The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

It’s easy to listen to podcasts, read posts on socials, and consume information… but none of that automatically turns you into the credible, strategic, protective parent you need to be in a post-separation, coercive-control landscape.In this episode, Danielle explores the critical difference between knowing and doing, and why true protective capacity comes from integration, practice, documentation, and nervous system leadership - not passive consuming.If you’ve ever felt informed but still overwhelmed, this episode will help you understand why - and show you the pathway toward real transformation.You’ll learn:• Why awareness is not the same as capacity• Why your nervous system leads under pressure, not your knowledge• What integration looks like in day-to-day parenting• Why YOU must become the expert in your own caseMentioned in this episode:The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ - $300 off for Black Friday at the time of recording - our biggest discount of the year.Join before December 12  2025 to also receive: Complimentary access to AI Danielle until May 2026.AI Danielle supports you step-by-step with pattern analysis, communication scripts, documentation guidance, and nervous system tools - helping you integrate the Blueprint in real time.This AI access will not be publicly available until mid-2026.Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Most parents assume that family law is financially exhausting because lawyers and court processes are inherently expensive.  But that's not the full story.Legal fees explode when parents approach their matter reactively instead of strategically.In this powerful episode, Danielle breaks down the core drivers of legal cost blowouts - emotional emails, unclear communication, poorly structured evidence, last-minute affidavits, crisis thinking, and relying on lawyers to interpret chaos rather than providing them with clean, focused instructions.You’ll learn how strategic thinking, regulated communication, pattern-based evidence tracking, and the Blueprint methodology can dramatically reduce lawyer hours, save thousands of dollars, and strengthen the credibility of your case.This episode empowers you to understand that you need more than just deep pockets - you need preparation, clarity, and self-leadership.Key Takeaways:• Why emotional, reactive emails can be one of the most expensive parts of family law• Why reactive problem-solving drains both money and stamina• The difference between survival mode and strategy mode• What it means to become the expert in your own case• Why strategy protects both finances and outcomesFor parents ready to level-up:Right now, during the Black Friday window:- The Blueprint is $300 off - our biggest discount ever- Join before December 12 to receive:- Complimentary access to AI Danielle until May 2026AI Danielle supports you step-by-step with patterned analysis, communication scripts, documentation guidance, and nervous system tools - helping you integrate the Blueprint in real time.This AI access will not be publicly available until mid-2026.Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Is 50/50 shared care or equal shared parental responsibility (decision making) automatic in Australia? No - but it is highly likely if protective parents consent to it out of exhaustion.This episode breaks down the biggest myth in post-separation parenting: that courts routinely “order” equal parenting time. In reality, most 50/50 outcomes occur because parents become overwhelmed, under-supported and pressured to agree long before trial.Danielle explains what factors do influence equal-time outcomes, why stamina matters more than conflict, and why capacity-building is essential if you want to hold the line without collapsing halfway.What you’ll learn:The difference between ordered vs consented "50/50"Why most equal-time outcomes arise from exhaustion, not genuine meritRisk & safety conditions that make equal-time less appropriateWhy protective parents need strategy, not survivalHow The Blueprint helps protective parents to build the capacity required to keep goingBLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

This episode is a heartfelt message to the parents who have joined The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ or invested in coaching - parents who have chosen courage over comfort, strategy over survival, and capacity over chaos.Danielle speaks directly to those who made the decision to invest not only money, but time, energy, emotional labour and their one precious window to protect their children in a post-separation landscape.In a world where people spend without hesitation on coffee, handbags and other dopamine-fuelled purchases - you chose the unglamorous, diligent, deeply protective path. You chose to learn, to practice, to document, to regulate, to show up for your children now, while it matters most.This episode honours you, sees you, and celebrates you.Because you are the cycle-breakers.The advocates.The leaders.What Danielle wants listeners to take away:Validation that choosing strategy is brave and rareRecognition for the invisible work protective parents do dailyPermission to take pride in the investment they’ve madeEncouragement to keep going when the process is heavyA reminder that this work changes outcomes long-termReinforcement that The Blueprint is not a luxury - it’s a necessity for protective parentsConfidence that their children will one day understand their commitmentBLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Do Final Orders mean you're finally safe? Does completing a behaviour change program guarantee transformation? This episode exposes the dangerous myths that leave children unprotected.If you've been told "he's done the program, so things are safe now" or "you have Final Orders, so everything should be fine" – this episode is essential listening.Danielle Black breaks down the research on why:• Behaviour change programs show mixed evidence for sustained change in coercive control patterns• Online parenting courses cannot measure relational accountability• Final Orders prioritise system closure over ongoing child safety• Calendar-based contact progression ignores children's actual developmental needs• The family law system systematically mislabels coercive control as "high conflict"TOPICS COVERED:✓ Why completion certificates don't equal transformation✓ The online course problem and lack of accountability✓ How the Australian family law system prioritises "finality" over safety✓ What Final Orders DON'T solve (spoiler: most of the ongoing control)✓ Life after Final Orders - the reality no one prepares you for✓ Why capacity building and radical acceptance are lifelong tools, not just for during litigation✓ The hard truth: no one is coming to save you (and why that's actually empowering)RESEARCH REFERENCED: Dr Julie Blake (University of Queensland - physiological impacts on children), ANROWS (Australian research on post-separation abuse), Australian Law Reform Commission Family Law Review, Professor Jennifer McIntosh (child development and trauma recovery), AIFS (Australian Institute of Family Studies)PERFECT FOR:Protective parents navigating Australian family law, parents with Final Orders still experiencing control, anyone told to "just co-parent," parents being pressured to accept behaviour change certificates as proof of safety, professionals working with separated families.BLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.