You Make Sense

She goes on to explain the differences between codependency, enmeshment, attunement, and interdependence. Sarah also discusses how fear of conflict can lead to self-abandonment, what it takes to feel safe during moments of disconnection or disagreement, and how to support children through distress in ways that build resilience. Tune in to better understand your relational patterns and learn how reclaiming a sense of self supports healthier, more sustainable relationships.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:23] Today’s topic: how not to lose yourself in a relationship
[04:53] How childhood experiences shape our adult lives
[08:39] What does it mean to have a codependent part?
[11:48] Why your primary needs are essential and how to build capacity for them
[15:10] How caretaking can create a false sense of safety
[16:58] Signs you might be in a codependent dynamic
[19:16] Other protective parts of codependency: the rescuer
[22:13] Avoidance can show up in the form of caretaking
[23:24] Diffuse boundaries and how they also impact parenting
[26:41] The ramifications of and antidote to survival-based relationships
[32:13] Characteristics of a healthy relationship
[33:51] How to step toward interdependence
[39:05] Question 1 - The difference between codependency, enmeshment, and attunement.
[49:12] Question 2 - How to overcome the fear of conflict
[58:08] Question 3 - Supporting a child through distress or challenging situations

 
Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:
Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!
Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:
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Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:
Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.
Click the link below to download:
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Connect with Sarah on:
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Quotes:
“The thing that reminds your nervous system the most of [a] romantic relationship is your earliest childhood experiences. That lays the blueprint, or foundation, or map for how you had to navigate relationships.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:22]
“You cannot rescue anybody else. Only they, their adult self, can rescue the younger parts of [themselves].” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:43]
“The amount of hard you experience in your childhood relationally is going to be reflected in the amount of hard that needs to get resolved in your romantic partnership.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:39]
“If you want to avoid burnout, if you want to avoid getting overwhelmed by your client load and the work that you do, it is very important that you are functioning not from a place of codependency but interdependence.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:26]

Limiting beliefs are often not representative of who you are today but are self-protective mechanisms that formed as a result of past traumas or experiences. The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to shift this! Sarah will guide you through how to anchor into regulation and your adult self so that you can find more ease, peace, and confidence. Tune in for a somatic approach on how to change unwanted thought patterns.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:11] Origins of limiting beliefs
[04:45] The 2 reasons limiting beliefs exist: unresolved trauma and fragmented parts
[10:17] The stories your fragmented parts tell you and how they fuel your limiting beliefs
[14:00] Why mindset work and traditional therapy alone can’t change your thoughts
[15:03] The four states of your autonomic nervous system
[20:32] How coming into a state of regulation changes limiting beliefs
[24:15] Why you also need to work with your parts to change your thoughts
[30:50] Question 1 - Understanding the link between your parts and nervous system
[33:51] Question 2 - Why protective parts can block us from success
[37:51] Question 3 - The connection between dreaming and your parts
 
Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:
Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!
Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:
https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist

 
Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:
Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.

Click below to get started:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

 
Submit a Question:
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Quotes:
“Human beings clock something as true if we can feel it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:57]
“I cannot believe something to be true if there isn’t the appropriate affect attached to it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:08]
“Your autonomic state within your nervous system creates your story or the thoughts that you are having.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:33]
“When you’re in regulation, this is the fertile ground for creating new neural pathways for what’s actually true [and for] positive thinking.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:01]

Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:25] Today’s topic: post-traumatic growth
[03:45] Why you may struggle to navigate healing through living
[11:46] Building your ‘house of healing’
[14:59] What to expect as you start to live fully
[21:26] Why suffering isn’t necessary to receive abundance
[23:59] The importance of having support through healing
[25:28] Question 1 - How do I take action once I know my truth?
[29:24] Question 2 - Why has it been so challenging to start my business?
[35:15] Question 3 - How do I tend to my parts as I take steps in my purpose?
 
Get Started with Nervous System Regulation:
Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life.
 
Join the course for only $67:
 bit.ly/sp-nse

 
Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:
Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

 
Click the link below to download:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook

 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

 
Submit a Question:
sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

 
Quotes:
“A lot of our healing comes from our living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:01]
“Good things don’t always feel good at first because our nervous system doesn’t know them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:40]
“Transforming into anything new means a loss of something else. So, really [take] the time to be with that and not rush the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:06]
“The depths of your suffering equate to the depths of aliveness you get to experience in life, and so, the deeper the suffering, when you heal that, the deeper the ecstasy of just breathing is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:41]
“Your learning was in and through [your] suffering, and now your learning is in your living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:49]

 
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Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.
This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] The myth that romantic relationships should feel effortless
[05:26] Moving from self-focus to being relationally-focused
[07:46] The role of willingness and self-growth in partnerships
[09:20] Tending the relationship as a shared garden instead of a battlefield
[15:38] How the nervous system projects childhood experiences onto our partner
[17:51] Why we are drawn to partners who mirror our unfinished business
[22:46] How understanding our parts and reparenting them supports relational repair
[27:49] Building empathy by recognizing our partner’s parts and core wounds
[31:02] Honoring difference and celebrating stretching
[40:23] What becomes possible in relationships when both people are willing
[43:15] Question 1 - Differentiating anxiety from truth in romantic relationships
[55:59] Question 2 - Working with longing, loneliness, and unmet needs for connection
[01:02:14] Question 3 - Learning to approach connection slowly
 
RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:
Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you.
Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):
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Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:
Want to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis.
 
Click below to learn more:
https://bit.ly/sp-nyns
 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
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Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com
 
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Quotes:
“Romantic relationships are where so much of our growth and healing happen, and that means that they aren't just filled with ease, they're filled with work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:48]
“Any garden can be transformed if both people are willing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:33]
“We marry our unfinished business, or we get into relationship with our unfinished business.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:28]
“We are punishing our partner for everything our caregivers got wrong, and our partner wasn't there for any of it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:49]
“The only person that can rescue your parts is you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:45]
“Romantic relationships are supposed to be an invitation into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:39]
“Our protective parts won't be open to letting us love again if they don't think that we can hold the aftermath of losing love.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:40]

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] Understanding how we orient to time
[02:37] Anchoring in regulation helps us perceive what’s actually true
[06:30] Time from your sympathetic nervous system
[12:35] Time from your dorsal vagal complex
[14:24] Time from your blended state of freeze
[14:55] Our experience of time when aligned vs. misaligned
[21:31] Why we compare ourselves to others
[28:55] Connecting to presence and the truth of our unfolding
[31:15] Question 1: Muscling through versus getting out of your comfort zone
[36:29] Question 2: How to start healing even when you’re in chronic stress
[41:13] Question 3: Being patient while you are healing
 
RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:
Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you.
 
Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):
 http://bit.ly/sp-live-training
 
Download the FREE Workbook:
https://bit.ly/yms-yt-workbook
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook
 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com
 
Submit a Question:
sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast
 
Quotes:
“Our nervous system is creating our entire experience, including how [we] perceive the movement of time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:47]
“None of us pick [the] right life when we are choosing from survival.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:33]
“No one is on the path of life that you are on besides you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:33]
“Living happens only in this moment in time, and that means it only happens when we’re in regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:59]
 
Other Links Mentioned in This Episode:
https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system