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In this week’s Think Thursday, Molly builds on last week’s conversation about overwhelm and takes it one level deeper—into uncertainty and the brain’s fundamental need for coherence.
Many people say, “I’m overwhelmed by everything.” But often, what they’re describing isn’t simply busyness. It’s destabilization. The pace of technological change, the relentless news cycle, economic uncertainty, global conflict, and cultural instability create a steady stream of input that the human brain was not designed to process.
Our brains evolved for village-level information flow—not constant global exposure in real time.
The Brain as a Prediction Machine
Modern neuroscience describes the brain as a prediction engine. Researchers such as Karl Friston (predictive processing theory) suggest that the brain’s primary job is not just to react to reality, but to anticipate it.
Your brain is constantly generating internal forecasts about what is likely to happen next. It builds models of what is safe, familiar, and probable. When those models align with experience, the brain operates efficiently. Monitoring decreases. Stress drops. Calm increases.
But when prediction fails—when the future feels unstable or unclear—the brain increases vigilance. Cortisol rises. The amygdala becomes more reactive. Monitoring intensifies.
Uncertainty is not just emotionally uncomfortable. It is neurologically expensive.
Research comparing predictable and unpredictable stressors shows that unpredictable stress can create stronger physiological responses than predictable stress—even when the predictable stressor is objectively worse. The brain often prefers a known negative outcome to an unknown one because predictability allows preparation, and preparation reduces perceived threat.
Coherence vs. Ambiguity
Researchers such as Travis Proulx and Steven Heine have explored how disruptions in meaning and narrative coherence increase anxiety and motivate the brain to restore order. Coherence stabilizes the nervous system. Ambiguity destabilizes it.
When someone says, “I’m overwhelmed by everything,” that word everything represents a collapse of hierarchy and narrative. The brain cannot model everything at once. It cannot prioritize everything simultaneously. So it defaults to alarm.
Language plays a powerful role here. Molly revisits her recent quote:
“Every time you replace ‘I’m overwhelmed’ with ‘I need to decide what matters most and go slow,’ your brain stops firing alarm signals and starts organizing information again.”While this shift does not immediately shut down the amygdala, research on cognitive reappraisal by psychologist James Gross shows that reframing increases prefrontal cortex activity and decreases amygdala activation over time. Changing language changes the predictive model the brain uses.
Molly also revisits a core Alcohol Minimalist concept: thoughts are both descriptive and prescriptive. Repeating “I’m overwhelmed” reinforces a future expectation. The brain uses repeated thoughts as data. Language influences prediction.
Why This Feels Amplified Now
The modern nervous system is metabolizing more information than at any point in human history. Our brains evolved to monitor a small social circle, not global crises, economic forecasts, political unrest, and technological revolutions delivered instantly.
When input exceeds the brain’s capacity to construct stable models:
Uncertainty rises
Scanning increases
Stress increases
Cognitive flexibility decreases
This is not fragility. It is neurobiology.
And it has direct implications for behavior change.
The brain invests effort when it believes the future is navigable. When the future feels chaotic, it shifts toward short-term safety behaviors—scrolling, avoidance, comfort-seeking, and returning to familiar habits—not because discipline has disappeared, but because predictability feels safer than uncertainty. Coherence builds confidence. Confidence supports effort. Effort sustains behavior change.

When coherence drops, consistency often drops with it.
Five Ways to Restore Coherence
While you cannot eliminate global uncertainty, you can restore local coherence. The brain does not require certainty everywhere. It requires stability somewhere.
Here are five actionable steps:
Narrow the time horizon.
Focus on today or tomorrow rather than the entire month or year. Short predictive loops are easier for the brain to manage.
Identify what is controllable.
Research shows perceived control reduces amygdala activation. Even one controllable action restores agency.
Establish one predictable ritual.
A consistent morning routine, defined work block, or nightly wind-down creates stability the brain can model.
Limit interpretive overload.
Too many possible explanations increase cognitive load. Choose the most useful interpretation instead of entertaining every hypothetical scenario.
Build one daily evidence loop.
Follow through on one manageable commitment each day. Predictable behavior strengthens the brain’s trust in its own forecasting.
Each of these steps restores hierarchy. Each reduces prediction error. Each sends a stabilizing signal to the nervous system.
You are telling your brain: “The world may be uncertain, but my behavior has structure.”
The Bottom Line
Your brain does not require absolute certainty in order to function well. It requires enough pattern to feel oriented. Enough structure to reduce constant monitoring. Enough stability to believe its predictions will not be continuously disrupted.
You cannot calm the entire world. But you can restore order in your immediate sphere.
When coherence returns, clarity follows.

