434. The Subtle Red Flags Divorced Women Miss When Dating Again with Daniel Ratner
Have you ever dated someone who felt amazing in the beginning only to realize later you ignored red flags that were right in front of you? It happens to so many women—especially after divorce—because we're craving connection, safety, and a fresh start. But some of the biggest red flags aren't loud or obvious. They're subtle. Quiet. And they sneak up on you when your guard is down. In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by relationship coach and author Daniel Ratner for one of the realest conversations we've had on dating after divorce. We dig into why chemistry can mislead you, how unhealthy patterns repeat themselves, and the sneaky signs of "emotional vampires" who drain your energy long before you realize what's happening. Daniel also breaks down the difference between emotional safety and infatuation, how to raise your standards without losing hope, and why self-esteem is the invisible filter determining who you attract. If you've been dating after divorce and keep finding yourself giving more than you get—or getting stuck in the same patterns—this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned: Check out Daniel's books: https://coachratner.com/ The Coach Daniel Ratner Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-coach-daniel-ratner-podcast/id1595629326 The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification Join the waitlist for ReNewU: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket What We Discuss: 01:40 The emotional boundaries most women overlook 04:12 How to redefine love and what you actually want in a relationship 07:04 The real challenges of dating again in your 40s and 50s 12:26 How self-esteem shapes the partners you attract 14:26 Spotting emotional vampires before they drain your energy 19:15 The messy truth about parenting and partnership dynamics 20:28 Raising teens while trying to date (and stay sane) 23:46 Red flags that signal someone is toxic (and how to steer clear) 25:37 How to rebuild yourself after divorce without losing hope 34:51 Why self-value is the foundation of every healthy relationship 36:32 Where to find more support, resources, and guidance Find more from Daniel Ratner: Website: http://www.CoachRatner.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachratnerpodcast/ X: https://x.com/dan613ratner?s=21 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChDspvEbSIWDSo9X5WoSghw TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecoachratnerpodcast/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-ratner-45b4678a/ Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
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433. 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Coach (Especially as a Divorced Mom)
Have you ever looked at other coaches online and thought, "They've got it all figured out…why don't I?" I used to think the exact same thing. But the truth is, when I first started my coaching business, I was a 40-year-old divorced mom with zero social media experience, massive imposter syndrome, and absolutely no idea what I was doing. And yet, it changed my life. In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm sharing the 5 biggest lessons I wish I had known before becoming a coach. If you've been dreaming of starting your coaching business but fear, self-doubt, or perfectionism keeps getting in the way, then this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned: The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification Join the waitlist for ReNewU: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist What I Discuss: 01:58 The messy, imperfect truth about how I actually started 03:50 Why clarity comes after you take action—not before 05:28 The real source of confidence (it's not mindset hype) 07:10 Why you don't need a perfect life to help someone 09:02 How vulnerability makes you a stronger, more relatable coach 10:45 Your story is your superpower—no matter your niche 12:40 Why mentorship and structure matter more than hustle 17:15 Final lessons and encouragement if you're scared to start Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
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432. The Estate Planning Mistakes Divorced Moms Don't Know They're Making with Lauren Klein
Ever wondered what actually happens to your assets—or your kids—if something happens to you after divorce? Most divorced moms assume everything will "just go where it's supposed to," but the truth is estate planning is one of the most important (and most overlooked) parts of protecting your future. In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm sitting down with attorney and wealth expert Lauren Klein to break down the mistakes divorced women don't even realize they're making when it comes to wills, trusts, guardianship, probate, prenups, and financial protection. Lauren explains what really happens if you don't update your estate plan, how to make sure your kids are protected, and what steps you should take right now to set up the future you want. If you've been divorced and have no idea where to start with protecting your money, your kids, or your future, then this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned: Flourish Law Group: https://flourishlawgroup.com/ The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification Join the waitlist for ReNewU: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/ What We Discuss: 00:22 What divorced moms need to know about estate planning 05:58 Breaking down wills, trusts, probate + what really happens without a plan 15:34 Why inherited assets often get lost in divorce (and how to protect your kids) 18:47 What "reparenting your inner child" has to do with financial confidence 24:53 Practical examples of what happens when minor kids inherit without a plan 25:33 How to choose the right guardian or trustee (when your ex isn't an option) 26:11 What to consider if your parents are aging or unable to serve 27:37 How to make sure your kids' inheritance stays protected 30:31 What to look for in a trust company (and why it matters) 34:58 Prenups + estate planning — what divorced moms need to know 38:24 First steps to take when you feel overwhelmed by finances 42:13 Daily practices Lauren uses to avoid burnout and stay grounded Find more from Lauren Klein: Website: https://www.laurenalexisklein.