The Divorce Revolution

When a coaching session ends and you're left wondering, "Did I actually help her?"—this episode is for you.
 
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm breaking down why coaching sessions sometimes feel flat (even when nothing technically went "wrong") and what's really happening beneath the surface when that doubt creeps in. I share the most common reasons sessions stall, what not to do when that happens, and how to confidently lead the conversation so you don't leave second-guessing yourself. We're talking about coaching leadership, structure, and how to re-anchor a session in real time—without forcing emotion, over-talking, or jumping into advice.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Register to #CoachU, a FREE bootcamp for divorced moms who want to lead coaching sessions with confidence, clarity, and structure without guessing, freezing, or overstepping: https://products.ambershaw.com/coachu-organic-jan2026
Listen to Episode 449. The Difference Between a Coaching Conversation and a Chat Between Friends: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/449-the-difference-between-a-coaching-conversation/id1577282350?i=1000745718161
 
What I Discuss:
02:41 Why "flat" sessions are one of the most common coaching fears
03:22 What's actually happening when a session feels stuck
03:53 The three main reasons coaching conversations lose momentum
06:13 What not to do when you feel a session going off the rails
07:38 How to pause, reset, and guide the conversation forward
09:03 Why leadership—not intensity—is the key to powerful coaching
11:29 How to re-anchor a session without rescuing or over-explaining
 
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com

If your coaching sessions feel supportive but you're not sure they're actually moving the needle, this episode will clear things up fast.
 
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm breaking down one of the biggest things that trips new coaches up: confusing a coaching conversation with a chat between friends. I talk about why this happens, how it affects your confidence, and what actually separates powerful coaching from well-meaning advice. We'll also get into the two fear buckets I see come up all the time for coaches, and why intentional leadership—not fixing or rescuing—is what creates real client transformation.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Register to #CoachU, a FREE bootcamp for divorced moms who want to lead coaching sessions with confidence, clarity, and structure without guessing, freezing, or overstepping: https://products.ambershaw.com/coachu-organic-jan2026
The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification
Listen to Episode 448. Why "Just Be Yourself" Is Terrible Advice for New Coaches: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/448-why-just-be-yourself-is-terrible-advice-for-new-coaches/id1577282350?i=1000745266037
Listen to Episode 447. What Coaching Sessions Actually Look Like (It's Simpler Than You Think): https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/447-what-coaching-sessions-actually-look-like-its-simpler/id1577282350?i=1000744782104
 
What I Discuss:
02:57 The two main fear buckets that show up for coaches and how they quietly impact your sessions
04:23 The real difference between coaching and giving advice (and why it matters)
11:08 What intentional leadership actually looks like inside a coaching session
18:29 Final thoughts on why coaching isn't about fixing, rescuing, or overperforming
 
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com

Being told to "just be yourself" sounds supportive… until you're sitting in a live coaching session wondering what to say next and whether you're even helping the person in front of you.
 
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down why "just be yourself" is actually some of the most misleading advice new coaches receive—and how it can quietly create more anxiety, overthinking, and imposter syndrome than confidence.
 
If you've been winging your sessions, second-guessing yourself afterward, or wondering if you're cut out for coaching at all, then this episode is for you.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Register to #CoachU, a FREE bootcamp for divorced moms who want to lead coaching sessions with confidence, clarity, and structure without guessing, freezing, or overstepping: https://products.ambershaw.com/coachu-organic-jan2026
Listen to Episode 446. "Am I Even Helping My Clients?" Here's How to Tell: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/446-am-i-even-helping-my-clients-heres-how-to-tell/id1577282350?i=1000744263901
Listen to Episode 447. What Coaching Sessions Actually Look Like (It's Simpler Than You Think): https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/447-what-coaching-sessions-actually-look-like-its-simpler/id1577282350?i=1000744782104
 
What I Discuss:
02:47 Why "just be yourself" sounds supportive but often creates more confusion
04:23 How lack of structure leads to overthinking and post-session spirals
11:06 What actually builds confidence inside a coaching session
13:47 How competence (not vibes) is what calms your nervous system as a coach
 
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com

Coaching can feel intimidating—not because it's complicated, but because no one really explains what actually happens in a session.
 
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm pulling back the curtain on what coaching sessions really look like and why they're far less intimidating than most new coaches imagine. We talk about the fear that comes up when you can't hide behind a screen, why that fear doesn't mean you're unqualified, and how having a simple, repeatable flow can completely change how confident you feel in the room. I also walk you through the three core phases of a coaching session, what your role actually is (and isn't), and how to stay in integrity without overstepping into therapy or advice-giving.
 
If you've been curious about coaching but feel stuck because you don't know what to say, how to lead, or how not to freeze in the moment, then this episode is for you.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Register to #CoachU, a FREE bootcamp for divorced moms who want to lead coaching sessions with confidence, clarity, and structure without guessing, freezing, or overstepping: https://products.ambershaw.com/coachu-organic-jan2026
The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification
Listen to Episode 446. "Am I Even Helping My Clients?" Here's How to Tell: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/446-am-i-even-helping-my-clients-heres-how-to-tell/id1577282350?i=1000744263901
Listen to Episode 439. How to Ask Powerful Coaching Questions That Lead to Real Client Transformations (Even If You Feel Inexperienced): https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/439-how-to-ask-powerful-coaching-questions-that-lead/id1577282350?i=1000741330260
Listen to Episode 435. How to Handle Breakdowns in a Coaching Session (And Turn Them Into Breakthroughs): https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/435-how-to-handle-breakdowns-in-a-coaching-session/id1577282350?i=1000739098630
 
What I Discuss:
02:31 Why fear around live coaching sessions is so common and why it actually means you care
04:51 Normalizing the fear of "being on the hook" in real sessions
07:04 The simple flow most confident coaching sessions follow
09:15 The three main phases of a coaching session (without scripts or pressure)
13:00 How to stay in integrity and avoid overstepping your role
 
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com

Have you ever walked away from a coaching session wondering if you actually helped…or if you just had a "nice conversation"?
 
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm breaking down one of the most common fears I hear from new (and even experienced) coaches: How do I know if my coaching is actually working? We're moving out of fear and into evidence, and I'm sharing practical, real-life ways to recognize client progress without overcomplicating it or turning coaching into a data-tracking nightmare.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Register to #CoachU, a FREE bootcamp for divorced moms who want to lead coaching sessions with confidence, clarity, and structure without guessing, freezing, or overstepping: https://products.ambershaw.com/coachu-organic-jan2026
 
What I Discuss:
02:57 Why so many coaches secretly fear they're not actually helping their clients
03:51 How to tell if your coaching is working (without overthinking it or needing a spreadsheet)
05:43 The three subtle but powerful shifts that signal real client transformation
09:19 Simple ways to track progress that don't turn coaching into therapy or data collection
11:39 Why awareness alone can be a massive win for your clients
 
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com