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"Have a plan, work the plan, plan for the unexpected." From my old Miami football coach, Terry Hoeppner. It was posted in the locker room. He said it every day. I still think about it all the time.
There is no hack. There is no one thing. At many keynote Q&As, someone asks me for a quick fix. The only answer is the power of compounding. Consistency, dependability, and reliability are the least sexy words of all time. And they're the whole game.
Take your work seriously. Don't take yourself seriously. The best leaders go hard at the work but laugh at themselves. It's important to be able to laugh with your team.
Optionality is overrated. 
"I'm trying to beef up my obituary. I'm not going to dabble." - Ed Latimore (Ep. 648)
Live like a hawk. Hawks have eyesight eight times better than humans. They glide and observe constantly. But once they see what they want, they commit with everything they have. Be a professional noticer. Then commit fully.
Talk to your people before big decisions. My dad. Miranda. And the wide network of high-caliber people I've built over 700 podcast episodes. Be specific. Off the record. Long conversations. Then trust your gut.
Take bits and pieces from the best. Then find your own voice. As a brand new sales rep at LexisNexis, Rex Caswell had me interview and sit with the ten best reps in the company. I took a piece from each, mashed it together with my own personality, and eventually found my own voice. I still use that formula today.
Use social media to create in-person moments. Organize dinners, meetups, coffees. Get in the room with people. Concert ticket prices and The World Cup tell you everything you need to know about how much people are craving in-person connection right now.
Don't outsource your thinking to AI. You can't walk into the weight room, look around, and expect to build muscle. You have to move the weights. Use AI as a tool. Don't let it do the thinking for you.
Your job is to add value to other people's lives. Coach Hoeppner sat 19-year-old me down with the other quarterback and pointed at both of us: "He adds more value to our team than you do. He gives us a better chance to win. That's why he's going to play." It was brutal. It was a very lucky moment for me to experience that in my formative years.
I fell into the AI trap. The Be a Pro section originally started as a LinkedIn post that was heavily influenced by Claude. It went well on Twitter too. People DM'd me praising it. It felt great. And it scared me. I was getting the rewards without doing the work.
The good old days are right now. I try to work hard when my family is asleep or at school. Between those hours, I go as hard as I can. Outside those hours, I try not to work too much. I've talked with so many dads who are older now, and their kids are out of the house. They miss the time when they were with their kids so much. I try to think of that daily.
Making positive dents in the world. Leave people, places, and things better than you found them.  That's how you make a positive dent, one person at a time.
My philosophy on keynotes and writing: story, science, and practical application. Great storytelling to move people to the edge of their seat. Empirical evidence to make it true. Practical application to answer, "So what? Why should I care?" You have to have all 3.
Our edge in coaching leadership teams: my coaches actively live what they teach. They didn't attend a seminar and get certified. They're still active coaches themselves, still leading teams in real time. That's what separates authentic teaching from performance.
Push your edges. Find your Goldilocks zone. James Clear told me you don't get better at tennis by playing Roger Federer. He'll destroy you. But you also don't get better by playing a five-year-old. You need to be uncomfortable, but not so uncomfortable that you break.
Shane Gillis walked off stage looking exhausted. Dan saw him live in Cincinnati. On stage, effortless. The second he stepped behind the curtain, his shoulders slumped like he was ready to fall asleep. That's what the great ones do. They make it look easy because of the price they paid to get there.
My productive paranoia. Our team has to earn it every session. It creates a productive paranoia knowing that continuous improvement is necessary.
The reward is bigger than the cost. It's the greatest gig in the world. I bet on myself and the team every single day because if we keep adding value, I like our chances.
Reflection Questions
Where are you dabbling right now? What would 100% commitment actually look like, and what's stopping you from making the call?
My end-of-day prompts: What did I do today to add value to others' lives? What did I do today to push my edges?
Get The Price of Becoming: The Price of Becoming is available now at learningleader.com/becoming or on Amazon. 
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Episode Chapters
00:00 A Special Launch Episode: The Price of Becoming 
02:29 Have a Plan, Work the Plan, Plan for the Unexpected 
05:15 There Is No Hack. Just the Power of Compounding. 
