For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When anger flares up, it can feel like something other people cause — a disrespectful comment, a traffic jam, a partner’s forgetfulness. But what if the real reason you get angry isn’t out there, but within you? In this revealing episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs, with help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, unpacks a powerful truth: your thoughts create your anger — and that means you can change it. If you're ready to reclaim your calm and control your reactions, this episode shows you how.Key Takeaways:-Anger begins with your thoughts: It’s not the event, but how you interpret it — your story about what’s happening — that creates anger.-Your reactions aren’t set in stone: Even deeply ingrained patterns of anger can be rewired through conscious awareness and consistent practice.-The power lies in the pause: Noticing the thought before reacting gives you the chance to choose a calmer, more helpful response.-Blame is easy — change is transformational: Shifting from “they made me angry” to “I created this feeling” is the first step toward real emotional freedom.-You’re not powerless: You can train your mind to respond differently, build stronger relationships, and feel more in control of your emotions.-Small steps lead to big change: Catch one thought, question one reaction, practice one pause — and you’re already breaking the cycle.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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50- How to Stop Anger Before It Starts
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever gone from calm to furious in seconds — and wondered how it escalated so fast? In this eye-opening episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the one essential key to preventing outbursts before they begin: awareness. With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair explains how to recognise your personal early warning signs of anger, create space between trigger and reaction, and stop anger from taking control of your life and relationships.Key Takeaways:-Anger doesn’t come out of nowhere: Even explosive reactions start with subtle cues in your body, mind, and behavior — if you know how to notice them.-Awareness gives you power: The moment you catch anger rising, you create a pause — and in that pause, you can choose a better response.-Your early warning signs are unique: Learning what signals anger for you personally is the first step to stopping it in its tracks.-Real stories, real change: Dan, Kyle and Ross share how simple awareness transformed their relationships and helped them break destructive patterns.-Awareness is the foundation for every anger management tool: Without it, you're stuck on autopilot. With it, you can take control and build calmer, more connected relationships.-Change is possible for everyone: No matter your past, anger doesn’t have to define your future — and the journey starts with noticing.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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49 - Anger Doesn’t Work
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger can feel powerful — but that surge of energy, those sharp words or slammed doors, are often doing more harm than good. In this deeply important episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs and AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah reveal the truth: uncontrolled anger doesn’t solve problems — it creates them. From subtle emotional abuse to devastating outbursts, this episode explores how anger chips away at trust and connection — and how you can reclaim real power through calm, clarity, and conscious choice.Key Takeaways:-Anger doesn’t work — it wounds: What feels powerful in the moment often damages your relationships and leaves you feeling regretful and isolated.-Abuse comes in many forms: Uncontrolled anger can turn into verbal, emotional, or even physical patterns of abuse — even if it doesn’t look like “rage.”-The illusion of control: Using anger to get what you want creates a false sense of power — real strength lies in calm, conscious responses.-Unaddressed anger escalates: Left unchecked, anger tends to grow and multiply, creating destructive cycles that erode relationships and self-respect.-You can choose a different path: Learning emotional awareness, empathy and communication gives you the tools to respond instead of react — and truly change your life.-Change starts with a single decision: The choice to take back control of your reactions is the first step toward building healthier, more respectful relationships.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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48 - I Wish I Could Take It Back: Leon's Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger doesn’t always look like shouting. Sometimes, it shows up as tension in your tone, silence in place of connection or words that leave unseen bruises. In this moving episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Leon’s powerful story — a man who didn’t think he had an anger problem until he realised how deeply his unspoken frustration was affecting the people he loved. If you’ve ever said, “At least I’m not yelling,” this episode is a wake-up call — and a message of hope.Key Takeaways:-Anger can be quiet and still cause harm: Leon’s story reveals how subtle signs — tone of voice, emotional withdrawal, critical words — can hurt just as much as yelling.-Awareness is the game-changer: Learning to recognise the physical and emotional signs of anger helped Leon stop it before it boiled over.-Change starts with empathy: Leon’s desire to protect his young daughter from emotional harm gave him the motivation to change, fast.-Communication goes both ways: The course helped Leon understand the importance of listening and considering how his words impacted others.-Even skepticism can lead to transformation: Leon was unsure at first, but within days of starting the course, he began making real, lasting changes.-Positive self-talk creates resilience: Anchoring his change to something precious — his daughter — gave Leon strength to shift old patterns and stay calm under pressure.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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47 - Breaking Free from the Blame Game
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When things go wrong, it’s tempting to point the finger — at your partner, your boss, even your kids. But blame doesn’t solve problems; it creates distance. In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores "The Blame Game" — a hidden habit that damages relationships and keeps us stuck in conflict. With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair unpacks why we blame, how it affects those around us and what you can do instead to build understanding and connection.Key Takeaways:-Blame is a defence mechanism: It often shows up automatically to protect our ego from discomfort, but it only deepens disconnection.-Awareness is the first step: Simply noticing when you’re blaming — even in your own mind — opens the door to a different response.-Own your part: Taking responsibility for your contribution, no matter how small, shifts you from victim mode into growth and empowerment.-Practice empathy over accusation: Asking “Why might they be acting this way?” builds understanding and defuses conflict.-Let go of “shoulds”: Rigid thinking about how things should have gone only fuels resentment. Focus on what can be done now.-Communicate to connect: Use “I” statements, listen actively, and validate feelings to create safer, more productive conversations.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted.
Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect.
This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery.
Want to learn more? Visit AngerSecrets.com.
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