It’s REALLY hard to speak up when you’re scared or nervous; worried about looking like an idiot or being rejected.Yet we need to, right? Because, chances are, you’re listening to this podcast because you are fearful of speaking in public (whatever that looks like to you) and therefore, it follows, you need to speak up even when you’re scared (or never speaking up at all …. Which, in my opinion, is just not ok).So in this episode of Speaking with Confidence I’m sharing some practical tips on how to speak up even when you’re scared. Not tips for waiting until you’re no longer scared. Not waiting until you’re a confident, polished, fabulous speaker, but speaking up NOW, even when you’re scared.Listen in to hear:Practical nervous system calming techniques (the ones I use regularly)How to confront and untangle your fearful internal dialogue so you can move past itHow I’ve moved through significant fears of my own, like a fear of heights, and how those experiences can help you with your fear of speaking upOther episodes mentioned (that will help with your fear of public speaking):The Top 3 Speaking Fears, and How To Overcome Them - ep 92Interview with Kate Toon - Building The Confidence To Not Be Liked - ep 97Want the opportunity to practise speaking up EVEN IF you’re scared, in a safe and supportive environment?Join me for my upcoming SpeakEASY Practise Session where we’ll practise our Elevator Pitches. You get to practise in a space that is supportive, you’ll get some feedback and ideas to make your elevator pitch even better and you’ll take another step in your speakers’ journey.It’s happening Thursday 22 May at 12.30 AEST - register here (it’s free)
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149 - How To Be Heard In Meetings
We’ve all been there. In a meeting, we have ideas we want to contribute, and we just can’t make ourselves heard.Whether it’s dominating personalities in the room, people interrupting, whether it’s deliberate or just unthinking, it can be REALLY tough to make ourselves heard.In this episode I share some ideas (from lived experience) of how to be heard without getting defensive.Listen in to hear:How to use agreement frames to build on, rather than being seen to disagree, with what’s being saidHow to not get defensive or aggressive at constant interruptionsWhy it’s not as bad as you think to have someone else ‘claim’ your idea after it was dismissed when YOU suggested itWhy you want to leave your ego at the doorHow you can be heard EVEN IF you are the quiet one in the roomAlso mentioned in the episodeThe Cost of Meetings On The Fly - ep 48Getting Cut Through With Complex Messages - ep 31How To Get A Meeting Back On Track - ep 41Join the SpeakEASY Practise Session on Elevator Pitches here.Chat to me on instagram.Or leave a comment below 🙂
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148 - How to Speak Clearly & Confidently Under Pressure
“I’m fine in normal conversation, but as soon as all eyes are on me, I just lose my confidence, and my words”If I had a dollar for every time a podcast listener said this to me!When we’re in a pressure situation - we need to win the pitch, present a dissenting opinion - when the stakes are high, it can be difficult to stay cool and calm, let alone speak clearly and confidently. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence I share my top tips for speaking clearly, and confidently under pressure.Listen in to hear:The mistake we tend to make in pressure situations, and the easy fixWhat you need to prioritise, message wise, when you’re feeling the heatHow to take the pressure down (hello John Farnham!) in those situationsSome simple tricks to manage your mindset when you’re feeling the pressureWhat to focus on in the conversation so you can be articulate, confident and impactOther Speaking with Confidence episodes mentioned:How To Pitch With Impact, ep 52The Long Game of Influence and the Importance of Micro Conversations, ep 65Speaking of pressure ;-)Want to practise your Elevator Pitch so that’s NOT such a pressure environment?Join me on Thursday 22 May, 12.30 AEST for my FREE SpeakEASY Practise Session, focussing entirely on Elevator Pitches. You’ll have the opportunity to practise yours and get some feedback in a space where there are NO consequences.Register here.
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147 - How To Show Up EVEN WHEN You’re Not Feeling it
Ugh! How do you show up and be engaging, inspiring, energetic, motivating and enthusiastic … when you’re not?That is the topic of this podcast because, I’ll be honest, that’s how I felt on recording day.And rather than just ‘fake it’ I decided to ‘work out loud’ and let you in on my ‘secrets’ for shifting my mood when the only option is to ‘show up’.Listen in to hear:How to ‘find’ energy, even when you don’t have itHow I use meditation, journaling and talking to myself to shift my mental and emotional energyWhat I do to move my physical energyHow you can honour your feelings and your commitmentsWhy your commitments to yourself are often the most valuableHow sometimes just ‘freaking doing it’ is what’s needed.This is a true ‘working out loud’ episode … I hope it helps.For the meditation I mentioned, Chenae Carey’s ‘Meet & Release Subconscious Fear Using Your Intuition, visit https://insig.ht/ARpqCUVlySbBook in a Confidence Boosting Curiosity Call to get some great tips and ideas on how to boost your speaking skills AND to explore how we can work together here - https://tidycal.com/cat-matson/confidence-boosting-curiosity-call Let me know - how do YOU show up even when you don’t want to? DM me on instagram https://www.instagram.com/catmatson/
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146 - How Personal Is Too Personal
How do you balance building rapport by sharing personal stories but not getting ‘too personal’ with your audience?That’s the topic of this episode where I talk about the distinction between authenticity and over-sharing, why connecting personally IS important to effectively share your information and how you can find balance you’re comfortable with.Listen in to hear:How authenticity and vulnerability are NOT the same thingHow you can share your stories and avoid misery, rags to riches and rising from the ashes storiesHow to balance sharing personal stories without oversharingWhy your stories help to share valuable insights, that are way more valuable than just raw informationHow to change the gradient, or the depth of your stories, based on how familiar your audience is with youDo you want to make a bigger impact in your world but your words let you down? Perhaps you ramble, talk too fast, think out loud or go down all.the.rabbit.holes? Book a FREE Confidence Boosting Curiosity Call and I’ll give you the next best steps for you to increase your speaking confidence and impact. https://tidycal.com/cat-matson/confidence-boosting-curiosity-call Other episode mentioned in this podcastEpisode 60 - Authenticity, Misery Porn and Stories of Happinesshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/1J9T7tCrPy85VluvsfogFl?si=o4XvnoC-SxquDGWgOmlgCQHow do YOU feel about bringing your personal stories into your work? DM me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/catmatson/
About Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson: communication coaching for humble leaders
If you ramble, lose your words or struggle to make yourself heard, this podcast is for you. This show is for humble leaders - public servants, corporate hippies & business owners - who want to speak up and be heard without sounding pushy or arrogant.
I’m Cat Matson and I coach people to speak with authenticity and impact in ALL settings. Whether you want to lead your team better, host webinars, speak impactfully when put on the spot or start speaking on stage, this podcast will teach you how to collect your thoughts and confidently communicate with humility, authenticity, authority and impact.
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