The Critical Role of Chairs: How Effective Leadership Can Transform Business Challenges With Cindy Casiani
In this episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria Arpa engages in a compelling conversation with Cindy Casiani, a seasoned expert in non-executive director and chair recruitment. With over 30 years of experience, Cindy shares her insights into the complexities and dynamics of board recruitment, particularly in challenging situations where CEOs and C-suite executives must navigate the introduction of new chairs or non-executive directors. The discussion delves into the emotional landscape of business leadership, highlighting the loneliness of CEOs and the invaluable support that a good chair can provide. Cindy emphasizes the importance of understanding the unique needs of a business when selecting board members and the critical role of effective onboarding. The episode also touches on the findings from a recent survey on board dynamics, revealing the need for better processes in chair recruitment and the value of fostering strong relationships between investors and business leaders.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Value of Non-Executive Directors (NEDs): Bringing in the right chair or non-executive director can significantly benefit a business, especially for CEOs who may feel overwhelmed. A good NED acts as a "critical friend," providing support and guidance without the pressure of direct management.
Importance of Onboarding: Effective onboarding for chairs and non-executive directors is crucial. Many organizations fail to provide a structured onboarding process, which can lead to misunderstandings and ineffective contributions from the new appointee.
Understanding the Role: There is often a lack of clarity regarding the specific role and deliverables expected from a chair. It is essential to define these expectations upfront to ensure the right fit and to address the unique challenges the business faces.
Investor Influence: The appointment of chairs is frequently driven by investors, which can create tension. It’s important for CEOs to advocate for their needs and seek chairs who align with their vision rather than simply accepting the investor's choice.
Communication and Relationship Building: Successful chairs focus on understanding the dynamics of the team and delivering difficult messages with empathy. Building strong relationships and fostering open communication are key to ensuring that the chair's role is effective and valued.
BEST MOMENTS
"What probably a more seasoned chair would have done... would have been a bit more subtle in the way that she approached it." - Cindy Kashani
"It's lonely being a CEO... just to have an outlet for that is so valuable." - Cindy Kashani
"You have to also buy into that process and give time to it because it's a bit of an iterative process." - Cindy Kashani
"If you don't invest the time to really think about what you need at the beginning, then you're going to be... lucky if you get the appointment right." - Cindy Kashani
"It's just nice to have somebody there that goes, you know, well done, that was really good." - Cindy Kashani
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
Cindy's Links
https://uk.linkedin.com/in/cindycasciani
https://talent4group.com/
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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The Art of Contracting: Ensuring Success in Startups Through Effective Agreements
In this episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria welcomes back her friend and philosopher Paul Baker to explore the intricacies of startups and entrepreneurship. They delve into the importance of establishing a solid foundation for new ventures, emphasizing the need for clear goals, effective communication, and conflict resolution strategies. Maria and Paul discuss the significance of understanding the motivations behind entrepreneurial pursuits, whether driven by fear or a desire to create positive change. They also highlight the necessity of systemic awareness and the value of nurturing existing resources while innovating for the future. The conversation culminates in an invitation for listeners to engage with them, seeking guidance on their entrepreneurial journeys.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Importance of Planning and Feedback: Establishing a clear plan and understanding how to gauge progress is crucial for startups. It's essential to have a way to assess whether the project is on track or needs adjustments, akin to having a compass and barometer for navigation.
Systemic Awareness: Entrepreneurs should cultivate an awareness of the various systems at play, including their own capabilities, the dynamics of their team, and the broader context in which they operate. This holistic view helps in anticipating challenges and leveraging opportunities.
Conflict Management: Startups should proactively establish agreements and processes for conflict resolution. By anticipating potential disputes and creating systems to address them, teams can emerge stronger and more cohesive after conflicts.
Value of Purpose: Understanding the deeper motivations behind business goals is vital. Entrepreneurs should explore not just what they want to achieve (e.g., making money) but also why those goals matter to them personally and how they align with their values.
Sustainability and Nurturing Relationships: It's important to focus on preserving and nurturing existing resources, including team dynamics and relationships. A successful enterprise should balance innovation with the care of its foundational elements to ensure long-term sustainability.
BEST MOMENTS
"The main thing for me is how do we actually make really good use of the situation we're in, which may be wonderfully abundant and creative and it may be a complete catastrophe." - Paul Baker
"What is the system that we need to put in place to ensure that when we come out the other side of it, we're better off?" - Maria Arpa
"If we use this as a weather analogy... if it's pouring with rains and it's a gale... the map's not going to work so well." - Paul Baker
"The last thing I want is to invest my money in a group of people for whom I can't tell if they're going to start fighting each other later on." - Maria Arpa
"We really need to be aware of which game we're playing because you don't want to hang around in a negative sum game where there's less and less for everyone." - Paul Baker
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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Transforming Tension into Collaboration: A Chair's Approach to Boardroom Harmony
In this case study episode, Maria, facilitates a pre-meeting discussion between two board members, Sean, an executive director, and Mark, a non-executive director, to address the underlying tensions affecting their board meetings. The conversation reveals a fundamental disagreement regarding the hiring process for a new team member, with Sean advocating for an internal candidate and Mark pushing for an external hire to drive radical change. As the dialogue unfolds, Maria emphasises the importance of communication and mutual understanding, encouraging both directors to explore their differing perspectives while acknowledging their shared goal of advancing the company. The episode highlights the complexities of boardroom dynamics and the necessity of fostering a collaborative environment to ensure effective decision-making.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Identifying Core Issues: The conversation highlights the importance of identifying and addressing the core issues causing tension between board members, rather than getting lost in peripheral disagreements.
