The Good Mood Clinic Podcast

Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!Welcome to the final Episode for this year!  We will be back with new episodes in 2025.  Support the showCan you help support our continued production. If you're a regular listener who loves our show, please consider supporting us with a small contribution each month. We are a home-grown podcast made with love, without help from a fancy production company or sponsors. Become a regular supporter of the show and get a big thank-you shout out on an upcoming episode. Help us keep going! xxCONNECT WITH USGood Mood Hubgoodmood.com.auInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected] us for information about private therapy or coaching with Dr Gemma or Dr Justine. The Red Flag Projecttheredflagproject.comInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected]://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectFor women seeking to heal their schemas, break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships. See our website for coaching with Gemma or Justine.

Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!In this episode of we dive deep into the "martyr mode," a coping style often discussed in schema therapy. We explore what it means to have a martyr complex or mode, how it shows up in relationships, and the emotional dynamics that fuel this behaviour.Key topics covered include:The defining traits of the martyr mode and how it may stem from deeper emotional wounds, unmet needs and emotional deprivation.The guilt-inducing and manipulative aspects of martyr behaviour, and its impact on relationships with children, partners, and others.How this mode can flip between seeking validation, playing the victim, and striving for indispensability.Insights into the covert ways martyrs seek emotional control and validation, often leaving others feeling resentful or guilty.Practical advice for recognizing and addressing martyr tendencies in yourself or dealing with someone exhibiting this behavior.Whether you're navigating a relationship with someone in this mode or noticing these patterns within yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for creating healthier dynamics.If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to FOLLOW the show and share it with others who might benefit from this discussion.Support the showCan you help support our continued production. If you're a regular listener who loves our show, please consider supporting us with a small contribution each month. We are a home-grown podcast made with love, without help from a fancy production company or sponsors. Become a regular supporter of the show and get a big thank-you shout out on an upcoming episode. Help us keep going! xxCONNECT WITH USGood Mood Hubgoodmood.com.auInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected] us for information about private therapy or coaching with Dr Gemma or Dr Justine. The Red Flag Projecttheredflagproject.comInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected]://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectFor women seeking to heal their schemas, break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships. See our website for coaching with Gemma or Justine.

Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!Healthy Adult Daily Practice: An Intentional Reflection ToolIn this episode, Gemma introduces a practical tool called Healthy Adult Daily Practice, designed to help you strengthen and nurture your Healthy Adult mode. Building on the foundational features of the Healthy Adult mode discussed in the previous episode, this episode walks you through a simple, intentional practice that can be integrated into your daily life to promote emotional resilience, self-awareness, and healthier relationships.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What is the Healthy Adult Mode?A quick recap of its foundational characteristics: mindfulness, self-compassion, emotional regulation, and more.How embodying the Healthy Adult mode supports wiser, more compassionate decision-making and self-management.Healthy Adult Daily Practice Tool:Set Your Intention: Choose one Healthy Adult quality (e.g., patience, empathy, gratitude, self-care) to focus on for the day.Daily Embodiment: Actively embody this quality in your actions, thoughts, and interactions throughout the day.End-of-Day Reflection: Evaluate how you embodied this quality, reflect on challenges, and identify lessons learned for future growth.Why This Practice Works:The importance of intentionality and repetition in developing new neural pathways.How this practice builds emotional resilience and integrates Healthy Adult traits into your personality over time.By engaging with this tool, you'll build greater self-awareness, foster healthier relationships, and develop the emotional resilience to face life's challenges with confidence and clarity.Reflection Questions for Healthy Adult Daily Practice:What Healthy Adult quality will I focus on tomorrow?Why is this quality meaningful or important to me right now?How do I plan to incorporate this quality into my daily life?How did I embody this quality today?What challenges did I face in practicing this quality?How did this practice influence my interactions, decisions, or emotions?Support the showCan you help support our continued production. If you're a regular listener who loves our show, please consider supporting us with a small contribution each month. We are a home-grown podcast made with love, without help from a fancy production company or sponsors. Become a regular supporter of the show and get a big thank-you shout out on an upcoming episode. Help us keep going! xxCONNECT WITH USGood Mood Hubgoodmood.com.auInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected] us for information about private therapy or coaching with Dr Gemma or Dr Justine. The Red Flag Projecttheredflagproject.comInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected]://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectFor women seeking to heal their schemas, break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships. See our website for coaching with Gemma or Justine.

Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!In this episode, Gemma dives into the cornerstone of schema therapy: the Healthy Adult mode. This is the part of us that represents balance, wisdom, and compassion—our best self that helps us navigate relationships, emotions, and life’s challenges effectively.What You’ll Learn:Mindfulness: Why mindfulness is the foundational building block for self-awareness, self-reflection, and personal growth.The Healthy Adult as Executor: How this mode acts as the caretaker, director, and overseer of all other modes.The Wise and Courageous Self: The importance of facing reality, leaning into discomfort, and making wise, courageous decisions.The Compassionate Self: How to practice genuine compassion toward yourself and others without overextending or self-sacrificing.The Good Parent: Prioritizing meaningful self-care and addressing unhealthy coping strategies to nurture yourself like a loving parent would.Self-Awareness and Growth: Recognizing your schemas and embracing psychological awareness to create meaningful change.Flexibility and Openness: Developing an open, adaptable mindset to navigate life’s ups and downs without rigidity.Why This Episode Matters:Understanding and strengthening your Healthy Adult mode is central to breaking unhelpful patterns and living authentically. Gemma shares practical insights and strategies to help you embrace this transformative aspect of yourself.Resources Mentioned:Book recommendation: Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young.Previous episode: "You’re Not Your Diagnosis."Support the showCan you help support our continued production. If you're a regular listener who loves our show, please consider supporting us with a small contribution each month. We are a home-grown podcast made with love, without help from a fancy production company or sponsors. Become a regular supporter of the show and get a big thank-you shout out on an upcoming episode. Help us keep going! xxCONNECT WITH USGood Mood Hubgoodmood.com.auInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected] us for information about private therapy or coaching with Dr Gemma or Dr Justine. The Red Flag Projecttheredflagproject.comInstagramFacebookemail: [email protected]://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectFor women seeking to heal their schemas, break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships. See our website for coaching with Gemma or Justine.