Adult Child

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When your inner child says don't be selfish, your inner teen says we don't owe them shit, and your true self asks what we can live with.
Lisa D. Stinson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, former Navy psychologist, and trauma specialist with over twenty years treating survivors of narcissistic family systems. She grew up the family scapegoat to a narcissistic mother and an enabling father, left home at seventeen, and has spent her life since at a deliberate distance from the people who raised her. Her newly published book, The Obligation Myth, explores the question almost no one prepares you for: what you actually owe the parent who hurt you once they're the one who needs help — and how to answer it in a way you can live with long after they're gone.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️Why Caregiving Reactivates Your Childhood Role — The unique challenges an aging parent triggers in the scapegoat, the invisible child, and the golden child.
▪️When Every Part of You Wants Something Different — How to honor the conflicting voices an aging parent stirs up without letting any single one decide how you show up.
▪️Competent Caregiving Without the Emotional Investment — Why you can meet a difficult parent's practical needs without handing back the self you rebuilt.
▪️Why Going No Contact Isn't One Size Fits All — How estrangement can be permanent or something you move in and out of, and why neither is the wrong answer.
▪️The Deathbed Conversation That Backfires — Why the forgiveness or confrontation you keep rehearsing can leave you more wounded than silence would.
▪️Becoming the Protector You Never Had — Why the grief of what you never got eases once you fiercely protect your younger self the way no one did back then.
Lisa's Substack
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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
Ep 140 | Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents: Grief Behind Anger w/ Morgan Pommels
Ep 139 | The Power of Reparenting Your Inner Family w/ Barb Nangle
Ep 90 | Family Scapegoat Abuse w/ Rebecca Mandeville
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✨ NEW COURSE — Safe Within: 7-week live somatic healing journey to SELF energy. Starts July 1st.
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Your childhood taught your body that love means waiting to be left. No amount of insight changes that.
Val Rubin is a trauma-informed somatic coach and host of the Anxiety Recovery Podcast who specializes in healing the fear of abandonment through the nervous system rather than the mind — and she's speaking from the inside out. For six years she lived with chronic pain that every doctor missed, until hypnotherapy resolved it in months and set her on a path that eventually ran straight through her own trauma bond. This conversation is about what it actually takes to change when you already understand yourself.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️ Why Your Gut Reads Danger Before Your Brain Does — How your nervous system builds a subconscious safety database in childhood that keeps running your adult relationships on autopilot.
▪️ Why Unavailable People Feel Like Home — How your nervous system built its definition of love around someone who couldn't give it, and why that template outlasts every therapist you've ever had.
▪️ Chronic Pain as Stored Emotion — How unprocessed emotional pain migrates into the body as physical symptoms when there's nowhere else for it to go.
▪️ The Trauma Bond Withdrawal — What your nervous system goes through when you leave a toxic relationship, and why it has nothing to do with willpower.
▪️ Building Secure Attachment From Within — How somatic healing retrains the nervous system to generate the sense of safety that relationships keep failing to provide.
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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
Ep 130 | Addicted to Fear & Chaos: The Adult Child Inner Drug Store w/ Dr. Scott Lyons
Ep 161 | Abandonment Trauma Expert Susan Anderson on Rejection and Equating Love with Insecurity
Ep 173 | Secret Language of the Body: Somatic Healing w/ Karden Rabin
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Waiting to be chosen is the slowest way to abandon yourself.
Joe Ryan is a trauma recovery coach and host of The Joe Ryan Podcast — and today, he's speaking from the other side of the most profound grief of his life. After losing his best friend to cancer and facing his own cancer scare six weeks later, he chose to sit in the pain for a year and a half instead of running from it — and what surfaced wasn't just the grief, it was every abandonment wound underneath, including the lifelong, exhausting pattern of waiting to be chosen. This conversation is about what grief actually gives you when you stop running from it, and the moment you realize the only person you ever needed to choose you was yourself.
✨ What this episode explores
▪️ Why Grief Is the Price of Love — How the walls that protected you from being hurt are the same walls keeping out the connection you most want.
▪️ The Lifelong Wait to Be Chosen — Why no amount of being picked by someone else fixes what only choosing yourself can, and what shifts when you finally stop performing for it.
▪️ The Self-Abandonment Underneath the Abandonment Wound — Why the people who feel abandoned the most are often the ones abandoning themselves first, and how to recognize it in your own patterns.
▪️ What Sitting in Grief Actually Looks Like — The body-level practice of staying with discomfort long enough for the rumination to quiet down and the real material underneath to surface.
▪️ The Performance Mask — The shiny, no-cracks version of yourself you built so no one would see the needy little kid underneath, and what it costs to keep wearing it.
▪️ Capacity Is the Whole Game — Why the work you do in the calm seasons becomes the difference between drowning and grieving when the next loss comes.
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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
▪️ Ep 39 — The Fear of Abandonment w/ Joe Ryan
▪️ Ep 91 — Complex Trauma, Dating & Setting Boundaries w/ Joe Ryan
▪️Ep 204 — The Deeper Truth About Fawning: How Survival Turns Into Self-Abandonment w/ Ingrid Clayton
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