The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

• 84. How likely is equal shared parenting time & decision-making?

  Is 50/50 shared care or equal shared parental responsibility (decision making) automatic in Australia? No - but it is highly likely if protective parents consent to it out of exhaustion.This episode breaks down the biggest myth in post-separation parenting: that courts routinely “order” equal parenting time. In reality, most 50/50 outcomes occur because parents become overwhelmed, under-supported and pressured to agree long before trial.Danielle explains what factors do influence equal-time outcomes, why stamina matters more than conflict, and why capacity-building is essential if you want to hold the line without collapsing halfway.What you’ll learn:The difference between ordered vs consented "50/50"Why most equal-time outcomes arise from exhaustion, not genuine meritRisk & safety conditions that make equal-time less appropriateWhy protective parents need strategy, not survivalHow The Blueprint helps protective parents to build the capacity required to keep goingBLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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• 83. To the parents who have invested in themselves - this episode is for you

  This episode is a heartfelt message to the parents who have joined The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ or invested in coaching - parents who have chosen courage over comfort, strategy over survival, and capacity over chaos.Danielle speaks directly to those who made the decision to invest not only money, but time, energy, emotional labour and their one precious window to protect their children in a post-separation landscape.In a world where people spend without hesitation on coffee, handbags and other dopamine-fuelled purchases - you chose the unglamorous, diligent, deeply protective path. You chose to learn, to practice, to document, to regulate, to show up for your children now, while it matters most.This episode honours you, sees you, and celebrates you.Because you are the cycle-breakers.The advocates.The leaders.What Danielle wants listeners to take away:Validation that choosing strategy is brave and rareRecognition for the invisible work protective parents do dailyPermission to take pride in the investment they’ve madeEncouragement to keep going when the process is heavyA reminder that this work changes outcomes long-termReinforcement that The Blueprint is not a luxury - it’s a necessity for protective parentsConfidence that their children will one day understand their commitmentBLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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• 82. When programs, certificates and parenting orders don't equal safety

  Do Final Orders mean you're finally safe? Does completing a behaviour change program guarantee transformation? This episode exposes the dangerous myths that leave children unprotected.If you've been told "he's done the program, so things are safe now" or "you have Final Orders, so everything should be fine" – this episode is essential listening.Danielle Black breaks down the research on why:• Behaviour change programs show mixed evidence for sustained change in coercive control patterns• Online parenting courses cannot measure relational accountability• Final Orders prioritise system closure over ongoing child safety• Calendar-based contact progression ignores children's actual developmental needs• The family law system systematically mislabels coercive control as "high conflict"TOPICS COVERED:✓ Why completion certificates don't equal transformation✓ The online course problem and lack of accountability✓ How the Australian family law system prioritises "finality" over safety✓ What Final Orders DON'T solve (spoiler: most of the ongoing control)✓ Life after Final Orders - the reality no one prepares you for✓ Why capacity building and radical acceptance are lifelong tools, not just for during litigation✓ The hard truth: no one is coming to save you (and why that's actually empowering)RESEARCH REFERENCED: Dr Julie Blake (University of Queensland - physiological impacts on children), ANROWS (Australian research on post-separation abuse), Australian Law Reform Commission Family Law Review, Professor Jennifer McIntosh (child development and trauma recovery), AIFS (Australian Institute of Family Studies)PERFECT FOR:Protective parents navigating Australian family law, parents with Final Orders still experiencing control, anyone told to "just co-parent," parents being pressured to accept behaviour change certificates as proof of safety, professionals working with separated families.BLACK FRIDAY: Until midnight December 12 -  $300 off The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ + complimentary AI Danielle access. Making evidence-based protective parenting knowledge accessible to more Australian families. Visit danielleblackcoaching.com.auAbout Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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• 81. Stop googling 'narcissists' - What Australian protective parents REALLY need to understand

  If you’ve ever found yourself deep in Google searches trying to work out whether your ex is a covert narcissist, a malignant narcissist, or something in between… this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:Understanding “narcissism” won’t help you protect your children.Understanding coercive control will.In this episode, Danielle Black explains why protective parents get stuck in the narcissism rabbit hole - and how it can keep them overwhelmed, confused, and focused on the wrong problem.You’ll learn:Why terms like “narcissist,” “covert,” “grey rock,” and “yellow rock” can keep you stuck, and reactive, instead of strategicWhy the family law system doesn’t care about personality labels - and what it does care aboutThe key differences between narcissistic traits and pattern-based coercive controlWhy identifying patterns of behaviour matters far more than diagnosing the personWhat you should be tracking insteadHow to shift from chaos → clarity, and from labels → evidenceIf you’re exhausted from trying to decode their personality, stop.The problem isn’t who they are - it’s what they do, the pattern, and the harm it causes your children.This episode gives you the lens professionals actually respond to - and the one that puts you back in your power.If you’re feeling overwhelmed right now - good. It means your instincts are working.But instinct isn’t enough if you're navigating the court system with a controlling co-parent. You need structure, strategy, and language.That’s what the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint gives you.And starting Friday 28 November 2025, you can get:$300 off4 months of AI Danielle to support you 24/7Take advantage of this special offer.Your future self will thank you.More information about the blueprint: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1About Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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• 80. Understanding coercive control (Part 2): The 7 patterns directed at children

  If Part 1 helped you understand the patterned aspect of coercive control, this episode helps you finally see the harm.In Part 2 of this series, Danielle Black breaks down the 7 child-directed patterns of coercive control - the tactics most family law professionals completely overlook, and the ones that cause the deepest developmental harm to children.Drawing on lived experience, research, and hundreds of real cases, Danielle explains:The 7 ways coercive control targets children, not just the other parentHow to recognise patterns like conditional love, triangulation, undermining authority, isolation, fear-based compliance, parentification, and gaslightingHow to document these patterns with clarity, accuracy, and strategyWhat professionals need to see (and why they don’t connect the dots on their own)How to speak the “language” of the family law system so your concerns cannot be dismissed as conflictIf you’ve ever felt like something is “off” in the way your ex parents - but struggled to explain it - this episode gives you the words, the lens, and the clarity you’ve been missing.This is the episode that changes how you see everything.If you’re feeling overwhelmed right now - good. It means your instincts are working.But instinct isn’t enough if you're navigating the court system with a controlling co-parent. You need structure, strategy, and language.That’s what the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint gives you.And starting Friday 28 November 2025, you can get:$300 off4 months of AI Danielle to support you 24/7Take advantage of this special offer.Your future self will thank you.More information about the blueprint: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1About Danielle Black: Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing. Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au. This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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