You Make Sense

Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:25] Today’s topic: post-traumatic growth
[03:45] Why you may struggle to navigate healing through living
[11:46] Building your ‘house of healing’
[14:59] What to expect as you start to live fully
[21:26] Why suffering isn’t necessary to receive abundance
[23:59] The importance of having support through healing
[25:28] Question 1 - How do I take action once I know my truth?
[29:24] Question 2 - Why has it been so challenging to start my business?
[35:15] Question 3 - How do I tend to my parts as I take steps in my purpose?
 
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Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:
Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

 
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Quotes:
“A lot of our healing comes from our living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:01]
“Good things don’t always feel good at first because our nervous system doesn’t know them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:40]
“Transforming into anything new means a loss of something else. So, really [take] the time to be with that and not rush the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:06]
“The depths of your suffering equate to the depths of aliveness you get to experience in life, and so, the deeper the suffering, when you heal that, the deeper the ecstasy of just breathing is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:41]
“Your learning was in and through [your] suffering, and now your learning is in your living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:49]

 
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Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.
This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] The myth that romantic relationships should feel effortless
[05:26] Moving from self-focus to being relationally-focused
[07:46] The role of willingness and self-growth in partnerships
[09:20] Tending the relationship as a shared garden instead of a battlefield
[15:38] How the nervous system projects childhood experiences onto our partner
[17:51] Why we are drawn to partners who mirror our unfinished business
[22:46] How understanding our parts and reparenting them supports relational repair
[27:49] Building empathy by recognizing our partner’s parts and core wounds
[31:02] Honoring difference and celebrating stretching
[40:23] What becomes possible in relationships when both people are willing
[43:15] Question 1 - Differentiating anxiety from truth in romantic relationships
[55:59] Question 2 - Working with longing, loneliness, and unmet needs for connection
[01:02:14] Question 3 - Learning to approach connection slowly
 
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Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:
Want to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis.
 
Click below to learn more:
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Connect with Sarah on:
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Quotes:
“Romantic relationships are where so much of our growth and healing happen, and that means that they aren't just filled with ease, they're filled with work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:48]
“Any garden can be transformed if both people are willing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:33]
“We marry our unfinished business, or we get into relationship with our unfinished business.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:28]
“We are punishing our partner for everything our caregivers got wrong, and our partner wasn't there for any of it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:49]
“The only person that can rescue your parts is you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:45]
“Romantic relationships are supposed to be an invitation into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:39]
“Our protective parts won't be open to letting us love again if they don't think that we can hold the aftermath of losing love.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:40]

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] Understanding how we orient to time
[02:37] Anchoring in regulation helps us perceive what’s actually true
[06:30] Time from your sympathetic nervous system
[12:35] Time from your dorsal vagal complex
[14:24] Time from your blended state of freeze
[14:55] Our experience of time when aligned vs. misaligned
[21:31] Why we compare ourselves to others
[28:55] Connecting to presence and the truth of our unfolding
[31:15] Question 1: Muscling through versus getting out of your comfort zone
[36:29] Question 2: How to start healing even when you’re in chronic stress
[41:13] Question 3: Being patient while you are healing
 
RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:
Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you.
 
Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):
 http://bit.ly/sp-live-training
 
Download the FREE Workbook:
https://bit.ly/yms-yt-workbook
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook
 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com
 
Submit a Question:
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Quotes:
“Our nervous system is creating our entire experience, including how [we] perceive the movement of time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:47]
“None of us pick [the] right life when we are choosing from survival.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:33]
“No one is on the path of life that you are on besides you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:33]
“Living happens only in this moment in time, and that means it only happens when we’re in regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:59]
 
Other Links Mentioned in This Episode:
https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system

