Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

In this episode, Alissa gets into what it means to stop waiting for other people’s reassurance and why giving yourself permission is the first step toward feeling unshakable in rooms where you used to shrink.
She explains how insecurity clouds the lens you see life through. When you’re unsure of where you are in your career, a friend’s distracted afternoon or a stranger’s cool reception becomes “evidence” that you’re not good enough, even though the situation itself is neutral.
Naming the trigger and where it came from is what starts to loosen that cycle. Over time, this is how self-trust gets built from the inside, so your worth doesn’t rise and fall with who’s celebrating you.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why a cold or distracted reaction from someone else can feel like proof you’re not good enough
How insecurity acts as a lens that makes your brain go looking for evidence that confirms it
What the default response looks like when you rely on external validation, and why going home and hiding feels safe but keeps the pattern alive
How to name a trigger in the moment and choose the opposite action, like taking up space instead of playing small
Why an awkward or unreceptive moment can be an opportunity to validate yourself instead of a verdict on your worth
How giving yourself permission, rather than waiting until you’ve journaled or affirmed enough, builds self-trust and moves you out of an old pattern

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com

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In this episode, Alissa gets into what it’s like to be the one who holds it all together. Your always the listener and the bigger person for everyone else.
She names the anger, the resentment, and the physical toll of keeping yourself small, and offers a way out that starts with what you can actually take ownership of.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why being the one who always holds it together isn't good for you or your health
What good girl conditioning is and how it teaches you to keep your needs small
What you may be gaining from an unhealthy dynamic, including safety, approval, and avoiding conflict
How accepting someone’s limitations gives you information for reimagining the relationship, not an excuse for how they treat you
Why a boundary that gets ignored hasn’t failed, and what holding it again looks like
How to stay rooted when the second guessing and pushback show up
Why creating opportunities to be vulnerable is part of finally feeling heard

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa sits down with Jeminee Ternus, author of You Are a Match for Your Mountain and fellow mom to a daughter with type 1 diabetes, to talk about what it means to meet a hard diagnosis with acceptance instead of a fight.
When life hands you a mountain you never asked for, it can feel like betrayal. This conversation offers a gentler way through, one where grief and gratitude get to sit at the same table.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the number on a glucose monitor is information about a body and not a grade on your mothering
What it feels like when life splits into a clear before and after, and how grief and trust in the bigger plan can live side by side
How shifting from fighting a diagnosis to fighting with it turned chaos into a more peaceful way of living
Why the fun mom and the health mom turned out to be two parts of the same person
How a highly sensitive mom can feel her own grief without letting it land on her child
Why allowing the people you love the dignity of their own experience is its own form of love

Connect with Jeminee:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemified_/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Match-Your-Mountain/dp/B0CPPG2MF8?th=1&psc=1

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa welcomes April Snow back to the podcast to celebrate her new book, Big Feelings, Big Joy, and to talk about why having everyday language for being highly sensitive makes it something you can own instead of explain away.
Sensitive people are often told they're fragile. April and Alissa share the research and the lived experience that say otherwise.
Alissa and April trade personal stories, from feeling different as kids to writing books during some of the hardest seasons of their lives, along with the small daily practices that keep them steady. Sensitivity isn't fragility, it's the capacity to feel the hard and the good at full volume and grow stronger from both.
In this episode, you'll learn:
What April's signature acronym, ORCHID, stands for
Why differential susceptibility is an HSPs greatest gift.
How a nervous system that moves in and out of different states is healthy, and why stretching toward what's meaningful expands your capacity
What tiny pockets of transition time and fewer daily decisions can do for your overwhelm
How savoring good moments became a life raft in April's childhood and still carries her through hard seasons
Why joy and grief can be held at the same time, and how connecting to something bigger than yourself makes that possible

Connect with April:
https://www.sensitivestrengths.com
https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths
Big Feelings, Big Joy: https://www.bigfeelingsbigjoy.com/book

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa gets into what happens when a rejection lands from someone you admire and why choosing to see yourself as an equal, instead of putting them on a pedestal, is the first step toward becoming a match for what you desire.
She shares what she's been noticing in her own season of rejection while her publisher sends her book out for endorsements, plus a look back at her early corporate retail days, when intimidating colleagues made her feel small.
When you develop your self-worth, you stop waiting for external permission, and instead start to create the life you want from your own belief in the inevitability of your success.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why a "no" from someone you admire can feel like proof you're not good enough, and how to catch that story before you agree with it
How putting someone on a pedestal quietly distances you from the very reality you want for yourself
What it looks like to meet a rejection with curiosity and self-belief instead of treating it as a verdict on your worth
Why carrying yourself as an equal is a choice you can make before you have any accolades to stand on
How the deeper work of building self-worth makes that choice easier to access when the moment actually arrives
How highly sensitive people can be deeply attuned and kind while still holding rock solid boundaries in rooms that feel intimidating

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