The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Spirituality, Recovery & Coming Home to Yourself: A Conversation with Lola
This one is a conversation from the heart.
Lola found my podcast when she was deep in her eating disorder and listened on repeat, every single day. Now, recovered and radiant, she reached out to record something together. What followed was one of the most genuinely beautiful conversations I have had on this podcast: about spirituality, about discovering who you are after the eating disorder, about emotional eating in recovery, about allowance and choice, and about what true freedom actually feels like from the inside.
This episode is for you if:
You are in recovery and wondering if there is more to life than just the eating disorder and the healing of it
You feel curious about spirituality but do not know where to start or think it is not for you
You have been in a coaching relationship that felt like it was missing something, and you want to understand what that something is
You are nutritionally recovered but still feel pulled towards food in ways that confuse you
You want to hear from someone who has been through it and is genuinely living on the other side

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Lola's experience of working with a coach who, despite good intentions, had too many rules and not enough room for her own autonomy and intuition
✨ Why feeling truly understood in recovery matters so much, and what to do if you have not found that yet
✨ How spirituality found both of us through the back door of personal development and suffering
✨ Swapping "my pain" for "the pain" and why that shift in language was quietly revolutionary for body image
✨ Body neutrality versus body positivity, and why detaching from appearance entirely is the deeper freedom
✨ "I am going to the shop and my body is coming with me" as a practice for separating self from body
✨ What emotional eating in recovery actually is, why it makes complete sense, and why trying not to do it is just another diet
✨ Allowance creates space for choice: what this actually means and how it plays out in real life
✨ How to practice saying no to food when you genuinely do not want it, without it becoming restriction
✨ Cacao, nature, intuitive movement and plant growth as accessible doorways into spiritual experience
✨ Why recovery is non-linear, why going back to square one is never actually square one, and why it is always worth it

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "Allowance creates space for choice. That is true freedom."
💬 "You are not creating a new self in recovery. You are finding the one who was always there."
💬 "Sexy is not an image. It is a feeling, an energy, a connectedness with someone else."
💬 "Nature does not do edges and corners. Nature loves curves. And so does the body."
💬 "Recovery is so possible, whoever you are. The growth and the freedom you build, you carry with you for the rest of your life."
💬 "There is nothing better than witnessing another soul come back home to themselves."
Recovery is never too late. One day at a time, it is always worth it. And one day you will be recording something exactly like this, wondering how you got here and so grateful that you kept going.
Much love. 💛

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The Truth About Ozempic, Wegovy & Mounjaro: Why GLP-1 Drugs Are Dangerous If You Have an Eating Disorder
I have been wanting to do this episode for a while. Today's the day.
GLP-1 drugs are everywhere right now. The injections your work friends are on, your cousins are on, that celebrities are crediting for their body transformations, that GPs are handing out like paracetamol, that social media is celebrating as if they are the answer to every problem a human body could possibly have.
I have a lot of feelings about this. And I am going to share all of them with you.
But first: I understand why people take them. I understand the desperation that comes from decades of being told your body is wrong. And honestly, if they had existed when I was in the depths of my eating disorder, I would have taken them without a second thought. I am so grateful they were not an option then. And I want better for you.

This episode is for you if:
You are considering GLP-1 drugs or are currently taking them
You have an eating disorder history and want to understand the specific risks
You have done recovery work but are still tempted because the old thoughts are there
You want the full picture that the mainstream conversation is not giving you
You are supporting someone considering them and want to understand the concerns

In this episode, we cover:
✨ What GLP-1 drugs actually are, where they came from, and why the pharmaceutical industry is projected to make over 200 billion in profit from them by 2030
✨ What these drugs do to appetite and hunger, and why the world's celebration of that is worth questioning
✨ Muscle loss: why a significant portion of weight lost on these drugs is lean muscle, and what that means for your metabolism long-term
✨ Gut damage, gastroparesis and the side effects that are common, serious and not being spoken about enough
✨ What happens to the body when people stop taking them, and why the weight returns
✨ Why these drugs never address the why: the emotional and nervous system roots always underneath
✨ The body image piece: why losing weight does not heal body hatred, and what actually does
✨ Why for someone with an eating disorder history, appetite suppression is not a neutral side effect, it is a relapse trigger
✨ The identity work that GLP-1 drugs bypass entirely, and why that matters
✨ Why this is the most sophisticated, medically legitimised, culturally celebrated form of diet culture that has ever existed
✨ What actually works: the root cause healing that brings genuine, lasting freedom
✨ Q&A: the nervous system and eating disorders, going all in versus smaller steps, unintentional restriction during a hard period, and practical tools for taking action when fear is loudest