08:04 Take Your Work Seriously. But Not Yourself
12:31 Optionality Is Overrated: Why You Should Stop Dabbling 
16:13 How I Make Big Decisions 
20:34 Using Social Media to Build Real In-Person Relationships 
23:27 The Danger of Using AI to Write
34:16 How I Structure My Work Days
40:47 The One at a Time Moments That Signal a Positive Dent 
42:04 Leave People, Places, and Things Better Than You Found Them 
50:52 Story, Science, and Practical Application 
55:14 What Makes The Learning Leader Team Different
57:39 Push Your Edges: The Goldilocks Zone 
01:06:24 The Real Cost of Betting on Yourself 
01:10:45 EOPC

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My guest: Ezekiel J. "Zeke" Emanuel, MD, PhD, is a prominent oncologist, bioethicist, and health policy expert. Currently Vice Provost for Global Initiatives at the University of Pennsylvania, he was instrumental in shaping the Affordable Care Act and served as the founding chair of the Department of Bioethics at the National Institutes of Health.
Key Learnings
Zeke's dad was called "Speedy." He was a Chicago pediatrician who worked 24-hour call, walked so fast the nurses had to run to keep up, and had a rule: the fourth child in any family was free. He recognized the financial strain on families and just wouldn't charge.
Zeke's mom was the definition of the anti-helicopter parent. At the playground, she sat on the bench. At the beach, she dropped the boys off with a blanket and a snack. "You go play. Something goes wrong? Okay, that's how it goes." That's how three future powerhouse leaders learned to negotiate, create, and figure it out.
The Emanuel brothers' group text is full of bragging. Zeke posted his 51.9 VO2 max score at 68 years old, asking, "Do I win in the family?" His kids replied that they don't even read the articles Zeke and Rahm forward anymore. Close doesn't mean uncompetitive.
A dozen years ago, Zeke wrote his most famous article, "Why I Hope to Die at 75." He still stands by it. The point wasn't that he wants to die. The point is that after 75, he won't take medical treatments meant to prolong life. 
By age 75, 30% of adults have Alzheimer's or cognitive impairment. By 80, it's 40%. Zeke doesn't want to be remembered as a doddering old man who can't recognize his own family.
Living a long time is a means, not an end. It's not the goal of life. It's what allows you to be present, engaged, and useful for the years you have.
Biohacking is a lie: It suggests you know better than millions of years of evolution and the entire medical profession. The body isn't about maxing. It's about balance. Too much immune response gives you autoimmunity. Too little makes you sick. The body finds health in the median.
You're not going to be perfect over decades. Wellness isn't a four-minute figure skating routine graded on execution. It's a lifetime practice. So build habits you enjoy and can sustain without thinking about them.
Zeke's six simple rules for a long and healthy life:
Don't be a schmuck. Avoid activities riskier than driving. Smoking, vaping, base jumping, climbing Everest.
Talk to people. The number one predictor of a long, happy life.
Expand your mind. Travel. Talk to the chef. Learn something new.
Eat your ice cream. Moderation over perfection. Fermented foods and fiber.
Move. Aerobic, strength, and flexibility. All three.
Sleep like a baby. You can't will it. But you can create the conditions.
The Harvard Adult Development Study followed people for 85 years. John F. Kennedy was in it. Ben Bradlee was in it. The finding: close friends and being married correlated with the healthiest, longest, happiest lives. Not exercise. Not diet. Relationships.
Having no close friends is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. That's how bad loneliness is for you. It's not just psychological. It's physical.
Introverts get the same happiness boost from social interaction as extroverts. A University of Chicago study by Nicholas Epley found that introverts assume they won't enjoy talking to strangers on their commute. They were wrong. When they did it, they were just as happy as extroverts.
Take the headphones off. Zeke has been telling people this since the iPod era. Random encounters increase your surface area for luck, learning, and connection. You never know who you're going to meet or what they might tell you.
To be interesting, you have to be interested. Zeke asks to meet the chef at every great restaurant. He asks his Ethiopian Uber driver which tribe he's from. He talks to the person on the plane. It's virtuous. Good for you AND good for them.
Zeke's hero is Ben Franklin. Franklin came back to America at 80 after negotiating the end of the Revolutionary War. The first thing he did was build a library for his curiosity and a dining room for his social dinners. That's the way to live.
The wellness trifecta: hosting a dinner party with curious people. You're eating good food. You're getting together with people. Your mind is being stretched by great conversation. Three benefits from one activity.