Sarah breaks down how the autonomic nervous system shapes your entire lived experience, using clear metaphors to explain why you may feel blocked from the relationships, purpose, and opportunities you long for. She shares why the nervous system responds to what you show it (somatically), not what you tell it, and how regulation helps create the internal conditions for growth and fulfillment.
The episode closes with questions about finding purpose, knowing when to push versus pause, and navigating fear during big transitions. Join Sarah to learn how small, steady capacity-building steps can help you move toward the life you long for with more trust, clarity, and ease.
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:11] Why effort and willpower alone aren’t enough
[05:03] Your nervous system creates your entire experience
[11:29] Healing unresolved experiences is how we create the life we desire
[15:04] Why our deepest desires are often an invitation into our healing
[20:47] The power of nervous system regulation
[25:23] Simple ways to build the capacity in your nervous system
[31:00] Using parts work to build trust with your younger parts
[0:36:27] The importance of walking, and not sprinting, toward the life you want
[0:43:06] Question 1: Tools for how to figure out your purpose
[0:56:05] Question 2: Pushing through discomfort versus slowing down
[1:03:03] Question 3: Consistent regulation during fear or uncertainty at work
 
Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:
Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.
 
Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:
https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

 
Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:
Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.
 
Click below to get started:
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Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
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Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com
 
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Quotes:
“No amount of energy, no amount of focus, of pushing, of grinding is going to get us the life we’re desiring. It can work to a degree, but we do reach a point where the fullness of life that we want cannot be found on that treadmill.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:46]
“What we have to do is we have to learn to speak the language of our nervous system and begin letting it know in a way that it understands that the life we want is actually safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:16]
“Your nervous system does not want to be working so hard. When you are in dysregulation, it is working very hard; it wants to rest. Resting is the doors opening, but it needs to know you're safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:33]
“What we have to do is begin becoming the primary protector of our vulnerable parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:04]

She explores the difference between embodied boundaries and self-protective boundaries, which form as a result of unmet needs and misattunement in childhood. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your adult self, identify the protective parts that might be informing the way you set limits, and communicate your needs without reverting to old patterns.
Through practical guidance and compassionate teaching, Sarah offers a path back to boundaries that reflect who we are now, not who we once had to be. Tune in to hear how a somatic approach can support healing, authenticity, and deeper connection!
 
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:10] Why family dynamics pull us back into younger roles
[04:48] How early nervous system development shapes regulation
[06:50] The importance of honoring a child’s boundaries
[11:16] Ways that childhood boundary violations impact adult patterns
[15:50] The 3 boundary styles: diffuse, rigid, and embodied
[21:45] Learning to anchor in the adult self around family of origin
[26:23] Preparing for resistance when shifting long-term dynamics
[28:50] Working with protective parts who fear boundary setting
[32:34] What to expect from internal and external resistance
[37:06] Leading with the adult self when communicating boundaries
[39:34] Applying embodied boundaries in family and holiday settings
[42:27] Question 1: Staying regulated when younger parts panic
[45:54] Question 2: Naming needs in relationships when anxious attachment shows up
[51:24] Question 3: Navigating boundaries with unsafe or traumatic family systems
 
Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:
Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.
 
Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:
https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist
 
Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:
Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.
 
Click the link below to download the workbook:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook
 
Connect with Sarah on:
Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter
Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com
 
Submit a Question:
sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast
 
Quotes:
“[Setting boundaries] is what allows us to navigate life as our authentic self. And this is also what allows us to navigate life in a way that gets our needs met in a multitude of ways. So it is really vital that we are able to come into this experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:40]
“Even with loving parents, most of them did not know how to parent, and that meant that they didn't realize the imperative nature of honoring and validating your embodied boundary.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:27]
“Whatever we need to do that makes it tolerable to set the boundary, that's what we want to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:29]
“The more that you're doing parts work on a regular basis, the more these parts are going to trust you as you begin setting these boundaries. [It’s] really important that we're engaging in that regularly.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:55]
“[When you’re] re-parenting [your parts], what actually happens is you become the parent they never had. You become their home internally. And now the parts are no longer looking for your caregivers to be their mom and dad.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:24]
“Accessing our ability to set healthy boundaries is good. It is a gift for everyone. It's an invitation to them into their own healing, and it's not our business whether they take the invitation or not. So how do we do this? As always, one tolerable step at a time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:39]