Not Right Now

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Garrett Bucks, a writer, organizer, recovering white do-gooder, and parent based in Milwaukee. Garrett runs The Barnraisers Project, writes The White Pages newsletter, and is the author of the memoir The Right Kind of White. He also has a son who is very mad that his sister thinks they live in a suburb.
The gang gets into why your son talks differently to his sister than to his friends, kids not knowing what the Epstein files are, growing up in rural Montana, how to get work done in between school drop off and soccer practice, and why protests are important AND performative AND boring and worth doing anyway, and how to actually get your kids to come.
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Find Garrett's work at garretbucks.com
Subscribe to The White Pages at thewhitepages.net
Check out The Barnraisers Project at barnraisersproject.org
Read Garrett's memoir, The Right Kind of White https://bookshop.org/a/8952/9781982197209
Join The Interdependence Relay at jointherelay.org

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This week, Quinn and Claire talk about first crushes, school dances, bloody noses, and other horrors of middle school before getting into why youth sports are dying across the US, especially because coaches make no money while dealing with our asshole kids, so yes, they do deserve a Target gift card at the very least.
Also discussed: sleeping (badly), mandatory attendance policies, the art of letting your kid navigate social terrors on their own timeline, and more.
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Check out graphic novels by Riana Telgemeier https://bookshop.org/beta-search?keywords=raina+telgemeir
Quinn's coach to parents letter template https://docs.google.com/document/d/1g0KBcrxDoVyFqpR_bSiEsdZSxmUktCVVkSt8a7yI3aw/edit?pli=1&tab=t.0

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This week, writer Emily Gould joins Quinn and Claire to discuss her obsession with Heated Rivalry (it's about hockey, primarily), the aging cliff at 44, ruining everything you used to find fun by professionalizing it, and parenting the kid that's exactly like you.
Also discussed: food parties, advice columns, Julia Roberts, and the Kinsey Scale.
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Read Emily's "Lure of Divorce" article https://www.thecut.com/article/marriage-divorce-should-i-leave-my-husband-emily-gould.html

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This week, we have Meghan Keane Graham and Mark Graham on the show to chat about their podcast, Back In My Day, where they watch movies from when they were 12 and force their kids (ages 12 and 9) to discuss them. We discuss: movies that don't hold up, what to do when your kids hate a movie that was very formative for you, when to introduce your kids to John Hughes movies, springing on your kids that they have to do skating lessons (at bedtime, perfect), and how Billy Madison peeing his pants is actually great parenting advice.
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This week we're talking about the delicate art of making everything toxic for your children (Whole Foods? Ruined. Florida? The worst. Every public figure? Probably a Nazi.), how to tell kids bad news on their level ("Grandma is cooked"), and whether you're still a trad wife if you do all the trad wife things but hate it.
Also: the polar vortex, Apollo 13 family rankings, and our ability to be a bummer about anything.
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How to tell kids bad news on their level Thread: https://www.threads.com/@dave5150scotsman/post/DT2dxztEQME
Millennial Final Destination meme: https://www.instagram.com/p/DSLbXJniezE/
Countertop microwave/toaster/air fryer combo: https://www.breville.com/en-us/product/bov900
World War II books: Agent Zo by Claire Mulley, Motherland: A Feminist History of Modern Russia by Julia Ioffe, The Fall of Berlin by Antony Beevor, The Splendid and the Vile by Erik Larson, Rick Atkinson's WWII trilogy

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