Communication Style Matters: Effective communication is crucial in board discussions. The need for clarity and a respectful discourse is emphasized, as combative or dismissive language can hinder productive conversations.
Understanding Different Perspectives: Both board members express their views on the hiring process, showcasing the necessity of understanding and valuing different perspectives to foster collaboration and decision-making.
Building Relationships: The discussion underscores that while the primary focus is on business outcomes, building positive relationships among board members can enhance the overall effectiveness of the board and make meetings more enjoyable.
Openness to Dialogue: There is a recognition that being open to dialogue and willing to listen can lead to breakthroughs in understanding and cooperation, even when disagreements exist.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think the tensions are caused by one particular fundamental issue. I don't think there's a variety of different things." - Sean
"I think there is also a fundamental difficulty with finding the common, and if I may say so, courteous form of discourse." - Mark
"I feel like this is completely overblown... I think there is one issue that needs to be discussed." - Sean
"Complacency is death to a company... I think that there will need to be radical change." - Mark
"I want to get the issue solved. It's not about personalities." - Sean
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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Bridging Generational Gaps: Understanding Intergenerational Conflict in the Workplace
In this episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria Arpa welcomes Patrick Dunne, a seasoned expert in conflict management with extensive experience working with boards and social enterprises. Patrick shares insights from his diverse background, including his work with intergenerational and cross-cultural teams, and discusses the recurring themes of conflict, such as self-awareness, communication, and role clarity. He emphasises the importance of understanding different perspectives and the value of curiosity and compassion in fostering trust. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of generational differences in the workplace and the significance of developing strong interpersonal skills. Patrick's unique experiences and practical techniques, such as the FIDO method and the Thomas-Kilmann conflict styles, provide valuable tools for leaders navigating conflict in various settings.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Self-Awareness in Conflict: A lack of self-awareness often leads to conflict. Understanding one's strengths, weaknesses, and the impact on others is crucial for effective conflict management.
Recurring Themes in Conflict: Common sources of conflict include conflicting objectives, personalities, high-pressure situations, and unclear roles, especially between boards and executives.
Importance of Communication: Effective communication is vital in conflict resolution. Misinterpretations can arise when trust is low, and understanding different perspectives is essential for resolving disputes.
Intergenerational Dynamics: Different generations bring unique perspectives shaped by their experiences. Emphasizing a maximizing mindset can help organizations leverage the strengths of diverse age groups rather than focusing on minor irritations.
Value of Intuition and Antennae: Developing strong interpersonal skills and being attuned to the emotional climate of a room can enhance conflict management. Recognizing body language and emotional cues in oneself and others is key to navigating complex interactions.
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
Patrick Dunne's Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickdunne2/
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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FORGIVENESS SPECIAL: WITH ROBIN SHOHET
In this special episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria and Robin Shohet engage in a profound conversation about the complexities of forgiveness. They explore the misconceptions surrounding forgiveness, emphasising that it is not about moral superiority or condoning harmful actions, but rather a personal journey towards self-liberation. Robin shares a personal story that highlights the importance of recognizing how we often hold onto anger towards a "ghost" of the past, and how true forgiveness is ultimately about releasing ourselves from toxic thoughts. The discussion delves into the significance of self-forgiveness, the impact of our intentions versus the consequences of our actions, and the transformative power of shifting our perspective from judgment to love. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with forgiveness and to consider the ways in which they can cultivate a mindset of gratitude and compassion in their lives.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Forgiveness as Self-Release: Forgiveness is primarily about releasing oneself from the burden of anger and resentment, rather than about the other person. It is a personal journey that allows individuals to let go of toxic thoughts and emotions.
Distinction Between Intent and Impact: Understanding the difference between one's intentions and the actual impact of their actions is crucial. Many people may believe they are acting with good intentions, but the consequences of their actions can be harmful, highlighting the need for self-reflection.
Forgiveness is Not Superiority: Forgiveness should not be viewed as a moral high ground or an act of superiority. It is not about being the "bigger person" but rather about acknowledging one's own feelings and experiences without judgment.
The Role of Grief: Grief can often be intertwined with the inability to forgive. Recognizing that grief may have nowhere to go can help individuals understand their emotional state and the importance of processing these feelings to move towards forgiveness.
Shifting Perspectives: Practicing curiosity and love in interactions can transform relationships and reduce conflict. By consciously choosing to view situations through a lens of curiosity rather than fear or judgment, individuals can foster a more compassionate and understanding environment.
Episode Resourses
The Forgiveness Habit - Jo Ann RotermundBBCiplayer. - Hamza Forgiving the UnforgivableThe Forgiveness ProjectGlobal Forgiveness Initiative.
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
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