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "We are celebrating a drug that makes human beings not want to eat. In any other context, we would call that an eating disorder."
💬 "Body hatred is not caused by the size of the body. It is caused by beliefs about the body. And beliefs are not changed by changing the body. They are changed by doing the inner work."
💬 "Not feeling hungry is not a neutral psychological state for someone with an eating disorder history. It is a relapse trigger being handed to you in the form of a prescription."
💬 "This is the most sophisticated, medically legitimised, culturally celebrated form of diet culture that has ever existed."
💬 "Trading in a thin body for genuine freedom is worth it a million times over."
Much love. 💛
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Why Knowing What to Do Isn't Enough: Hypnotherapy, Recovery & the Subconscious Mind with Bonnie Killip
Bonnie Killip is a dietitian, clinical hypnotherapist and eating disorder recovery specialist based in Australia. She also lived with anorexia for fifteen years, went through hospital treatment repeatedly, knew more about nutrition than almost anyone, and still could not recover until she found something that worked at a completely different level. That something was hypnotherapy. What she shares here is genuinely game-changing.

This episode is for you if:
You know what you need to do to recover but cannot seem to actually do it
You have spent years in therapy and still feel stuck
You feel like there must be something uniquely wrong with you because others seem to be able to recover
You have been told recovery is just something you manage forever, not something you fully achieve
You are curious about hypnotherapy and what it actually involves in practice
You want to hear from someone who found the system lacking and discovered a different way

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Bonnie's fifteen years living with anorexia, in and out of hospital, and why having all the nutritional knowledge made no difference at all
✨ The moment she sat in her car after a support group and cried, and why it changed everything
✨ How she found hypnotherapy through a newspaper clipping her grandmother had saved
✨ Why she went to her first session completely sceptical and what happened anyway
✨ What hypnosis actually is, and why the subconscious responds to it differently than conscious talking therapies
✨ The ninety-five percent principle: why almost everything we do runs on autopilot and why that matters so much for recovery
✨ Why feelings, beliefs and identity, not lack of information, are what keep people stuck
✨ How pre-verbal beliefs get formed and why talk therapy often cannot reach them
✨ What hospital treatment looked like for Bonnie and why disempowerment keeps people cycling back
✨ Why no one asked Bonnie what she wanted for fifteen years of treatment, and what happened the first time someone did
✨ Why trying something different when what you are doing is not working is wisdom, not failure

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "Fifteen years of treatment and no one asked me what I wanted. The very first question my hypnotherapist asked was: what do you want? I was shocked."
💬 "I knew more about nutrition than almost anyone. That was not the problem. The feelings and emotions just took over every single time."
💬 "Our subconscious runs about ninety-five percent of what we do in a day. An eating disorder is mostly repetition of the same patterns. Working at that level is a shortcut to actually changing things."
💬 "I cannot connect now to how I could possibly have believed I did not deserve to eat. But I believed it. Hypnotherapy helped me change that."
💬 "Shame can only live in the darkness. When it is brought into the light and met with love and understanding, that heals something at a foundational level."
Full recovery is absolutely possible. Bonnie is living proof of that, and so am I. If what you have tried so far has not worked, that does not mean you cannot recover. It means you have not yet found the thing that works for you. Keep looking.

How to find Bonnie:
https://fuellingsuccess.com/
and on Instagram @fuelling_success
Much love. 💛

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Let's call it exactly what it is.
I could have titled this one "how to build body confidence" or "cultivating self-acceptance," but that is not really my style. This episode is about genuinely, truly, deeply stopping giving a fuck about what people think of your appearance. Not saying you don't care while still dressing in the dark and cancelling plans because of a bad body image day. The real thing. The freedom thing.

