#346: What if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2:00 PM every single day isn't because you're weak or lazy, but because you've been running a full-time job you didn't even know you had?I'm talking about emotional outsourcing – the exhausting pattern of constantly monitoring everyone else's feelings, needs, and comfort levels while completely ignoring your own. You become fluent in everyone else's emotional language while losing the ability to decode your own basic signals. You'll sit through meetings with a full bladder, ignore hunger pangs until you're shaky, and suppress yawns because drawing attention to your human needs feels somehow wrong.The real tragedy isn't just the exhaustion or the resentment building underneath your constant yes-saying. It's that you never get to feel the full safety of being you in the world. Join me today to learn the true cost of emotional outsourcing, and why these survival strategies are no longer serving you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/346Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book
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Today Is the Day: End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!
Today is the day! My book, End Emotional Outsourcing, which I've poured my heart and science-nerd brain into, is officially out. But getting it into the world depends on what happens this week. This isn't about the money. It's about getting these life-changing words into the hands of someone who needs them.This book challenges the "tough-it-out" messages we're constantly fed. I've created a new language around codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, calling it emotional outsourcing. Rooted in accessible nervous system science and my own story as a queer Latina immigrant, this book is about coming home to yourself.Your order sends a message that voices like mine matter and that we need more love, more care, and more science in this world. And when you order 10 or more copies, you'll get a free six-week live course with me! Plus, all orders are entered into raffles for amazing prizes like one-on-one coaching, breathwork sessions, and a spot in my six-month course, Anchored. By helping me carry this book, you're helping us show the world that cruelty doesn't get the final say - love does.Order the book here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book
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Ep #345: Why I Wrote My Book
#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're going through all the right motions, saying all the right things, but somehow feel disconnected from your own experience?I get it, and I've been there: checking all the boxes, looking successful on paper, while feeling completely lost inside. This disconnection from yourself isn't a personality flaw or something wrong with you - it's a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed to keep you safe.Join me this week as I share why I wrote my new book End Emotional Outsourcing and how it offers a revolutionary framework for understanding why so many of us feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/345Pre-order End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book
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Your Invitation: Tacos, Connection, and a Big Thank You
I’ve got two special surprises for you! Order 10+ copies of End Emotional Outsourcing and you’ll get a free seat in my six-week live course — plus a chance to win a full spot in Anchored. And if you’re in New York, join me on Sept 30th in Brooklyn for tacos, cocktails, connection, and the sweetest book party. Get your seat in the six week live course (and your raffle entry for a FULL spot in Anchored) here: https://beatrizalbina.com/10booksbonus/Get your ticket to the party here: beatrizalbina.com/pubparty
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The Thing You Do That You Don't Even Know You Do: The Book Series #8
Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small.This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book
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The Feminist Wellness podcast offers empowering holistic medicine, psychology and life coaching advice for smart women who believe they can live powerful, fulfilling lives with more self-worth, self-love, and true self-care. Equal parts nervous system science and witchy woo, Béa Victoria brings it all together to help you see how your socialization, conditioning, and family blueprint are keeping you feeling stuck in life.
If you’re ready to shake the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts that keep you searching for external validation, putting yourself last and everyone else’s needs and opinions of you first, this is the show for you.
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