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On this episode of The Alcohol Minimalist Podcast, Molly reflects on what would have been her mother’s 95th birthday and the years lost not only at the end of her life, but throughout decades spent in active addiction. With compassion and clarity, she explores the difference between alcohol dependence and alcohol reliance, and why that distinction matters more than most people realize.
Drawing from her recent conversation with Dr. Charles Knowles , Molly breaks down the difference between the small percentage of adults who are physically dependent on alcohol and the much larger group who fall into gray area drinking or alcohol reliance. She explains how neuroadaptation occurs over time, how reinforced thought patterns shape behavior, and why learned helplessness can quietly keep people stuck.
This episode is not about blame. It is about progression, influence, and the hopeful reality that most people questioning their drinking are not powerless. Through science, reflection, and practical questions, Molly invites listeners to examine the beliefs that may be giving alcohol more authority than it actually has.
In This Episode:
Reflecting on the years lost to active addiction
The difference between alcohol dependence and alcohol reliance
The 2 to 3 percent statistic on physical dependence
The 20 percent gray area drinking category
How neuroadaptation and tolerance develop over time
Dopamine as a learning signal, not just a pleasure chemical
Cue conditioning and incentive salience
The psychology of learned helplessness
Why belief shapes behavior and behavior reinforces belief
Alcohol’s health risks, including cancer and sleep disruption
Why low risk drinking guidelines reduce harm, not risk
The importance of examining your belief system around alcohol
Key Takeaways:
Physical dependence develops gradually through repeated reinforcement and neuroadaptation.
Most people questioning their drinking are not physically dependent but are operating in reinforced patterns.
Alcohol influences the brain but does not automatically remove agency unless long term dependence has shifted the baseline.
Beliefs such as “Once I start, I can’t stop” can strengthen neural expectation and reduce effort.
Small cognitive shifts precede behavioral shifts, and repeated behavior reshapes the brain.
Questions to Reflect On This Week:
What belief about alcohol might you be carrying that deserves closer examination?
Is there a sentence you repeat internally such as “I need it to relax” or “It helps me connect” that feels solid and unquestioned?
What might happen if you approached that belief with curiosity rather than judgment?
What is one small step you can take this week to observe rather than act automatically?
Resources Mentioned:
Molly’s interview with Dr. Charles Knowles 
Alcohol Truths: How Much Is Too Much?
If you are questioning your relationship with alcohol, remember that awareness is the first step. 
Change does not require a dramatic declaration. It begins with curiosity, clarity, and small shifts practiced steadily over time.

Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:
Healthy men under 65:
No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.
Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:
No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.
One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.
Abstinence from alcohol
Abstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.
Benefits of “low-risk” drinking
Following these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work.

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Many people are saying the same thing lately: “I’m overwhelmed by everything.”
In this Think Thursday episode, Molly explores what overwhelm actually is from a neuroscience perspective. Is it just busyness? Or is something deeper happening in the brain?
Drawing from research on the amygdala, stress hormones, working memory, and executive function, Molly explains how overwhelm is not about volume alone. It is about perceived overload and a loss of prioritization. When the brain detects too many competing demands and not enough resources, it shifts from organizing to alarming.
This episode also revisits a recent WisdomWednesday quote about replacing “I’m overwhelmed” with “I need to decide what matters most and go slow.” Molly clarifies why that statement is directionally true but not neurologically instant. She explains how language influences prediction, prediction shapes physiology, and physiology drives behavior.
What You’ll Learn
Why overwhelm is a perception of overload, not simply busyness
How the amygdala flags cognitive threat
What happens to the prefrontal cortex under stress
Why everything feels urgent when executive function is compromised
The difference between descriptive and prescriptive thoughts
How repeating “I’m overwhelmed” reinforces neural prediction loops
Why prioritization restores cognitive flexibility
How cognitive reappraisal shifts neural activity over time
Key Concepts Explained
Perceived Overload
Overwhelm occurs when the brain interprets demands as exceeding available resources.
Amygdala Activation
When ambiguity, uncertainty, and competing priorities rise, the amygdala signals threat, increasing stress hormones like cortisol and norepinephrine.
Executive Function
The prefrontal cortex is responsible for planning, sequencing, prioritizing, and organizing. Under stress, its efficiency decreases.
Descriptive vs Prescriptive Thinking
Some thoughts label experience. Others shape future experience. Repeating “I’m overwhelmed” reinforces prediction patterns that sustain the feeling.
Cognitive Reappraisal
Research shows that reinterpreting a situation increases prefrontal cortex activity and decreases amygdala activation over time.
Why Language Matters
When you repeatedly say “I’m overwhelmed,” your brain begins scanning for confirming evidence. Increased vigilance raises stress. Stress reduces clarity. Reduced clarity reinforces overwhelm.
Replacing that statement with a prioritizing phrase does not instantly shut down the alarm system. However, it recruits executive function and begins shifting neural activity toward organization and task-based thinking.
Language guides prediction.
 Prediction guides physiology.
 Physiology guides behavior.

