Are You Emasculating Your Man Without Realizing It?
Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life.We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated.If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen!– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
--------
26:44
Why Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle)
Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds.We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threat, and what to do instead.If you’re ready to stop reacting from survival mode and start parenting from grounded authority, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies. Learn how to set boundaries without control, regulate your own triggers, and create space for emotional safety and connection in your home.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coachingBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
--------
25:22
Can Couples Therapy Make Things Worse?
Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first.We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic relationships. You’ll hear how unconscious expectations, coping patterns, and childhood experiences silently sabotage even the most well-intentioned communication tools.If you’re considering couples counseling, or feel like it hasn’t helped, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of why healing must start individually, and what needs to happen before therapy can actually work.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.netBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
--------
26:01
Parenting Tips to Manage More Than One Child
Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't).We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’s role in the family system. We also shed light on how gender roles and societal expectations unconsciously impact how parents treat their sons versus their daughters. Whether you’re a parent of two or more, or thinking about expanding your family, this episode offers empowering strategies to parent with more awareness, compassion, and flexibility.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.netBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
--------
28:06
Is It Your Personality or a Trauma Response?
Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences.In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and influence your behaviors, reactions, and relationships. You’ll learn how to identify common trauma responses that often go unnoticed because they’ve been part of your identity for so long.If you’re on a journey of self-awareness, healing, or helping others do the same, this episode will help you draw the line between personality and past trauma. Tune in to uncover what’s really driving your responses, and how you can begin the process of healing and reclaiming your authentic identity.– Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-pastAndrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.netBook a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session– 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.nethttps://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynnhttps://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every fortnight, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself.
Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 16 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.
Ireland