How Repressed Emotions Cause Violence in Relationships (Generational Trauma)
What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships.We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma.00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships18:20 – Inner Child Work22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions SafelyWhether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal.👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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Coping with Sibling Estrangement | Healing, Boundaries & Growth
Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement, including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds.You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion without needing your sibling to be “on the same page”. We talk about reconciliation, holding boundaries, and seeking emotional peace.01:30 - Why Siblings Grow Apart03:20 - Childhood Perception and Parental Favoritism05:10 - Why Siblings Have Different Childhoods07:00 - Generational Trauma & Family Roles11:00 - How Inner Work Triggers Family Conflict16:00 - Sibling Jealousy and Injustice21:00 - Why Estranged Siblings Often Misplace Anger26:00 - Boundaries as a Tool for Emotional SafetyThis episode is for anyone navigating the pain of sibling fallout, whether you’ve been cut off, ghosted, or just feel emotionally distant.👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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Why is It So Hard to Meditate? How to Start When It Feels Impossible
You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else. If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start.In this episode, we talk about why meditation often feels impossible. We unpack the real reasons you can’t “just sit still”—from trauma response and nervous system dysregulation to inner child wounds and coping mechanisms that once kept you safe. You’ll learn how to start gently, how to use sensory tools to anchor when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop comparing your practice to someone else’s highlight reel.Whether you’ve tried to meditate and given up, or you’re curious why it triggers you instead of calming you— you will learn how to build safety in your body first… so meditation can finally work for you, not against you.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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Are You Emasculating Your Man Without Realizing It?
Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life.We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated.If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen!– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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Why Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle)
Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds.We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threat, and what to do instead.If you’re ready to stop reacting from survival mode and start parenting from grounded authority, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies. Learn how to set boundaries without control, regulate your own triggers, and create space for emotional safety and connection in your home.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every fortnight, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself.
Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 16 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.
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