Healing For Love

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Many women tell me they know what an unhealthy relationship feels like but they're much less certain about what a healthy one should feel like.
In this episode, I walk you through nine signs that you're building a healthy, emotionally available relationship during the early stages of dating.
Rather than focusing on red flags, we explore the aspects that signal emotional safety, healthy attraction and genuine compatibility.
In this episode you'll learn:
What healthy attraction actually feels like
Why uncertainty is normal in the early stages of dating
The importance of relationships developing gradually
Why emotional consistency matters
How to recognise emotional safety
When physical intimacy is most helpful for building a healthy relationship
Why staying true to yourself is essential
The role of autonomy, authenticity and emotional availability
Why healthy love often feels different from schema-driven chemistry
If you've ever wondered whether a relationship is moving in a healthy direction, this episode will help you better understand what to look for and what healthy love actually feels like.
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Situationships aren't new, but today they have a name.
They're often marked by uncertainty, mixed messages, hope, and one person wanting much more than the other.
In this episode, I explore five common signs that you're caught in a situationship that's unlikely to become the relationship you're hoping for.
More importantly, we look at the psychology behind why so many intelligent women find themselves staying in these painful, ambiguous dynamics.
In this episode you'll learn:
What defines a situationship
Five signs your situationship is going nowhere
Why uncertainty can become so emotionally consuming
How situationships slowly undermine self-worth and confidence
The role of abandonment, emotional deprivation and other schemas in keeping women stuck
Why understanding your relationship patterns is the first step towards changing them
If you've ever wondered whether you're holding on to hope rather than evidence, this episode is for you.
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Have you ever wondered why relationships can feel so emotionally intense?
Why you find it difficult to leave someone, even when you know they're not right for you?
Or why emotionally unavailable partners seem to become a recurring pattern?
In this episode, I explore one of the most important psychological patterns I see in my work with women - the abandonment schema (or abandonment wound).
Drawing on nearly 30 years of experience in psychology and schema therapy, I explain how early experiences of inconsistency, loss, emotional absence or disrupted attachment can quietly shape our expectations of love, influence who feels familiar, and make it much harder to walk away from relationships that aren't meeting our needs.
You'll learn:
• What an abandonment schema actually is
• How it develops during childhood
• Why it often shows up most strongly in romantic relationships
• How it influences attraction and partner selection
• Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel strangely familiar
• The link between abandonment and overriding red flags
• Why this schema can keep you hoping, waiting and staying far longer than is healthy
• How understanding your abandonment pattern can become the first step towards creating healthier, more secure relationships
If you've ever found yourself repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic partners, or you've wondered why leaving unhealthy relationships feels so incredibly difficult, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface.
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If you're serious about finding an emotionally available partner, there are some important shifts that can dramatically improve your chances of creating a healthy relationship.
In this episode, I break down the practical dating advice I most often share with my coaching clients. Women who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns and want to approach dating with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
One of the biggest misconceptions about dating is that women who end up in unhealthy relationships simply fail to see the warning signs.
In my experience, that's rarely true.
Most women notice far more than they give themselves credit for.
The challenge is often not spotting the red flags—it's understanding the deeper patterns that make it difficult to trust yourself and act on what you already know.
If you're ready to approach dating differently and want to understand the hidden psychological forces that influence attraction and decision-making, this episode is for you.
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Have you ever left a date feeling completely conflicted?  Part of you feels excited.
Part of you feels anxious.  Part of you wants to see them again.
And part of you feels relieved it's over.
In this episode, I explore why dating can feel so confusing and how different parts of ourselves can interpret the exact same situation in very different ways.
Drawing on concepts from Schema Therapy, I introduce three key voices that often show up when we're dating. 
You'll learn how old wounds such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness and people-pleasing patterns can quietly influence attraction, decision-making and relationship choices.
I also explore common dating coping modes including
Most importantly, we'll look at how to strengthen the Wise Self - the part of you that can step back, gather information, spot red flags, honour boundaries and make healthier relationship decisions.
In this episode you'll learn:
Why dating can feel so confusing at times
How vulnerable parts of us influence attraction
The role of coping modes in dating and relationships
Why familiarity can be mistaken for compatibility
How schema chemistry can override good judgement
The questions your Wise Self needs to be asking
How to recognise who is currently "holding the microphone"
Why healthy dating involves learning to date from wisdom rather than from your wound
Resources Mentioned:
Love Wisely Foundations
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