The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Live Group Coaching: Mental Restriction, Emotional Eating & The Fuck Yes to Yourself
This one is a live hot seat coaching session from inside The Freedom Collective.
Sandy joins me for coaching today, and what unfolds is one of those conversations that touches something really universal. She has done so much work already: she left restriction behind, rebuilt her relationship with food, got into her body in a completely new way. And then life hit hard. Loss, family illness, exhaustion. And food became the thing she defaulted to. And now she is in her head about it, ashamed of herself for it, and wondering why she cannot just choose the things she knows will make her feel better.
Sound familiar?

This session is for you if:
You have done a lot of recovery work and then life happened and you feel like you have gone backwards
You are emotionally eating and giving yourself a hard time about it even though you know it makes sense
You find yourself mentally restricting even when you are physically eating freely
You have thoughts of going back to old diets or food rules and then sabotage yourself in response to those thoughts
You want to understand what the difference between restriction and genuine choice actually feels like

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why emotional eating during an emotionally depleted season of life makes complete and total sense
✨ Why food should always be on your emotional support list, and why putting it there is not a step backwards
✨ The difference between being back here and being here: why there is no back, only forward
✨ Mental restriction: how judging your food choices, even subtly, creates the same biological drive to eat as physical restriction
✨ Why thoughts of going back to old rules or diets can trigger the exact sabotage you are trying to avoid
✨ What your brain and nervous system need to see before they will trust that restriction is not coming again
✨ The fuck yes to yourself energy: who she is, how she thinks, how she moves through the world and how to start embodying her now
✨ Why attachment to outcomes at the gym creates suffering whether you achieve them or not
✨ Seasons of life: why this moment is not the moment to overhaul everything, it is the moment to be held by everything you have already built
✨ Homework: write the letter to yourself, visit the grocery store as your fuck yes self, notice when mental restriction is quietly running the show

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "There is no back here. Ever. You've evolved and changed. You are not the woman you were before."
💬 "Mental restriction always creates a biological response. Your body hears the thought of restriction and reacts, even if you are physically eating freely."
💬 "Unrestricted eating is a fuck you to restriction. Intuitive eating is a fuck yes to yourself."
💬 "You are exactly where you are supposed to be. If you could have accessed the other tools, you would have. Thank goodness for food."
💬 "This season of life is not about changing your body. It is about embodying everything you have already learned and loving yourself through it."
You cannot go backwards. You can only be here, right now, exactly where you are. And that is enough to start from.
Much love. 💛

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Spirituality, Recovery & Coming Home to Yourself: A Conversation with Lola
This one is a conversation from the heart.
Lola found my podcast when she was deep in her eating disorder and listened on repeat, every single day. Now, recovered and radiant, she reached out to record something together. What followed was one of the most genuinely beautiful conversations I have had on this podcast: about spirituality, about discovering who you are after the eating disorder, about emotional eating in recovery, about allowance and choice, and about what true freedom actually feels like from the inside.
This episode is for you if:
You are in recovery and wondering if there is more to life than just the eating disorder and the healing of it
You feel curious about spirituality but do not know where to start or think it is not for you
You have been in a coaching relationship that felt like it was missing something, and you want to understand what that something is
You are nutritionally recovered but still feel pulled towards food in ways that confuse you
You want to hear from someone who has been through it and is genuinely living on the other side

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Lola's experience of working with a coach who, despite good intentions, had too many rules and not enough room for her own autonomy and intuition
✨ Why feeling truly understood in recovery matters so much, and what to do if you have not found that yet
✨ How spirituality found both of us through the back door of personal development and suffering
✨ Swapping "my pain" for "the pain" and why that shift in language was quietly revolutionary for body image
✨ Body neutrality versus body positivity, and why detaching from appearance entirely is the deeper freedom
✨ "I am going to the shop and my body is coming with me" as a practice for separating self from body
✨ What emotional eating in recovery actually is, why it makes complete sense, and why trying not to do it is just another diet
✨ Allowance creates space for choice: what this actually means and how it plays out in real life
✨ How to practice saying no to food when you genuinely do not want it, without it becoming restriction
✨ Cacao, nature, intuitive movement and plant growth as accessible doorways into spiritual experience
✨ Why recovery is non-linear, why going back to square one is never actually square one, and why it is always worth it

