Healing For Love

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WARNING: This episode contains natural bird songs, twigs breaking & leaves crushing underfoot, the occasional breathlessnes and the distant sound of kids playing in a park 😊 
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What does it really mean for someone to be available for a relationship?
In this walking episode, I explore one of the most painful forms of emotional unavailability: becoming attached to someone who is still entangled with another woman.
Perhaps he says the marriage is over.
Perhaps they still live together “for the children.”
Perhaps he promises that once the separation, divorce or living arrangements are resolved, the two of you can finally have a proper relationship.
Meanwhile, you are left waiting, hoping and accepting small pieces of connection from someone who is not genuinely free to build a life with you.
In this episode, I discuss:
The difference between being separated and being truly available
How promises about the future can keep you emotionally invested
Why intermittent attention and small acts of care can feel so powerful
The role of abandonment and emotional deprivation schemas
Why an unavailable person can sometimes feel safer than a real relationship
How implicit recognition draws us towards familiar emotional dynamics
Why being given crumbs can slowly erode your self-worth
The importance of choosing someone who is emotionally and practically free
I also share a personal experience of becoming emotionally attached to a married and unavailable man, and what that experience helped me understand about my own schemas.
If you are waiting for someone’s circumstances to change before they can fully choose you, this episode is an invitation to step back and look honestly at what is being offered to you now.
You deserve more than promises, fragments of attention and a place at the edge of someone else’s life.
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Many women tell me they know what an unhealthy relationship feels like but they're much less certain about what a healthy one should feel like.
In this episode, I walk you through nine signs that you're building a healthy, emotionally available relationship during the early stages of dating.
Rather than focusing on red flags, we explore the aspects that signal emotional safety, healthy attraction and genuine compatibility.
In this episode you'll learn:
What healthy attraction actually feels like
Why uncertainty is normal in the early stages of dating
The importance of relationships developing gradually
Why emotional consistency matters
How to recognise emotional safety
When physical intimacy is most helpful for building a healthy relationship
Why staying true to yourself is essential
The role of autonomy, authenticity and emotional availability
Why healthy love often feels different from schema-driven chemistry
If you've ever wondered whether a relationship is moving in a healthy direction, this episode will help you better understand what to look for and what healthy love actually feels like.
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Situationships aren't new, but today they have a name.
They're often marked by uncertainty, mixed messages, hope, and one person wanting much more than the other.
In this episode, I explore five common signs that you're caught in a situationship that's unlikely to become the relationship you're hoping for.
More importantly, we look at the psychology behind why so many intelligent women find themselves staying in these painful, ambiguous dynamics.
In this episode you'll learn:
What defines a situationship
Five signs your situationship is going nowhere
Why uncertainty can become so emotionally consuming
How situationships slowly undermine self-worth and confidence
The role of abandonment, emotional deprivation and other schemas in keeping women stuck
Why understanding your relationship patterns is the first step towards changing them
If you've ever wondered whether you're holding on to hope rather than evidence, this episode is for you.
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Have you ever wondered why relationships can feel so emotionally intense?
Why you find it difficult to leave someone, even when you know they're not right for you?
Or why emotionally unavailable partners seem to become a recurring pattern?
In this episode, I explore one of the most important psychological patterns I see in my work with women - the abandonment schema (or abandonment wound).
Drawing on nearly 30 years of experience in psychology and schema therapy, I explain how early experiences of inconsistency, loss, emotional absence or disrupted attachment can quietly shape our expectations of love, influence who feels familiar, and make it much harder to walk away from relationships that aren't meeting our needs.
You'll learn:
• What an abandonment schema actually is
• How it develops during childhood
• Why it often shows up most strongly in romantic relationships
• How it influences attraction and partner selection
• Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel strangely familiar
• The link between abandonment and overriding red flags
• Why this schema can keep you hoping, waiting and staying far longer than is healthy
• How understanding your abandonment pattern can become the first step towards creating healthier, more secure relationships
If you've ever found yourself repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic partners, or you've wondered why leaving unhealthy relationships feels so incredibly difficult, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface.
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If you're serious about finding an emotionally available partner, there are some important shifts that can dramatically improve your chances of creating a healthy relationship.
In this episode, I break down the practical dating advice I most often share with my coaching clients. Women who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns and want to approach dating with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
One of the biggest misconceptions about dating is that women who end up in unhealthy relationships simply fail to see the warning signs.
In my experience, that's rarely true.
Most women notice far more than they give themselves credit for.
The challenge is often not spotting the red flags—it's understanding the deeper patterns that make it difficult to trust yourself and act on what you already know.
If you're ready to approach dating differently and want to understand the hidden psychological forces that influence attraction and decision-making, this episode is for you.
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