The Divorce Roundtable - Healing, Identity & Moving On
In a special roundtable episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay brings together three leading voices in men’s mental health. They discuss one of the most personal and transformative experiences men face: divorce. Relationship coach Shana James, couples therapist Tamra Sattler, and somatic psychotherapist Silvan Erb-Summers join the discussion. This episode explores the heart of emotional healing, identity crisis, and what it means to be a man after separation.
As Shana reflects, “Divorce is one of the most amazing catalysts for evolution. It is an opportunity to be loved for who you are instead of who you thought you were when you were a lot younger.” Her message is clear—this painful transition can also be a path to profound self-awareness and connection.
Tamra emphasizes the emotional whiplash many men face. “These men have been building their careers for 20 years, and suddenly it’s time to discuss a relationship. Know yourself. Be yourself. Embody yourself.” Silvan, a child of divorce himself, adds a layer of intergenerational insight. “It’s cool to see how many more resources there are now… divorce dads are starved for support.”
Together, these experts guide listeners through the confusion and grief that accompany divorce. They also spotlight the tools and community needed to rebuild.
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The Divorce Recovery Blueprint for Men
In this solo episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, therapist and host Marc Azoulay takes centre stage. He shares what he calls the “Divorce Comeback Blueprint.” He has years of experience working with men. Marc outlines the deeply personal and often painful road that men walk after a failed marriage. Marc invites his listeners into a process of transformation. It is a way to reclaim identity, rebuild purpose, and redefine masculinity.
“This isn’t the end. In fact, for many men, it’s a starting line,” Marc says, reframing divorce as an opportunity for growth rather than a life sentence. He observes that many men don’t begin their emotional work until they hit rock bottom. Divorce often acts as that trigger. Through honest reflection and tactical advice, Marc encourages men to embrace grief. He focuses on them to take ownership of their role in the relationship and begin a structured comeback plan.
Drawing from real-life therapy experiences, Marc emphasizes the deep emotional collapse men often endure: “It’s not that you’re a loser… It’s grief.” He urges his audience to step away from the toxic masculinity that teaches men to repress emotions. Instead of moving toward post-divorce therapy, community, and intentional healing. His roadmap isn’t a quick fix—it’s a life redesign.
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Exposing the Hidden Costs of Family Law: The Toxic Divorce Industry
In this solo episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, therapist and host Marc Azoulay offers exposes the divorce industry. He shares a deep, sobering look into the dark underbelly of the family law system. Marc draws on his experience working with men in the aftermath of divorce. He unveils the layers of trauma, manipulation, and systemic bias men face as they navigate custody battles. He shares the emotional abuse and the overwhelming financial burden of the divorce industry.
“Divorce isn’t just emotionally painful—it’s weaponized, monetized, and systematized,” Marc explains. “Men are often the ones paying the price—financially, emotionally, and psychologically.”
This isn’t just a critique of lawyers or court procedures—it’s an urgent conversation about an industry that profits from emotional turmoil. The average contested divorce can cost $15,000–$30,000 per person, and that's before child support or alimony is even considered. For many men, this becomes the start of a long road filled with unresolved grief, identity loss, and shattered relationships.
Marc shares alarming statistics: mothers receive primary custody in 80% of U.S. divorces. 97% of alimony awards are paid by men—figures that reveal a deeply ingrained systemic bias. The episode is both a reality check and a call to arms for men to reclaim their narrative. It highlights how to build strong support systems. It focuses on prioritizing emotional healing through post-divorce therapy and community care.
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The Marriage Counseling Every Nice Guy Needs w/ Matthew Fray
In this compelling episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, Marc Azoulay welcomes Matthew Fray. He is the author of This Is How Your Marriage Ends and a renowned relationship coach. Matthew is not just an expert by profession; his journey adds depth to his insights. As he shares, "My parents divorced when I was four, and I got divorced myself when my son was the same age I was when my parents split." This cyclical experience drives Matthew’s passion for helping men. He helps them understand the often unseen dynamics that unravel marriages.
Matthew points out that many men don’t realize the impact of small actions in a relationship. These actions may seem unimportant at the time. However, over time, they can lead to serious problems. "It's not about the glass by the sink or the toilet seat," he explains. "It’s about what those things represent: a lack of consideration and validation." Through his work, Matthew aims to illuminate these blind spots. He aims to offer men practical tools to enhance emotional intimacy and prevent emotional neglect in their marriages.
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Family Lawyer Jamie Davis on Divorce Without Destruction
In a world where divorce can easily become a battlefield, family lawyer Jamie Davis is offering a different route. It is a route paved with preparation, empathy, and structure. Featured on the Men’s Therapy Podcast, Davis brings over two decades of experience. Many men in their 20s to 50s will find this episode both necessary and timely. Davis is the author of A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction. She is also the host of a podcast by the same name. She is not only shaping outcomes in the courtroom but also reshaping how families view the divorce process.
"I encourage folks, before you ever even broach the topic of separation, to have a plan in place," says Davis. Her five-step framework for non-destructive divorce offers a pathway for men. It helps them to protect their mental health, financial stability, and parent-child relationships.
Davis speaks directly to the emotional and logistical realities of separation. She offers grounded, actionable advice: "Just because you were a bad husband doesn't mean you were a bad dad." With clarity and compassion, she is helping men reframe their role in the divorce narrative. She helps them focus on growth and long-term well-being.
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