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Ep 33 The Teacher Hates My Kid, Can We Prepare For Grief & Body Shaming
Turty Tree is one of our trickiest episodes yet and not just because Tina can’t pronounce the number due to her sensual Meath brogue. Three superb emails from three parents coping with very different situations. Thankfully, there's hope to be found in all of them.
How can you implement a behavioural consequence when you don’t feel like you have any leverage? To ensure the child will care about the consequence do we need something to hold over them? Lots of parents find themselves wondering, "Has this child just got too much stuff?" Have they just figured out that you’re ‘all talk’ or that you always forget to follow through on your prescribed punishments. Tina reveals that she’s had to set reminders in her phone to follow through on the warnings she’s issued earlier that day!
How can you prepare a child for the impending death of their friend? Tina tries to explain that the truth is always the best way to go about answering all the uncomfortable questions your child will have. Memory boxes and encouraging your child to talk about their friend can help them grieve but the path is never easy. Coping with all the confusing feelings they will experience after a loss like this is one thing but what do you do if their curious questions are coming off as insensitive?
How can your child already have a bad reputation when they are only five years old? Why are grown ups still labelling some children as the problem child? Has the idea of Denis the Menace made us believe that some kids are just destructive? What do you do when other parents regard your child as the ‘fall guy’ when anything unpleasant happens. Do you go to the school or as Jarlath suggests, go up to the other parents and push them in the chest? Tina has her own story to tell on this very subject.
A stepmom needs help guiding her step daughter through a tricky friendship situation with her niece. Awkward is not the word. Is it even her place to get involved? How can she navigate this incredible tricky dynamic. Tina and Jarlath suggest hanging back and continuing to observe it whilst being ready to jump in if the situation gets worse.
If you have any problems you need help with fire an email over to Jarlath and Tina at [email protected].com. Proudly sponsored by Buymie.ie
Ep 32 Street Angel, House Devil? The Clinger & Piss Artist!
Temper tantrums, clingy kids and toilet dodgers it’s all going down on this week's episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid.
What do you do when your child seems able to behave himself everywhere but at home? Many children save the emotional and often times destructive behaviour for the safety of their own houses. Street angel, house devil is a common phrase for a reason. Seeing your kid so angry that they are a danger to themselves and you can be very scary. Are our kids hurting us intentionally? Jarlath wonders why we have the little rascals in the first place. How do you interrupt this behaviour pattern and put an end to the head melting tantrums . Why are they acting out? Tina and Jarlath try to puzzle out what’s behind this behaviour and how they can help this mom get her boy to treat his family the way he treats his friends.
Clinginess is the strangest behaviour to understand. What do you do with a kid who never listens and drives you crazy refusing to allow you to leave their sight! Also often times parents find themselves feeling jealous when it’s the other parent the child is pining for. But when the clinginess is out of control and the child is getting way too upset in your absence, what can you do? This week we tease out this question. Tina laughs about how important the "Owl Babies" book is in helping children understand that our parents always come back. She also reveals how she’s never been able to read this story all the way through without crying.
Tina and Jarlath find it hard to agree on the final question. A mom is struggling to get her stepson to wee in the toilet. Jarlath comes up with a clever way of enticing the boy to aim with success, however Tina worries that maybe the stepmom is being too demanding of the young lad. Is wanting her home to be perfect getting in the way of their bonding time? Has any man ever successfully peed in the toilet? Is this just a pointless task and an utter waste of her energy? Jarlath thinks most men know what they are doing, Tina lives with Jarlath and absolutely disagrees.
Please send in your questions and ideas to [email protected]
Have great week!
Ep 31 Does My Kid Have An Unhealthy Obsession? Drawing Willies, Death & Eating Stones!
Willy obsession starts early! Tina gets an email from a mother of a kid who won't stop drawing dongs! If your child likes to draw them should you be worried or is it just a bit of harmless silliness that he will grow out of in his late 50s. When does artistic expression veer into unhealthy fascination? There's no taking the mickey with this question but plenty of laughs to be found in Tina and Jar's childhood memories of their youthful "passion projects".
Young children love to explore the world with their mouths and hands. We all know that pretty much everything, even if it's nailed down, ends up in there. But what if your child likes to eat sticks and stones? Tina gets an email from one mother who is having this very problem and guess what? It's not that uncommon!
The concept of death intrigues all of us at some point. But the finality and the idea of infinity can completely overwhelm our kids. So when they experience a death it can impact upon them in a big way. How do you navigate this very delicate topic with your child when it's all they seem to want to talk about? Can we inform them without creating an unhealthy interest?
Email the show honeyyou'[email protected] - whatever you're going through, TIna can help.
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Ep 30 Somebody Stop That Child! Kids That Run, Twin Terrors & The Kid That Bites!
Brothers and sisters can't get along all the time but what do you do when you have twin toddlers who are unwaveringly supportive of each other's terrible behaviour! This week Tina helps a mom who has two four year old runners! With her stress levels through the roof, she gets the concrete advice she needs to stop this behaviour once and for all.
Can you stop a tantrum throwing child or do they "just grow out of it"? A very exhausted parent gets in touch for some advice about her three year olds tornado tantrums. She bravely explains how unpredictable in nature these 50 minute outbursts can be. If you're struggling with something similar, you will near to hear this. Tina has seen every type of prima donna kid behaviour and knows how to change things for the better. She explains how she lays out a behaviour plan that will help all parents cope and prevent the tantrum habit.
Finally things get political with the last question of the show. What do you do if your niece is biting your boys? Can you brooch it with their mum or is that too much of a family minefield? It is possible to arm your boys with a technique to get out of bites. Why is talking to other parents about their kids' behaviour always so tricky? Have you tried to pull another parent on their kid's behaviour? How did it go? Is there a way to do it that won't result in fireworks? Loads of parents have already been in touch on this issue, why not tell us your experience anonymously? [email protected]
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Ep 29 Can We Trust A Kid With A Phone, The Sleep Walker & Tina's Top Toilet Training Tips
Tina reveals that she has been reading Jarlath's diary and tries to explain her top tips for toilet training. What do you do with a sleepwalking child? Any kind of interruption to your child’s sleep is a worry. Throw in some sleep walking and now the whole family is afraid to sleep. How do you help your child through this problem while keeping them safe and saving your sanity?
Are we keeping enough of an eye on our kids and their phone usage? These kids are way more tech savvy than us. What if your kid is deleting their internet history to hide what they're really up to? What could they be hiding? We are all on this learning journey of phone monitoring with our children. How do we keep them safe and ensure that they don’t see things they won’t be able to unsee? This is a hot topic and one that we will all have to face eventually.
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The first ever zero judgement parenting podcast from the team behind An Irishman Abroad. Join funny man Jarlath and child behaviouralist Tina Regan as they tackle the questions, the worries and the day-to-day hilarity that comes with modern parenting.
Jarlath collects anonymous questions from frazzled and exhausted parents, while Tina shares more than 20 years of experience working in early childhood intellectual, behavioural and social development. With genuine problems from real parents it’s anyone’s guess what the questions will be but the pair will gamely tackle anything that’s thrown their way. Expect all manner of queries including:
- "My young lad eats like a caveman and is mortifying me everywhere we go"
- "If I ask my kid to come off her iPad she acts like her world is caving in"
- "My toddler refuses to wear clothes”
- “My kid won’t poo at school”
- “My kid refuses to let me leave the house, what should I do?
No problem is too big or small. Tina promises to help parents help themselves, with zero judgement. Raising kids is so fecking hard we all need help to do it.