Practical Reframe
Instead of:
“I’m overwhelmed.”
Try:
What matters most today?
What is the next smallest step?
What can wait?
This is not positive thinking. It is restoring organizing capacity.
Overwhelm signals that prioritization has collapsed. Prioritization is a skill that can be strengthened.
Behavior Change Connection
People often abandon habits when they feel overwhelmed, not because they lack discipline, but because executive function is compromised.
You cannot build new neural pathways from a chronically alarmed state.
Restoring order supports follow-through.

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Last week marked World Cancer Day, and in this episode, Molly revisits an important—and often misunderstood—topic: the relationship between alcohol and cancer.
This is not a new conversation, and it’s not a reaction to headlines. Instead, it’s part of an ongoing commitment to helping you understand the science well enough to make informed, intentional choices about alcohol—without fear, shame, or all-or-nothing thinking.
One reason this topic continues to matter is a striking gap in awareness: while nearly 90% of adults recognize smoking as a cancer risk, fewer than half realize that alcohol is also classified as a carcinogen 
Project 1 (50). That lack of awareness makes informed choice difficult—and that’s what this episode aims to address.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why alcohol is classified as a Group 1 carcinogen, and what that designation actually means
The seven types of cancer that are clearly linked to alcohol use, including breast cancer
How alcohol increases cancer risk at a biological level (acetaldehyde, inflammation, hormones, and nutrient disruption)
Why alcohol research in humans is mostly observational, and what that means for how we interpret the data
The critical difference between relative risk and absolute risk—and why this distinction matters
What experts mean when they say there is “no safe level” of alcohol for cancer risk
How to think about cancer risk through an Alcohol Minimalist, harm-reduction lens
Key takeaways:
Alcohol does increase cancer risk, but risk is dose-dependent and cumulative, not absolute or immediate
Relative risk headlines often sound scarier than the actual, absolute numbers
You do not need perfection—or abstinence—to meaningfully reduce risk
Reducing frequency, quantity, and duration of drinking patterns matters
Alcohol Minimalism is about reducing unnecessary exposure, not eliminating all risk
This episode is about clarity, not commands.
 Science isn’t here to scare you—it’s here to inform you.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by alcohol and health messaging, this episode offers a calmer, more grounded way to understand the risks and decide what feels right for you.
As always, choose peace.
Resources mentioned:
TIME Magazine article on alcohol and cancer risk
CDC information on alcohol-related cancers
Alcohol Minimalist framework for informed, harm-reduction decision making
If this episode was helpful, consider sharing it with someone who would appreciate a thoughtful, non-alarmist conversation about alcohol and health.
Low risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:
Healthy men under 65:
No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.
Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:
No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.
One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.
Abstinence from alcohol
Abstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.
Benefits of “low-risk” drinking
Following these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work.

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In this Think Thursday episode, we explore how the human brain evolved to use discomfort as information—and what happens when modern life removes nearly all friction, effort, and delay.
Our brains weren’t designed for constant comfort. Discomfort once served as critical feedback, helping guide behavior, attention, rest, and problem-solving. But in today’s world of instant gratification and instant relief, discomfort is often treated as a problem to eliminate rather than a signal to interpret.
This episode unpacks why that shift matters for brain health, motivation, resilience, and long-term satisfaction—and how intentional discomfort can support a hedonic reset.
In this episode, we discuss:
Why discomfort evolved as a key feedback mechanism in the human brain
How instant relief interrupts the brain’s ability to learn from discomfort
The difference between regulation and comfort from a neuroscience perspective
How highly concentrated, low-effort rewards shape motivation and satisfaction
The concept of hedonic adaptation and why “enough” keeps moving
What a hedonic reset actually is (and what it isn’t)
How intentional discomfort supports nervous system regulation
The role of dopamine, effort, and delay in sustaining motivation
Why distress tolerance is a foundational skill for behavior change
How identity shifts through repeated, slightly uncomfortable choices
Expert perspectives referenced:
Dr. Anna Lembke, author of Dopamine Nation, on pleasure–pain balance and modern reward concentration
Dr. Andrew Huberman on dopamine signaling, effort, and motivation
James Clear on identity following behavior
Inspiration from a conversation on the Mel Robbins Podcast with Dr. Lembke
One gentle experiment to try this week:
Choose one moment per day when you notice mild discomfort—boredom, restlessness, or the urge to distract—and pause instead of fixing it.
Examples:
Standing in line without reaching for your phone
Sitting with boredom for 60–90 seconds
Letting an urge rise and fall without reacting
Notice:
Where you feel the sensation in your body
What thoughts show up
Whether the feeling changes on its own
This isn’t about forcing discomfort or pushing through distress. It’s about teaching your nervous system that discomfort is tolerable and temporary—and that awareness alone can create change.
Key takeaway:
Discomfort isn’t a problem to solve.
 It’s information to work with.
In a culture built around instant relief and effortless reward, intentional discomfort can be a powerful way to restore balance, protect motivation, and support long-term brain health.

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