sensitive soulQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I feel so guilty when I say no—even for small things?What if I hurt someone's feelings when I set a boundary?How do I stop feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions?Can I still be a good person if I need space?How can I stop tying my self-worth to being “the helpful one”?What does it look like to expand my emotional tolerance as an HSP?How do I hold compassion for myself when guilt comes up?Is there a healthier way to handle guilt without ignoring it?How do I create space for rest and authenticity without self-judgment?What are practical steps to reclaim my energy in friendships and relationships?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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195. How To Regulate & Feel Safe When You're Worried About Being Judged or Misperceived By Others
This episode is your gentle but powerful reminder: people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. And yes—that truth can set you free. Alissa invites you into a much-needed conversation about the discomfort of being misunderstood, the fear of judgment, and how to find emotional safety within yourself. If you've ever spiraled after a group text or overanalyzed a social media post, this one's for you. Learn how to reclaim your peace and stop outsourcing your self-worth!What you'll learn:Why your fear of judgment often comes from an old wound—and how to heal itHow to stop placing your self-worth in the hands of othersThe mindset shift that will free you from overthinking every interactionTools to help you feel safe when you're misunderstoodWhy discomfort doesn’t mean danger—and how to survive itHow to build your internal sense of validation as an HSPThe power of expanding your “window of tolerance” for stressWhat emotional self-regulation really looks like in everyday lifeHow to break free from the prison of perfectionism and people-pleasingWhy authenticity will always feel better than approvalQuestions answered in this episode:How do I stop overthinking after social situations?Why do I care so much about how others perceive me?What do I do when I feel like people are judging me?How can I build confidence as a highly sensitive person?What’s the difference between healthy validation and needing approval?Why do I get triggered by being left out or overlooked?How do I heal past wounds that make me feel “not good enough”?What practices can help me regulate when I feel overwhelmed by judgment?How do I stop playing small out of fear?Can I really feel confident without needing others to approve of me?Mentioned in this episode: Try EFT Tapping For HSPsUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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194. Feeling Like You're "Too Much" As An Emotional, Sensitive Person
This episode is a love note to the fellow HSPs, the deep feelers, the ones who felt like you were too much! In this heartfelt episode, Alissa reminds you that feeling deeply is NOT a flaw—it’s a GIFT. Sharing her own journey of growing up feeling "too much" and now raising her spirited daughter, Alissa offers powerful reflections and lessons for you as a highly sensitive person. Through her honest experiences, you'll be encouraged to embrace your emotional depth, recognize your sensitivity as a strength, and extend compassion to yourself through every high and low.What You'll Learn:The different ways highly sensitive people (HSPs) adapt to feeling "too much"How emotional patterns from childhood can resurface in adulthoodWhy it's normal for deep-feelers to experience intense highs and lowsThe importance of emotional regulation and how it empowers you as an HSPHow parenting—or any triggering relationship—can highlight hidden areas for healingWhy your passion and intensity are strengths, not burdensPractical mindset shifts to help you honor your emotional experienceThe role of self-compassion when you feel you've "messed up"How to stop comparing yourself to people who seem more "chill" or "easygoing"Why true self-acceptance is your most important work as a sensitive soulQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do HSPs often feel like they're "too much"?How can childhood wounds show up again in adult life or parenting?What does healthy emotional regulation look like for sensitive people?How can you break free from shame after emotional outbursts?In what ways is sensitivity actually a superpower?How can you support yourself when emotions feel overwhelming?Why is self-regulation essential for thriving as an HSP?How can you view emotional challenges as opportunities for healing?What role does compassion play in your growth journey?How do you fully embrace your intense emotional experience without judgment?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are.
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