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "Allowance creates space for choice. That is true freedom."
💬 "You are not creating a new self in recovery. You are finding the one who was always there."
💬 "Sexy is not an image. It is a feeling, an energy, a connectedness with someone else."
💬 "Nature does not do edges and corners. Nature loves curves. And so does the body."
💬 "Recovery is so possible, whoever you are. The growth and the freedom you build, you carry with you for the rest of your life."
💬 "There is nothing better than witnessing another soul come back home to themselves."
Recovery is never too late. One day at a time, it is always worth it. And one day you will be recording something exactly like this, wondering how you got here and so grateful that you kept going.
Much love. 💛

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The Truth About Ozempic, Wegovy & Mounjaro: Why GLP-1 Drugs Are Dangerous If You Have an Eating Disorder
I have been wanting to do this episode for a while. Today's the day.
GLP-1 drugs are everywhere right now. The injections your work friends are on, your cousins are on, that celebrities are crediting for their body transformations, that GPs are handing out like paracetamol, that social media is celebrating as if they are the answer to every problem a human body could possibly have.
I have a lot of feelings about this. And I am going to share all of them with you.
But first: I understand why people take them. I understand the desperation that comes from decades of being told your body is wrong. And honestly, if they had existed when I was in the depths of my eating disorder, I would have taken them without a second thought. I am so grateful they were not an option then. And I want better for you.

This episode is for you if:
You are considering GLP-1 drugs or are currently taking them
You have an eating disorder history and want to understand the specific risks
You have done recovery work but are still tempted because the old thoughts are there
You want the full picture that the mainstream conversation is not giving you
You are supporting someone considering them and want to understand the concerns

In this episode, we cover:
✨ What GLP-1 drugs actually are, where they came from, and why the pharmaceutical industry is projected to make over 200 billion in profit from them by 2030
✨ What these drugs do to appetite and hunger, and why the world's celebration of that is worth questioning
✨ Muscle loss: why a significant portion of weight lost on these drugs is lean muscle, and what that means for your metabolism long-term
✨ Gut damage, gastroparesis and the side effects that are common, serious and not being spoken about enough
✨ What happens to the body when people stop taking them, and why the weight returns
✨ Why these drugs never address the why: the emotional and nervous system roots always underneath
✨ The body image piece: why losing weight does not heal body hatred, and what actually does
✨ Why for someone with an eating disorder history, appetite suppression is not a neutral side effect, it is a relapse trigger
✨ The identity work that GLP-1 drugs bypass entirely, and why that matters
✨ Why this is the most sophisticated, medically legitimised, culturally celebrated form of diet culture that has ever existed
✨ What actually works: the root cause healing that brings genuine, lasting freedom
✨ Q&A: the nervous system and eating disorders, going all in versus smaller steps, unintentional restriction during a hard period, and practical tools for taking action when fear is loudest

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "We are celebrating a drug that makes human beings not want to eat. In any other context, we would call that an eating disorder."
💬 "Body hatred is not caused by the size of the body. It is caused by beliefs about the body. And beliefs are not changed by changing the body. They are changed by doing the inner work."
💬 "Not feeling hungry is not a neutral psychological state for someone with an eating disorder history. It is a relapse trigger being handed to you in the form of a prescription."
💬 "This is the most sophisticated, medically legitimised, culturally celebrated form of diet culture that has ever existed."
💬 "Trading in a thin body for genuine freedom is worth it a million times over."
Much love. 💛
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Why Knowing What to Do Isn't Enough: Hypnotherapy, Recovery & the Subconscious Mind with Bonnie Killip
Bonnie Killip is a dietitian, clinical hypnotherapist and eating disorder recovery specialist based in Australia. She also lived with anorexia for fifteen years, went through hospital treatment repeatedly, knew more about nutrition than almost anyone, and still could not recover until she found something that worked at a completely different level. That something was hypnotherapy. What she shares here is genuinely game-changing.