Zeke is anti-wellness-industrial-complex. Peptides from your corner store: disaster, unregulated, no idea what's in them. Testosterone replacement therapy without a real deficiency: bad idea, accelerates prostate cancer. Growth hormone for aging: promotes cancers. That's being a schmuck.
Sleep is the one wellness practice you can't will yourself into. You can only build the conditions for it. Dark room. Cool temperature. No caffeine or alcohol eight hours before bed. Phone in another room. Read a book. Everything else is up to your body.
Ice cream actually decreases your risk of type 2 diabetes. The fat content softens the glycemic response. Plus, you usually eat it with other people. Social eating matters.
Zeke's champagne moment a year from now: finishing his next book on how to fix the American healthcare system, and turning 70.
Reflection Questions
Are you optimizing for length of life, or for the quality of years you actually get? 
When was the last time you turned your headphones off, introduced yourself to a stranger, or asked to meet the chef? 
Who are the friends you rely on for social interaction? Not casual acquaintances, but the ones who lift your health, longevity, and happiness. When did you last make plans with them?
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My guest: Andy Stumpf is a retired Navy SEAL who spent 17 years on active duty, including assignments with one of the most elite special operations units in the U.S. military. He's a New York Times bestselling author. His newest book is Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water.
Key Learnings
"What you allow in your presence is your standard." It doesn't matter what your corporate ethos is. It doesn't matter what's tattooed on the wall behind you. If your actions don't align with your speech, it means nothing. Speech is debatable. Actions have impact.
You can control almost nothing in your life, but you can control the boundaries you set and your willingness to maintain them.
There's a difference between a SEAL and a team guy. A SEAL is there for the title and the individual journey. A team guy is there for the mission and the team. They wear the same uniform. From the outside, you can't tell them apart. Internally, everyone knows.
Andy would rather have a group of team guys than a group of SEALs. Your ability to accomplish unbelievable things is 100% aligned with what group of people you bring into your organization.
You'll get fooled in the interview process. People wear masks. That's just how it works. The reps come after. Set up consistent feedback. Bi-annual after-action reviews on performance and how they're showing up as a person.
80/20 the interview. Talk 20%. Make them talk 80%. The more they speak, the harder it is to keep the mask on.
Let people go faster, not slower. It's way easier to solve this problem six months in than six years in, when they've already catastrophically impacted the culture.
Drown-proofing is not an exercise in being drown-proof. It's an exercise in self-control. You bob up and down in a pool for an hour with your hands tied behind your back and your feet bound. If you panic, you sink. If you stay calm and control your breathing, you can do it indefinitely. The test occurs in the water, but it has almost nothing to do with the water itself.
The world is chaotic. That doesn't mean you have to be. When everything around you is going sideways, walk yourself back. What can I actually control? My breathing. My self-talk. My priorities. My next move.
The circle of influence vs. the circle of concern. Draw a line down the middle of a legal pad. On the left, write everything you're worried about, working on, occupied by. That column will be huge. On the right, write what you actually have direct control over. You'll only be able to write one thing: yourself.
The most effective leadership tool is mentorship. Andy's mentor Dave Hall gave him "just the perfect amount of rope to hang myself, and then maybe he'd help me get it around my neck just a little bit." Dave would let him fall short, then crush him, then sit there and facilitate what he needed to fill the gap.
A high standard is a finely sharpened blade. It can cut in both directions. Andy's mentor, Dave Hall, ultimately died by suicide. One reason Andy believes it happened is Dave couldn't hold himself to the same standard anymore, and it destroyed him. Have grace for yourself. Not every goal is worth your life.
Focus on post-traumatic growth, not post-traumatic stress. Trauma doesn't have to destroy you. If you take the time and energy to work your way through it, it can turn you into a better version of yourself.
Motivation can be outsourced. Discipline cannot. Motivation is like the tide. It comes in and out. Discipline is doing the things you need to do regardless of how you feel.
Win the micro-battles, not the war, in one fell swoop. If you try to attack 10 bad habits overnight, you'll fail. Pick one for a week. Build momentum. Stack days. You win the war via the micro-battles.
If you don't think of yourself as a leader, you'll never step into a leadership void. You'll tell yourself you're not the person. Not qualified. Not capable.
Stop treating leadership like the DMV. You don't show up at the window and challenge the test with no preparation. You crawl, walk, run. You practice. Every interaction is either a micro-deposit or a micro-withdrawal of leadership capital.