This episode is for you if:
You are keeping yourself small, hiding or not fully living because of fear of being judged for how your body looks
You know intellectually that you shouldn't care what people think but have no idea how to actually get there
You have been waiting to feel worthy before you start living your life
Someone has made a comment about your body and you cannot stop thinking about it
You brush off compliments and find it genuinely painful when people accept or love you
You are in recovery and the fear of judgment feels like one of the biggest things keeping you stuck

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why caring about other people's judgment is not vanity, it is a literal survival mechanism rooted in evolution
✨ The separation of tasks: the Adlerian concept that is quietly revolutionary for body image
✨ The what if questions and why asking them opens something that forcing confidence never can
✨ Why actions come before feelings, not the other way around, and what that looks like in practice
✨ What actually happens when someone comments on your body, and why it lands so hard
✨ The golf ball and glass of water: what chronic body shame does to your sense of self over time
✨ The scar study and what it reveals about expectation bias and the invisible lenses we see ourselves through
✨ Why the judgment you fear from others is almost always a projection of your own inner critic
✨ Why you cannot collect enough external validation to fill an internal void, ever
✨ Comparison as the thing that requires hierarchy, and why you are losing a competition that was never real
✨ The grief of letting go of a body, an identity and a coping mechanism that were familiar, even when they were destroying you
✨ Why receiving love and compliments can feel genuinely dangerous, and what to do with that
✨ Six practical ways to move from understanding all of this to actually living it

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "You are the only one who is worried about how you look. Everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves."
💬 "I am not who and what you think I am. You are who and what you think I am."
💬 "You will never collect enough external validation to fill an internal void. Never."
💬 "The strategy of keeping yourself small to avoid judgment is not only not working. It is costing you your life, your freedom and your happiness."
💬 "It is not your job to like me. It is mine."
💬 "Recovery means trusting your body more than you trust the fear."
The key to stopping giving a fuck about what people think of your body is not getting your body to look a certain way. It has never been that. It is healing your relationship with yourself, meeting the parts of you that believed they were unworthy, and showing the little version of you who learned her body was wrong that she was never the problem.
That is the work. And it is the most worthwhile work you will ever do.
Much love. 💛

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Parts Work, Self Energy & Healing in Difficult Environments: Q&A with Mike, Part Two
Me and Mike are back, and this one goes deep.
We received so many beautiful, brave questions from listeners after our first conversation about parts work and Internal Family Systems. So we sat down together and worked through four of them in real time, the way we always do, naturally, honestly and without a script. This is one of those conversations that kept surprising me as it unfolded.
This episode is for you if:
You understand parts work intellectually but struggle to actually access self energy when you need it
You find it easy to feel compassion for others but the moment you turn it inward, a critical or shaming part takes over
You are trying to heal while still living in the environment where the wounds happened
You experience compulsive movement and feel stuck between knowing what you need and being unable to act on it
You want to understand how to use your own anger, determination and drive as fuel for healing, not just obstacles to overcome
In this episode, we cover:
✨ How to access the compassionate parent part when a critical protector keeps taking over
✨ Why the part that reminds you of your dad showing up in self-work makes complete and understandable sense
✨ The difference between being caught up in a part and being in self, and why it is often far more subtle than we expect
✨ Why the one asking the questions and noticing what is happening is already self
✨ Healing while living with emotionally unavailable parents: is it possible, and what does it actually look like
✨ Grief and acceptance as the real foundation of healing in a triggering environment
✨ How to use triggers as invitations to turn towards the parts that need you, rather than evidence that you are failing
✨ The question to ask every single part that wants to do something harmful: what are you afraid would happen if you didn't?
✨ Compulsive movement, the biological migration response and the parts work layer underneath
✨ Why self never tells a part what it should or should not do, and why the voice saying "stop this behaviour" is probably another part
✨ Using anger, resentment and the overachiever energy to fuel recovery, and why that is not anti-parts work at all
✨ Why parts never really want to do the harmful things they do, they just do not yet know there is another way
✨ What it looks like when a part finally trusts self enough to stop the behaviour it has been using to stay safe
Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "The part that wants to compulsively move is not bad. It is exhausted. It just does not know there is another way yet."
💬 "The thing you are seeking, the love, connection and belonging, is where you are looking from. It is already you."
💬 "Self has no agenda. It is not trying to fix or stop anything. It is just there to listen. And paradoxically, that is when the healing happens."
💬 "I used the anger. I was a grown woman afraid of food and I was furious about it. That fury helped me face the terror and do it anyway."
💬 "You are the parent your parts have been waiting for. You can go back to where they are stuck and be the person they needed then."
We have so much more to come from me and Mike, including episodes on people pleasing, the personal development trap, seeking perfection versus acceptance, and Mike's word for this year: embody. Stay tuned.
Much love. 💛
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