This episode is for you if:
You know what you need to do to recover but cannot seem to actually do it
You have spent years in therapy and still feel stuck
You feel like there must be something uniquely wrong with you because others seem to be able to recover
You have been told recovery is just something you manage forever, not something you fully achieve
You are curious about hypnotherapy and what it actually involves in practice
You want to hear from someone who found the system lacking and discovered a different way

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Bonnie's fifteen years living with anorexia, in and out of hospital, and why having all the nutritional knowledge made no difference at all
✨ The moment she sat in her car after a support group and cried, and why it changed everything
✨ How she found hypnotherapy through a newspaper clipping her grandmother had saved
✨ Why she went to her first session completely sceptical and what happened anyway
✨ What hypnosis actually is, and why the subconscious responds to it differently than conscious talking therapies
✨ The ninety-five percent principle: why almost everything we do runs on autopilot and why that matters so much for recovery
✨ Why feelings, beliefs and identity, not lack of information, are what keep people stuck
✨ How pre-verbal beliefs get formed and why talk therapy often cannot reach them
✨ What hospital treatment looked like for Bonnie and why disempowerment keeps people cycling back
✨ Why no one asked Bonnie what she wanted for fifteen years of treatment, and what happened the first time someone did
✨ Why trying something different when what you are doing is not working is wisdom, not failure

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "Fifteen years of treatment and no one asked me what I wanted. The very first question my hypnotherapist asked was: what do you want? I was shocked."
💬 "I knew more about nutrition than almost anyone. That was not the problem. The feelings and emotions just took over every single time."
💬 "Our subconscious runs about ninety-five percent of what we do in a day. An eating disorder is mostly repetition of the same patterns. Working at that level is a shortcut to actually changing things."
💬 "I cannot connect now to how I could possibly have believed I did not deserve to eat. But I believed it. Hypnotherapy helped me change that."
💬 "Shame can only live in the darkness. When it is brought into the light and met with love and understanding, that heals something at a foundational level."
Full recovery is absolutely possible. Bonnie is living proof of that, and so am I. If what you have tried so far has not worked, that does not mean you cannot recover. It means you have not yet found the thing that works for you. Keep looking.

How to find Bonnie:
https://fuellingsuccess.com/
and on Instagram @fuelling_success
Much love. 💛

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Let's call it exactly what it is.
I could have titled this one "how to build body confidence" or "cultivating self-acceptance," but that is not really my style. This episode is about genuinely, truly, deeply stopping giving a fuck about what people think of your appearance. Not saying you don't care while still dressing in the dark and cancelling plans because of a bad body image day. The real thing. The freedom thing.

This episode is for you if:
You are keeping yourself small, hiding or not fully living because of fear of being judged for how your body looks
You know intellectually that you shouldn't care what people think but have no idea how to actually get there
You have been waiting to feel worthy before you start living your life
Someone has made a comment about your body and you cannot stop thinking about it
You brush off compliments and find it genuinely painful when people accept or love you
You are in recovery and the fear of judgment feels like one of the biggest things keeping you stuck

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why caring about other people's judgment is not vanity, it is a literal survival mechanism rooted in evolution
✨ The separation of tasks: the Adlerian concept that is quietly revolutionary for body image
✨ The what if questions and why asking them opens something that forcing confidence never can
✨ Why actions come before feelings, not the other way around, and what that looks like in practice
✨ What actually happens when someone comments on your body, and why it lands so hard
✨ The golf ball and glass of water: what chronic body shame does to your sense of self over time
✨ The scar study and what it reveals about expectation bias and the invisible lenses we see ourselves through
✨ Why the judgment you fear from others is almost always a projection of your own inner critic
✨ Why you cannot collect enough external validation to fill an internal void, ever
✨ Comparison as the thing that requires hierarchy, and why you are losing a competition that was never real
✨ The grief of letting go of a body, an identity and a coping mechanism that were familiar, even when they were destroying you
✨ Why receiving love and compliments can feel genuinely dangerous, and what to do with that
✨ Six practical ways to move from understanding all of this to actually living it

Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 "You are the only one who is worried about how you look. Everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves."
💬 "I am not who and what you think I am. You are who and what you think I am."
💬 "You will never collect enough external validation to fill an internal void. Never."
💬 "The strategy of keeping yourself small to avoid judgment is not only not working. It is costing you your life, your freedom and your happiness."
💬 "It is not your job to like me. It is mine."
💬 "Recovery means trusting your body more than you trust the fear."
The key to stopping giving a fuck about what people think of your body is not getting your body to look a certain way. It has never been that. It is healing your relationship with yourself, meeting the parts of you that believed they were unworthy, and showing the little version of you who learned her body was wrong that she was never the problem.
That is the work. And it is the most worthwhile work you will ever do.
Much love. 💛

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