Sustained high performers master the basics. They make no attempt to be flashy. They make no attempt to gain 50 yards at a time. They'll do one yard 50 times in a row. If they see a real opportunity with managed risk, they'll go big. Otherwise, one yard. Over and over.
Andy's champagne moment a year from now: being there with the people he loves. "Would you rather have all the things you think you want in life and enjoy them by yourself? Or be surrounded by people who truly love you for who you are? I'm taking the latter every time."
Reflection Questions
What are you allowing in your presence right now that contradicts the standard you say you hold? What's the cost of letting it continue?
If you drew the line down the legal pad today, what would be in your concern column that shouldn't be? Where is your energy going to things you cannot control?
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#633: General Stanley McChrystal - On Standard: Choices That Define a Life
Podcast Chapters
00:00 The Price of Becoming - Pre-Order Now! 
01:13 Meet Andy Stumpf 
02:45 "What You Allow in Your Presence Is Your Standard" 
04:30 What You Walk Past in Your Personal Life 
05:59 Why He Wanted to Be a Navy SEAL at 11 Years Old 
08:54 The Difference Between a SEAL and a Team Guy 
11:38 How to Hire Team Guys, Not SEALs 
16:34 The Story Behind Drownproof 
18:23 What Drownproofing Actually Is 
22:09 The Real Lesson Is Self-Control 
25:55 Getting Shot in Iraq 
30:38 Two Years of Rehab and the Return to Combat 
33:58 Learning to Be a SEAL from Dave Hall 
37:31 High Standards Are a Double-Edged Sword 
40:05 Post-Traumatic Growth, Not Just Post-Traumatic Stress 
42:45 Motivation Can Be Outsourced. Discipline Cannot. 
47:20 Win Small Battles, Not the War Overnight 
48:33 If You Don't See Yourself as a Leader, You Never Will 
51:29 How to Practice Leadership Every Day 
54:15 Getting Tricked Into Writing the Book 
55:48 The Joe Rogan Blurb on the Front Cover 
57:38 What the Best Leaders Have in Common 
59:03 The Champagne Question: Being With the People You Love 
01:03:53 EOPC

The Learning Leader Show with Ryan Hawk
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My Guest: Clark Lea is the head football coach at Vanderbilt University. He spent 14 years as an assistant coach, including three as defensive coordinator at Notre Dame, before returning to his alma mater in 2021 to inherit a program that had gone winless the year before. He's now the back-to-back SEC Coach of the Year and the architect of one of the great turnarounds in college football history. We recorded this conversation live at our 2026 Learning Leader Growth Summit in Nashville, surrounded by members of the Learning Leader Circle.
Key Learnings
Clark inherited a Vanderbilt program that went winless the year before. He says he probably screwed up 50% of his first year. The game is how quickly you can pivot.
Losing is a powerful teacher. It cleanses and purifies you in ways you don't want but need. You can blame other people, sink into self-pity, or ask: "What am I meant to be learning right now?"
Fast-forward 15 years. Look at this moment from a future place of breakthrough. What did you do now that allowed change to occur?
"What do I wanna be proud of in the attempt?" Letting go of expected outcomes is what allows you to refine and simplify the way you see the world.
Enter the building unguarded. The clearer you are about who you are and what you want, the more obvious it becomes who fits and who doesn't.
Different ball, same problems. Clark spends time learning from the Milwaukee Brewers, the Baltimore Ravens, and others. Different industry, same human challenges. Sometimes the different ball is the gift, because you walk in without preconceptions.
Knowledge is limiting. Questions illuminate. Once you know something, you stop pursuing it. The questions you ask are the first constraints you put on knowledge.
Get past the touchy-feely. Ask: "Tell me what's screwed up here." Problems are always there. Your job is to be willing to look for them.
Check the cabinets. Living in a 700-square-foot LA apartment with his wife, Clark would open the cabinets and find them swarming with roaches. The building was fumigated. Two months later, they were back. You can move the pots out and stop checking, or you can keep opening the cabinets. Leaders keep opening the cabinets.
Tell people what TO do, not what NOT to do. Rick Neuheisel's lesson. Stop coaching against the bad thing. Manifest what you want to have happen.
Hire bunker guys, not logo people. Logos are easy to change. Hire people who'll fight for you in the bunker when it's hard.
