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Erika and Kristen dig into a deeply disturbing ProPublica investigation of two Black women in Florida who were subjected to emergency court hearings during active labor when they refused unwanted C-sections. 

The hosts break down the cases in detail, including the murky statistics on uterine rupture risk, the medical racism baked into how Black women are treated during childbirth, and how Florida's fetal personhood laws have created a legal landscape where state prisoners have more rights over their medical decisions than pregnant women.

They also revisit the ongoing story of Adriana Smith, the Georgia woman declared brain dead at 9 weeks pregnant whose family has been navigating the aftermath of forced life support ever since.

Key topics covered

The ProPublica investigation into Cherise Doyley and Brianna Bennett
What fetal personhood laws are and why they matter right now
The 1999 Laura Pemberton case — an early Florida forced C-section precedent
Medical racism and the maternal mortality disparity for Black women
The difference between doulas and midwives
Why mentally competent patients can refuse most medical treatment
Adriana Smith's story and her family's GoFundMe
Women being excluded from health studies until the 1990s

TRIPS:
Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With Erika (Tickets close on May 2!) 
Christmas Markets 2026!!! 

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Today, we’re being BLESSED by the one and only Rachel Cargle. When we started this podcast, Rachel was one of our number one dream guests. Rachel is a founder, an organizer, an author, an activist. Her work focuses mostly on intersectionality and womanhood. She is the creator of the iconic community for childfree women Rich Auntie Supreme. She’s the author of A Renaissance of Our Own: A Memoir & Manifesto on Reimagining which is a very lovely book that I’d recommend to anyone who is working through a new phase of their life. 

TRIPS:

Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With Erika (time is running out!!!) 

Christmas Markets 2026!!! 

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In this episode of our Regretful Parents series, Kristen and Erika react to a viral Reddit post from a mom who was *thrilled* when her ex-husband filed for full custody of their 3-year-old son — and immediately booked a flight.

We get into the messy reality of co-parenting, why dads get a pass for bad parenting while moms never do, the way society fails boys by refusing to discipline them, and why this woman packing her bags (and her cat) might actually be… the right call?

💬 Topics we cover:• Regretful parents Reddit reactions• Co-parenting gone wrong — and when to just let go• The "let them" philosophy and when it actually applies• Why boys are socialized differently — and why that's a problem• Childfree life wins: peace, quiet, and traveling solo• The green card plot twist no one saw coming• Australia: the ultimate escape plan?

Take a trip with us!

South of France in June: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/france/france-with-erika-abdelatif-jun-2026 

Christmas Markets trip in December: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/germany-and-austria/germany-with-erika-abdelatif-dec-09-2026?earlybird=true 

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#RegretfulParents #ChildfreeLife #DinkyPodcast #Childfree #ParentingFails #CoParenting #RedditReactions #ChildfreeByChoice #MomLife #PodcastForWomen

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Erika and Kristen are joined by returning guest Neill Wolf to break down Louis Theroux's Netflix documentary Into the Manosphere — and the terrifying, infuriating, hilarious world it reveals. From 13-year-olds swarming influencers in the streets of New York to a pregnant girlfriend who may not know she's not legally married, this one is one for the books. 

We chat about: 
HSTikkyTokky (Harrison) — a 23-year-old who introduces women as his "dishwasher," streams seven hours a day, and has a very weird dynamic with his mom. The hand symbols, his shaved head era, and his complete moral vacuum are all thoroughly dissected.
Justin — the 40-year-old "polished" manosphere figure with a pregnant common-law wife, a steel magnate past, and a philosophy he calls "one-sided monogamy." The most unsettling figure precisely because he seems reasonable — until he says women don't know what they want and men should tell them.
Myron Gaines (Fresh & Fit) — whose entire apartment is a podcast studio, whose girlfriend Angie cleans his room before Netflix arrives, and who couldn't answer Louie's question: "What if you just... only wanted to be with her?"

The Fresh & Fit Delusion Calculator, the Matrix conspiracy spiral, the Bonnie Blue cameo, the Baron Trump name-drop, and the penis extension expert… we discuss it all!!!!! 

The group also wrestles with bigger questions: What does the male loneliness epidemic actually look like? Why are these ideologies skewing younger and younger into Gen Alpha? Is it all just a big grift, a belief system, or both? And what on earth do you do about it?

Plus: Neill brought a list of things women invented. 

TRIPS:
Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With Erika (time is running out!!!) 
Christmas Markets 2026!!! 

GET MORE FROM DINKY:
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Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and Threads at @dinkypod. Follow us on YouTube.

If you have a question or comment, email us at [email protected]

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In this episode of the Regretful Parents series, Erika and Kristen react to a viral Reddit post from the Regretful Parents subreddit written by a mom who loved cooking — until she had a child. From cold meals and high-pitched screaming at the dinner table to losing her passion for the kitchen entirely, this mom's story hits different for anyone who lives for food.We break down the emotional toll of meal time battles with picky toddlers, why the mental load of feeding a child falls disproportionately on moms, and what it really means when parents say motherhood is their "favorite job." Plus, the dinosaur documentary comes up again (naturally), Desperate Housewives makes a surprise appearance, and the girls share their completely unqualified parenting advice — chicken nuggets, blended vegetables, and Flintstones vitamins included.

In this episode:
A mom who loved cooking loses all joy in the kitchen after having a toddler
The reality of meal time with picky eaters and what actually works
Why so many parents lie when asked if they love being a mom
The mental load imbalance at the dinner table (and everywhere else)
Erika's ongoing dinosaur documentary arc and what it says about modern life

Take a trip with us! South of France in June: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/france/france-with-erika-abdelatif-jun-2026 

Christmas Markets trip in December: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/germany-and-austria/germany-with-erika-abdelatif-dec-09-2026?earlybird=true 

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Keywords: regretful parents reddit, parenting regret stories, picky eater toddler, mom burnout, stay at home mom mental load, parenting honest conversations, childfree podcast, reddit reactions, parenting stress, cooking for kids, toddler meal time struggles, child free by choice 

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