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lawyerlaurenklein/ Podcast: https://www.laurenalexisklein.com/podcast/ Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
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431. How to Build Proof You're Ready to Coach (Even Before You're Certified)
What if the reason you don't feel ready to coach is because you haven't built proof that you are? In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm talking to the woman who knows she wants to be a coach but keeps getting stuck in self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or the pressure to feel "legit" before she ever works with a client. I'm sharing exactly how to start building confidence and momentum now—even if you're not certified yet or haven't landed a paying client. You'll walk away with 3 simple but powerful ways to collect real proof that you're ready, what kind of practice actually moves the needle, and why showing up messy is often the fastest path to feeling confident and credible as a coach. If you've been waiting for a sign that you're ready to get started, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned: The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification What I Discuss: 00:27 Early coaching doubts and how to move through them 02:04 Why confidence comes from doing the work (not waiting to feel "ready") 08:16 How to start gathering testimonials even when you're just beginning 10:37 Simple ways to track your growth so you can actually see your progress 14:40 This week's challenge + some final encouragement for you Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
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430. What Happens When the Divorce Lawyer Becomes the Client with Stacy D. Phillips
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Stacy D. Phillips—celebrity divorce lawyer, author, and podcast host—to talk about what really changes when the lawyer becomes the client. Stacy shares openly about her two divorces, including one from an alcoholic partner, and how those experiences transformed not only her personal life, but how she practices law. We unpack everything from how addiction can silently warp a relationship, to why prenups matter more than you think, and the emotional cost of carrying everything on your own. Resources Mentioned: Divorce: It's All About Control: https://www.stacydphillipsesq.com/my-book The Confident Coach Certification Waitlist is the ONLY certification specifically for divorced moms who want overcome imposter syndrome and finally feel legit: https://products.ambershaw.com/certification Join the waitlist for ReNewU: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket What We Discuss: 01:34 How going through divorce changed how Stacy practices law 02:43 The hard truths about our legal system (and what needs to change) 04:54 Why Stacy decided to stop playing small and start living unapologetically 06:40 The kind of support divorced women actually need 10:54 What healing really looks like when you're rebuilding your life 19:28 Getting back into relationships and why therapy matters 23:37 How to stay grounded when emotions and legal stuff collide 25:59 Why every woman should be talking about prenups (yes, really) 28:09 Letting go of control and learning to trust yourself again 30:55 The biggest lessons divorce taught us both 35:20 How to surround yourself with strong women who get it 39:33 Masculine vs. feminine energy—finding your balance Find more from Stacy D. Phillips: Website: https://www.stacydphillipsesq.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stacydphillipsesq/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacydphillips Stacy D. Phillips Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4o0ZPJpeUiM4oO3XyQmcii Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com
You're divorced. Now let's make your next chapter your best one.
Welcome to The Divorce Revolution with your host, Amber Shaw—THE business coach for divorced women who's been exactly where you are. After my own divorce, I was lost, broke, and had no idea what came next. But instead of letting my circumstances define me, I turned my own post-divorce journey into a path of financial freedom and reinvention. Now, I'm here to help you do the same.
This podcast is for moms who are ready to turn "moving on" into moving UP. Divorce isn't the end—it's your launchpad. Whether you're rediscovering who you are, taking control of your money, or even exploring how to start an online coaching business, this space is here to help you build a life that's fully yours.
Each episode dives into mindset, money, relationships, co-parenting, identity, personal power, and building financial independence—because this isn't just about starting over, it's about leveling all the way up.
If you're ready to reclaim your life, create financial independence, and step into your most powerful chapter yet—welcome to the revolution. Let's do this.
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