The Michigan Reset. Before his first game as Notre Dame defensive coordinator, Clark told the team's mental performance coach: "We're gonna be down 50 to nothing at halftime. BK's gonna fire me on the spot. Jerome Bettis and Rocket Ismail will be screaming at me in the tunnel." She asked, "Why don't you trust your players? You think this is all about you?"
Have more captains. Clark sits in a room each summer with around 25 players he identifies as leaders. If the people at the leadership table are good, the locker room will be good. The team votes. He draws the line wherever the vote naturally falls.
When you try to go opposite of what you're trying to avoid, you eventually become it. Clark spent his first years at Vanderbilt rejecting the program's past. Going opposite. Then he realized it was just attaching his identity to the very thing he was trying to escape. Now he plots toward the vision instead.
What got you here won't keep you here. As Clark has grown, the program has grown. Once he understood that, he could sit with a player and listen first, instead of looking to them for affirmation.
The mission is winning. Clark scrapped a beautiful, eloquent, unclear mission statement and replaced it with three words. Now every dollar spent, every coach hired, and every player retained is measured against the same lens.
Well-better-learned. Vanderbilt's after-action review for every game and every process. What did we do well? What do we need to do better? What did we learn?
On Alabama week, Clark's team had the best practice he's ever been a part of. His job each week isn't to tell the team the challenges. It's to give them the plan to win. At halftime against the number one team in the country, he kneeled the team down and said, "It's on a platter for you. Go take it." They beat Alabama. 
Stewarding 17-to-22-year-olds means helping them decouple their worth from outcomes. Clark cries in front of his team. His kids are around. His wife is there. His dad is at every practice. The players see a man. A human. A son.
"An asshole in a Nike Tech Fit is still an asshole." In the NIL era, Clark fights to keep the locker room from splitting into a million-dollar club, a $500K club, a $30K club, and a $0 club. What you drive doesn't make a man. NIL value doesn't make a man. The grounding is the work.
Reflection Questions
What are you holding too tightly right now? Whose job are you doing because you don't trust them to do it themselves?
Which cabinet have you stopped checking because you're tired of finding the same problem? 
Fast-forward 15 years. Looking back at this moment from a place of breakthrough, what are you meant to be learning right now that you've been avoiding?
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#281: George Raveling - 8 Decades of Wisdom, from Dr. MLK to Michael Jordan
#637: Tom Ryan - Chosen Suffering, Becoming Elite & Life & Leadership 
Podcast Chapters
00:00 The Price of Becoming - Pre-Order Now!
00:47 Welcome Back, Clark Lea
02:38 Taking Over a Winless Vanderbilt Program
04:18 What Losing Taught Clark About Hiring
07:52 The Three Things That Light Clark on Fire About Coaching
10:27 Different Ball, Same Problems: Learning From the Milwaukee Brewers
13:14 Knowledge Is Limiting. Questions Illuminate.
18:09 The Introvert Who Had to Learn to Lead the Room
20:13 Brian Kelly and the Bet on Clark Lea
23:19 Why Clark Has More Team Captains Than Anyone in College Football
28:58 The Transfer Portal Pivot and the Culture Reset
33:58 The Mission Is Winning
34:51 "If We Don't Have $3 Million by December, We Won't Have a Program"
37:26 Why Candice Lee Took a Bet on Him
39:53 Inside Alabama Week: The Best Practice He's Ever Been a Part Of
44:03 The Bye Week Reset: Penalties, Third Down, and the Ball
46:11 Beating the No. 1 Team in the Country
49:50 Replacing Diego Pavia's Locker Room Leadership
51:39 Decoupling Worth and Identity From Outcomes
56:27 Hiring Bunker Guys, Not Logo People
01:01:47 "An Asshole in a Nike Tech Fit Is Still an Asshole"
01:04:47 EOPC

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My Guest - Tina Seelig has spent 27 years at Stanford teaching some of the world's most ambitious people how to see and seize opportunities. She's a neuroscientist, the executive director of Knight Hennessy Scholars, and the author of 18 books. Her TED Talk on luck has been viewed over 3.4 million times. Her newest book is called What I Wish I Knew About Luck: A Crash Course on Turning Aspirations into Achievements.
Key Learnings
Tina's dad died at 99 and a half. Three weeks before his first great-grandbaby was born. He was still driving, going to three dinner parties a week, and talking to Tina every day. His curiosity was his superpower. He gave 66 lectures in his retirement community over 20 years, on topics ranging from nuclear weapons to climate change.
Train yourself to be a professional noticer. When Tina's dad walked his grandkids into a new room, he'd give them a minute, then say "Shut your eyes." How many doors? Windows? What color is the carpet?
Assume there's a million dollars in every room. It's up to you to find it. Opportunities are ubiquitous. You just have to look.
Take the headphones off. The most powerful things happen when you engage with strangers. Standing in line. On the plane. Walking through campus.
Tina sat next to a stranger named Mark on a plane. He was a publisher. He said no to her book proposal. She kept the relationship going. Years later, his editor approved the same proposal she had given Mark. Within two weeks, she had a contract.
Wear something that invites conversation. A logo. A backpack from a conference. A college baseball shirt. Give the world a hook to start with you.
Fortune is what happens to you. Luck requires action. Most people confuse the two and miss the chance to claim their agency.
"With my luck, it's gonna rain." Reframe it: "With OUR luck, it's gonna be a beautiful sunny day." The reframe changes what you see. 
Luck seldom sails solo. Most luck comes through other people. Cultivating meaningful relationships is the most underrated lucky behavior.
You don't get a job. You get the keys to the building. The visible work isn't what gets you ahead. The invisible work is.
Between stimulus and response is a choice. (Viktor Frankl) Within the constraints of fortune, agency is everything.
"Tina, you think like a scientist." One sentence from a professor changed Tina's life. Leaders, know the weight of your words.
Twenty years later, Tina wrote that professor a thank-you note. Twenty years after that, his granddaughter wrote back. They had read part of Tina's letter at his funeral.
When a student made a bad decision, Tina's first instinct was to punish. She paused. Said, "Help me understand what happened." The whole community learned what empathy and humility look like in leadership.
Unresolved conflict sucks the energy out of your day. Resolve it. You become taller, lighter, more open to lucky things.
Oliver Greenwald sent Tina a list of 10 ways he could help her with her book. Nothing on the list was exactly what she wanted. She hired him anyway, because of the initiative.
Build the sail to catch the wind.
Build the ship. Your internal work. Values. Story. Goals.
Recruit the crew. The people in your world.
Hoist the sail. What you do every single day.
Your core values are the keel of your ship. Without them, the first strong wind capsizes you.
Keep a failure resume. Document what didn't work and what you'll do differently. Don't perseverate. Move on.
"It's all good in the end. If it's not good, it's not the end." We're always in the middle of the story.
Tina sends thank-you notes every single day. Five or ten minutes. Three or four sentences. Closes the loop. Builds the relationship.
Don't end the dinner without making the next date. Most people drop the ball. Get it on the calendar before you leave.
The instant you think something positive about someone, tell them. Be specific. Text. Email. Call. The instant.
Tina's champagne moment: her newborn granddaughter at one year old. She just learned to turn over and looks so proud of herself.
Reflection Questions
What's on your failure resume right now that you haven't yet extracted the lesson from? Are you perseverating, or moving on?
Whose thank-you note are you going to send today? Specific, genuine, unprompted. 
Where in your life are you waiting for fortune and calling it bad luck? What is the action you've been avoiding because it requires you to put yourself out there?
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Episode Chapters
00:00 The Price of Becoming - Pre-Order Now! 
01:09 Meet Tina Seelig 
02:39 Tina's Dad: A Life of Curiosity at 99 and a Half 
05:14 Becoming a Professional Noticer 
06:54 The Stranger on the Plane Who Became Her Publisher 
11:03 Wear Something That Invites a Conversation 
14:11 Fortune vs. Luck: The Difference Most People Miss 
16:08 The "With Our Luck" Reframe 
21:09 Take the Earbuds Off and Get Out the Door 
23:21 You Don't Get a Job, You Get the Keys to the Building 
27:58 The Sentence That Changed Tina's Life 
28:49 The Thank-You Note Read at a Funeral 
31:52 The Student Who Made a Bad Decision 
34:03 Oliver Greenwald and the List of Ten Ways to Help 
37:04 The Sail Metaphor: How to Catch the Winds of Luck 
39:41 What to Tell the Cynic Who Says "I'm Unlucky" 
43:01 Core Values: The Keel of Your Ship 
45:05 Why You Should Keep a Failure Resume 
47:15 Send a Thank-You Note Every Single Day 
52:06 The Champagne Question: Her Granddaughter at One 
53:36 EOPC